Spin Off from the RSVP thread...

[dannic]

We went to a family wedding this weekend. It was a casual affair and outdoors. Family did all the cooking, etc....
They had made enough food to feed 150 people. That is how many she invited. Despite the fact that only 40 RSVP'd. She never ever thought to call those who didnt. She figured that they were family and would be there...
Well 35 people showed up...
VERY SAD....

[freer]

Oh my goodness. How disappointing. It's ashamed that people didn't RSVP that they couldn't come, although I always assume they are not coming if I didn't get the RSVP back. I didn't respond to the other thread, but I never call people who don't respond. You shouldn't have to...but then again, I know how people are.

[janenga]

I am planning (well, past the planning stage now) a 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents. I sent out a ton of invitations, with an RSVP date of June 20th. I had many call to say they'd be there, or that they couldn't attend, but a few from a town where we lived most of our lives, no one called. My mom wanted me to call a few of them, said maybe they forgot or something. I didn't think I had to...but for her I did. With all the planning (13 days till the party) I shouldn't have to hunt your a$$ down. And some of my family didn't even call....all I can say is you better not show up! Because you will not be allowed to stay. I am planning the food according to how many people had enough class to RSVP, and if you can't be courteous enough to call me, I don't want you there.....period.

I'm sorry but if an invite asks to RSVP, then RSVP!!! My god, how long does it take to pick up the phone and say yes or no? (yeah this is a little pet peeve of mine.......)

[sexysmurf]

That is sad Reminds me of my wedding nearly 13 years ago. We had to pay for our own wedding so we were on a TIGHT budget. We have less than $4K for everything (including dress, tux and honeymoon too) and wanted to have a DJ and beer and wine (I hate pay bars at weddings...it seems tacky to me). We could only have 100 people tops and we did not want any children unless they were invited (like my cousins who were in the wedding...they were the only kids I wanted there as I hate kids running around and crying at weddings). We had 90 people RSVP so we invited 10 more. They RSVP'd.

Then on the wedding rehersal night, our singer didn't show up to practice. So, I brought a CD to the wedding because I couldn't reach her by phone. Day of the wedding: I am getting pictures done (which I hate) and someone says "where are all the people?". I am confused, take a sneak look and lo and behold...we have about 40 people total. I was livid but had to get over it. We live in CO and the Bronco's were in the superbowl that weekend. We aren't football people so we didn't realize it until a week or so before the wedding but figured it wasn't a big deal. We found out after the honeymoon that most of the people who didn't come were home watching the game as well as our singer who went to the game instead of our wedding. It could have ruined my day if I had let it. Money wasted...bleh. We are telling our kids to elope and then have a nice party later!

[palmcoup]

We have a big 4th of July party every year. This year, we weren't going to have it, but decided to around the 1st of June. We sent out invites and as of today (5 days before the party) we have only heard from one family. We have invited 10 families and various other single people for a total of 60 people. Ugh

[Icansavedaily]

I rsvp NO for a family wedding and my brother rsvped YES he is married and doesn't live with me. This was for my fathers cousins daughter that we never even received a birth announcement for and never even knew she was alive, therefore I didn't feel I should attend. I received a call from this girls irate father cursing and bellowing because my BROTHER didn't go. I told him to call my brother and that the only reason he was calling me was because he knew that a man would never take the phone abuse he was giving me. Needless to say he never called my brother. I never heard from him again.
So much for rsvping!

[targetgirl]

That's pretty sad. How rude not to let people know if you're coming or not when an RSVP is asked for.

But, if I was cooking for a get together like that and only 40 people out of 150 rsvp'd, I'd have prepared for maybe 75 to show up instead of 150.
At a casual, outdoor affair if you notice that all of a sudden that there are a LOT more people there than you cooked for you can always run out and get cold salads, precooked chickens, lunch meat trays, etc to fill in any gaps there might be. Been there, done that, no one really noticed or cared.

Hope the wedding was still nice and I can only imagine what one does with that many leftovers(I volunteer to give any leftover cake a good, but temporary, home. Kidding!).

[ILUVLUCY420]

That is very sad and so sorry to hear that. It is so important to respond whether yes or no... Peace. Catherine

[cjs216]

I cannot imagine not RSVP-ing or RSVP-ing and then not showing up when you know that the party giver is paying for a meal.....that's especially tacky.

cj/