All good and valid points....
I suggested to X tonite (he did show for about an hour for the party) that perhaps ONE night a weekend was a place to start. Suggested that perhaps that was all that ALL of them could handle of togetherness. I *think* I suggested it diplomatically, rationally and calmly. He *seemed* to agree and understand.
I want the kids to WANT to spend time w/ their father, just like I want him to WANT to be a daddy. I can't make him a "good" daddy-and maybe ONE night is all he can be a "good" daddy for. And, that would be better than NO daddy...

To further complicate an already tense situation--EX is being laid off. Next Friday is his last day w/ his employer. So, I'm worried about all that comes w/ that. It's been a rough couple of weeks at work....I really have been crabby/cranky. I know this. I am trying hard to squelch the urge to throttle a couple of people in my life! LOL

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