Why is it?
Posted 09-22-2007 at 11:47 PM by queenofcoupons
That there are times that your kids seem so frustrating and then others that they shock the socks off of you??
A tad bit of background... when my daughter was 9 yrs old and about to enter 4th grade when her best friend was killed in a car accident. It was horrific, she was the only one killed in the accident and left behind a mother and 3 brothers. My daughter was simply devastated.. and school started only one week later (we had also moved over the summer and she had a new school to go too). That is alot to have to deal with all at once. She has dealt with it and we still quite often see the mother of this child (she is a close friend of mine). At time my daughter can be a big PIA... sorry if that offends you, but she can. She is almost 15 going on 24... She has a strong dislike for her brother, who adores the air she exhales, and is a 'gem in her grandmothers eye', can backtalk and talk smack with the best of them but yet can be a sweet kid.
I am sitting in my office, better known as the bathroom (even now that they are older they want to have indept convos when I am pepeing).. and in slides a piece of paper under the door. Usually it is a 'can xxx sleep over' or something like that.. but this time on this piece of paper is a letter of sorts. It seems in my daughters 9th grade class they were to write a letter about an event in their lives that changed how they lived or behaved. My daughter wrote about her best friend dying. It was so touching that I was glad I was sitting on the edge of the tub with tissue handy. I was also able to compose myself before I had to face her. I hadn't realized how much this still effected her..She still remembers her friends birthday and the day she died. I tell you this letter was so touching and moving I thought I was going to cry for hours. Where is that sweet girl? I came out of the bathroom/laundry room and gave her a hug. Because see.. if circumstances not changed at the last minute my two children would have been in that van and they might not have buckled up for the quick ride to the store down the street. I could be visiting my children in a graveyard instead of yelling at them to clean their rooms. Because of one 'quick' ride to the store and another careless driver my friend has to spend her daughters birthday at the graveyard. I guess I hadn't realized how much this effected my daughter, even to this day. The graveyard where she is buried is right down the street and every now and then as we pass it I will ask her if she wants to go in... she always responds with a muted 'no'. So I haven't pushed the issue with her..
So momma's and daddies everywhere.. hug your children, because even when they are big huge PIA's at least they are here.
Thank you for reading this.
I wanted to add.. my laundry room is also in my bathroom and I was sorting laundry when she slid the note in...
I wanted to post the letter she wrote... names are now xxx's.. This is off my daughters myspace and I haven't corrected it or added anything to it other than xxx out the name of her school and the girls name.
Every time your birthday comes around
I just want to sit in my room and cry
Because the painful memories
of the day you left this eath
Will forever be in my mind
and the fact that I never said goodbye
tears my up inside
You were nine years old
with a whole life ahead of you
but one stupid mistake
got you killed.
I could count on you for everything
we got along so well we could pass
as sisters
No one will ever know how much
you meant to me
The day your funeral came around
was the hardest thing i have ever
had to go through
Seeing you in your casket almost
killed me
My best friend had died and I felt
like I was alone in the world
Five years have passed by now and I cant
help but wondering what it would
be like if you were still here
Would we still be best friends
or distant enemies.
I'll never get the chance to know
They said you weren't wearing your
seat belt and the force of the impact
of the car accident broke your neck
From what I heard,you flew out of
the car
You were on life support with no hope
of survival
I will never forget when I heard
you were in a car accident
I found out later that you were dead
We had plans of attending middle
school at xxxxxxxx school together
I can't help but think if plans had
gone through,I would have been in
that car with you,I could've told you
to put on your seat belt
And then maybe you would still be here
I can't wait untill I see you in heaven
I know you are an angel looking over me
I would give anything for you to
still be here or to atleast see
you again
I love you so much girl
I will never forget you
Rest In Peace xxxxxxxxxxx <3
July 29,2002
♥;
A tad bit of background... when my daughter was 9 yrs old and about to enter 4th grade when her best friend was killed in a car accident. It was horrific, she was the only one killed in the accident and left behind a mother and 3 brothers. My daughter was simply devastated.. and school started only one week later (we had also moved over the summer and she had a new school to go too). That is alot to have to deal with all at once. She has dealt with it and we still quite often see the mother of this child (she is a close friend of mine). At time my daughter can be a big PIA... sorry if that offends you, but she can. She is almost 15 going on 24... She has a strong dislike for her brother, who adores the air she exhales, and is a 'gem in her grandmothers eye', can backtalk and talk smack with the best of them but yet can be a sweet kid.
I am sitting in my office, better known as the bathroom (even now that they are older they want to have indept convos when I am pepeing).. and in slides a piece of paper under the door. Usually it is a 'can xxx sleep over' or something like that.. but this time on this piece of paper is a letter of sorts. It seems in my daughters 9th grade class they were to write a letter about an event in their lives that changed how they lived or behaved. My daughter wrote about her best friend dying. It was so touching that I was glad I was sitting on the edge of the tub with tissue handy. I was also able to compose myself before I had to face her. I hadn't realized how much this still effected her..She still remembers her friends birthday and the day she died. I tell you this letter was so touching and moving I thought I was going to cry for hours. Where is that sweet girl? I came out of the bathroom/laundry room and gave her a hug. Because see.. if circumstances not changed at the last minute my two children would have been in that van and they might not have buckled up for the quick ride to the store down the street. I could be visiting my children in a graveyard instead of yelling at them to clean their rooms. Because of one 'quick' ride to the store and another careless driver my friend has to spend her daughters birthday at the graveyard. I guess I hadn't realized how much this effected my daughter, even to this day. The graveyard where she is buried is right down the street and every now and then as we pass it I will ask her if she wants to go in... she always responds with a muted 'no'. So I haven't pushed the issue with her..
So momma's and daddies everywhere.. hug your children, because even when they are big huge PIA's at least they are here.
Thank you for reading this.
I wanted to add.. my laundry room is also in my bathroom and I was sorting laundry when she slid the note in...
I wanted to post the letter she wrote... names are now xxx's.. This is off my daughters myspace and I haven't corrected it or added anything to it other than xxx out the name of her school and the girls name.
Every time your birthday comes around
I just want to sit in my room and cry
Because the painful memories
of the day you left this eath
Will forever be in my mind
and the fact that I never said goodbye
tears my up inside
You were nine years old
with a whole life ahead of you
but one stupid mistake
got you killed.
I could count on you for everything
we got along so well we could pass
as sisters
No one will ever know how much
you meant to me
The day your funeral came around
was the hardest thing i have ever
had to go through
Seeing you in your casket almost
killed me
My best friend had died and I felt
like I was alone in the world
Five years have passed by now and I cant
help but wondering what it would
be like if you were still here
Would we still be best friends
or distant enemies.
I'll never get the chance to know
They said you weren't wearing your
seat belt and the force of the impact
of the car accident broke your neck
From what I heard,you flew out of
the car
You were on life support with no hope
of survival
I will never forget when I heard
you were in a car accident
I found out later that you were dead
We had plans of attending middle
school at xxxxxxxx school together
I can't help but think if plans had
gone through,I would have been in
that car with you,I could've told you
to put on your seat belt
And then maybe you would still be here
I can't wait untill I see you in heaven
I know you are an angel looking over me
I would give anything for you to
still be here or to atleast see
you again
I love you so much girl
I will never forget you
Rest In Peace xxxxxxxxxxx <3
July 29,2002
♥;
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