We took Faith yesterday. She was fine. Lots of ppl around, party atmosphere, new toys...blah, blah, blah.

Today, we call to talk to her and she is crying in the phone..."DADDY! I want Mama!!" It's ringing in my ears and it won't stop.

What do I do???? Do I call again? I just don't know how bio will take it.

my heart hurts..........

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Melissa

Strong and bitter words indicate a weak argument.

I'm sorry, I'm truly, truly sorry.

I wish that I had some sage advice or words of wisdom. But, I can only say that you are a strong woman. And as a strong woman, who has faith, you will get through this. It probably is going to be some of the worst pain you will feel, it's probably some of the biggest tears you will cry--but you can get through this.

I hope that you will find some peace of mind and some hope along the way.

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I'm sure it does

My prayers are with all of those involved.

I am so sorry.

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I am so, so sorry, Melissa.

Do you feel like she is in a safe place and that bio mom is truly in a position to parent her? I realize you don't have any rights - I just wondered if you at least have peace that she will be loved and cared for in her current situation.

I'm just so, so, so sorry.

Hon I also am so sorry I sincerely hope tomorrow is a better day.. Peace. Catherine

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Oh Melissa, I truly can't imagine what you are going thru. Like another poster said, do you feel that the bio is ok now, does she have a stable environment? If not, could you have social services or someone check in on the situation? Surely she is being monitored?

I don't really remember all the details, but do you get along with the bio? Do you think she might come to her senses and say "Wait, these people can offer my child a better life than I can"? Don't give up, she may wake up and realize that she's in way over her head.

I'm a mother of a 3 year old, and it is truly 24/7 with no pitstops. It may very well be more than she can handle. Hang in there, get on your knees and pray for God to step in and put that baby where she needs to be. Make sure she is being followed up on.

Try and talk with bio, see how she feels when her baby is begging for yall. Maybe more visits? Is she reasonable??

I feel so horrible for you, like I said, I just can't imagine what you are going thru.

Hugs to you and Faith!! Keep us posted!!

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I'm so sorry. It must be literally ripping your heart out. Hang in there and pray!!

I can't begin to imagine what you are feeling. Just know that we are here for you. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

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Nicole

Oh my gosh, that is so heart breaking. I don't have any advice, but my heart goes out to you!

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Mary

As others have said, I have no sage words of wisdom for you but I truly am sorry for the pain you and your family is going through. Some things in this world are just not right.

To answer some of your questions...

Bio mom is ok and that's it. These kids are her possessions. It's all about "doing" and not about loving on them. She has some real problems and they are made to feel guilty when expressing love for others that she doesn't approve of. "don't you love mommy?" kind of thing. She is very narcissitic.

I spoke with Faith for about 5 seconds today and she sounded ok. "hi mama, I'm sitting on the couch" then bio pretty much said bye and hung up.

I do pray she will decide that it is too much, but I don't know if her pride would let her let go.

I have lost my mother, brother and others close to me. That was different because they were just gone, no going back. There is still this little bit of hope I have that she will come back, and that is almost harder.

My dear neice is picking me up today and we are going camping till Sunday. It will be nice to get away, but I'm afraid she will call while I'm gone to say come get her. I know that is ridiculous, but still....

I know there are those here that have lost children........I cannot imagine the pain because this is hidious.

Thank you all SO much for your support, I know it will get easier.

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Melissa

Strong and bitter words indicate a weak argument.

How did you get Faith? If she has a bio mother who wants her, why was she taught to call you Mama instead of her? Were you fighting the bio mother for custody of Faith?

((hugs)) My heart hurts for you.

Opal, I may have this a little bit wrong, but Melissa has fostered Faith almost since birth, and I believe she is now three years old. It had seemed for a time that the bio-mother would not ever be in a position to parent (I believe she has other children as well) and that she would permanently be in Melissa's care.

It's not uncommom for kids in foster care, particularly if they get along well with their foster parents, to call them mom and dad. In this case, regardless of what Melissa was called by Faith, she has served as her primary caregiver for most of her life, so whatever moniker she had would probably feel like 'mom' to a three year old.

Melissa....hugs to you. I'll keep you, your family, and Faith in my prayers.

Melissa,
I am so sorry. I can't imagine how painful this is every day, and how concerned you are for Faith's well-being. I know you'll make the right decisions about calling and visiting since you are so clearly guided by your heart and I will keep you and your sweet girl in my prayers.

Wish we could all send you a hug. Please keep us updated.

Well, back from camping, sort of. My niece invited me to come stay with her for the week and here I am. I can't imagine being alone right now.

I haven't really gotten to talk to Faith except for about 30 seconds in all, bio keeps saying "oh this is just a bad time".... She is very close to violating the court order....not that it will matter.

That's it. I miss her SO much...my poor peanut.

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Melissa

Strong and bitter words indicate a weak argument.

My heart is aching for you and how painful this is. I don't even know what to say other than I am praying for you. Hugs being sent your way.

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