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Originally Posted by marilynk 
2) the kids have been miserable on the weekends w/ the father (they are 10 and 12). He lives in a rinky-dinky, tiny apartment and he's not exactly stellar "daddy" material anyway. So, I talked to the boys and told them that the choice was theres. They could see their dad anytime they wanted, however if they didn't want to spend weekends with him, I was not going to make them. They chose not to. X huffed and puffed and threatened to have the police come and force the children into his vehicle for his visitation. I reminded him that the parenting plan(that he signed/agreed to) set forth that overnight visits were at my discretion, and that I had primary custody. Should I force the kids to spend time w/ their father?
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I would encourage both your Ex and the kids (in as positive of a way as you can) to spend hours together instead of days. A few hours of more frequent quality time, may be better for them all than two whole weekends a month. Try to sell your Ex on picking them up at least once a week for a few hours to
actively spend time with them. Whether taking them out to do something or going back to his apt. for a game night or anything where he's involved with them. Maybe you can convince him that it will be easier on him (shorter time period, less frustration, less yelling) and that it will help build his relationship with his kids. If he can keep those visits short, fun and frequent they may start to see going with dad as a positive thing.