I monitor my 15 year old daughter's myspace usage on a regular basis. A few months ago she approved a new friend who she did not know personally but knew of through their many mutual friends. The two of them began talking online and later in text messages and eventually went out together as friends a couple of times. My daughter is no longer talking to or seeing this boy although she is still in his myspace friends.

Since my daughter accepted this boy into her friends I have looked at his page several times and noticed that he has added an extreme number of young girls to his myspace friends. He has nearly 500 friends on myspace and I would estimate that about 50 - 60 are boys. All the rest of them are girls, some as young as 12 and 13. Many of the girls he has added have somewhat provocative default pictures, even some of the younger girls. He has talked to many of these girls in comments although I don't know how much time he has spent time with any of them personally.

This boy is good looking but small in stature (only 5'4"), and has issues with his height. He told my daughter he's never had a girlfriend because of it. Of course, these girls on myspace can't tell from his pictures how short he is so they are more accepting of him. He goes online everyday and adds several new people - almost all girls. He is turning 18 years old in January, and I find his behavior weird and a little scary. Does this sound like a predator in the making or is he just a little obsessive about adding girls to his myspace friends?

Wow, that is a good question!! He might just be a boy full of testosterone!! But usually, when the hairs on your arm stand up, when you get that gut feeling a parent gets, your feeling is usually correct.

It's probably a good thing your daughter is no longer seeing him. Can she delete him from her Friends list? I don't know anything about MySpace or how to use it.

Hopefully, he's just some boy with raging hormones who is trying to impress his other friends by showing that he's got tons of girls as friends on his myspace site. Probably it's an ego issue and nothing more....hopefully, nothing more!

I wouldn't think he was abnormal.He probaly just doesn't want to hurt their feelings so he lets them add him as a friend.He probably gets hit on through yahoo messenger or some other chat room and makes friends with them before knowing their ages.

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I don't think it's uncommon for 12 and 13 year old girls to see a 17 year old boy and think he is cute and want to add him to her myspace. Now if he was 30.... that would be different.

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I agree...I don't think you have anything to worry about, but keep your eye on things if you have a gut feeling something might be up...Periodically checking out your daughter's page etc...When my son had been a senior this past year (and he was 17), alot of my daughter's friends requested him to be their friend on Facebook (they were freshman). I think it's a status thing with kids to see how many "friends" they have. My daughter just had her Facebook account "hacked" on Monday night. That's a whole other story in itself. I told her that's what happens when you "put yourself out there"...anything can happen. ~Lisa

Have you gone to the police with this information yet?

Why would you call the police on a 17 year old boy? Obviously he is a Sr. in HS, or just graduated and is "collecting" friends on MySpace........standard practice for kids in HS.

Why does everyone always go right to the worst case scenario?

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Pepperpot is just a troll.

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I figured.

But, this is more a comment to the entire thread....why would this be a "Is This A Pedofile in the Making?"...Sounds like a typical teenage boy to me. The bigger concern should be the parents of the girls who are allowed to post "provocative" pics...not a 17 year old who is happy to have them as "friends" on his myspace page.

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I think it is just a short boy w/ a Napolean complex just happy to have anyone as a friend.

In PA - at least when I was a teen they had what was often called the 3 year rule. Meaning regardless of the age of consent - if you were within 3 years of each other's age the police were probably not going to be banging on your door no matter what you did. I dated an 18 year old when I was 15 - and trust me I was the more responsible "older" one, hands down.

After all we're not talking about a 28 or 38 year old male and a teenage female. We're talking about 2 kids who's ages are so close that in theory they could both attend the same HS together (9th and 12th etc...).

As for myspace - because of the apps I play I have hundreds of friends, all different ages, I barely have any contact with most of them and frankly I couldn't pick most of them out of a lineup if my life depended on it. If you were to look over my friends list I'm sure you'd get an odd idea or two about me simply because inevitably people who play certain apps end up with certain "looks" of friends. If you play vampire apps you end up with tons of "vampires", play Viking Clan - you get self-identified vikings, play yoville - and if you're under a certain age then you can only crew with other people under that age etc...

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Probably but at least she's a funny troll. What else can you say to someone who asks whether a teen who adds anybody and everybody who asks to his MySpace Friend list is a predator in the making? Girls send more friend requests than boys so there's nothing "weird and scary" about any guy having more girls than guys on a friend list. It doesn't mean he's a predator - it just means he likes having a large friend list.