My husband and I are on the opposite side of the "you can choose if you want to see your dad". It has been horrible for us. She has said no to come over when we already drove over an hour to get her, her mom lets her choose. This has turned her into a child that gets to run the family. it is very sad and she has chosen not to come over to our house because it is boring because we always want to go and do things, but we don't have other kids for her to play with. She hasn't come over in over 3 months.

don't let your kids run the show. it might not be happy for you later.

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-Kristi