I missed it - it was late at night here 10pm+ -they advertised the weightloss show during a previous show on the best way to discipline children this week. Anyone watch it or know what I am talking about?

I don't know about a tv show, however the best way to discipline children is for parents to be parents. The parents need to make the decisions and enforce them, not give the children free reign, or conitnual "choices".

The parents, by making decisions, would/should make healthier consumption decisions and hence, the wieght loss thing would be less of an issue.

dl

The child discipline "secret" they showed on 4 real families before and after (had nothing to do with weightloss) was for parents to eliminate negative comments and criticism and replace it with 'catching the child doing something right and complementing them on it, setting up a rewards system (like sticker board) for doing things right, and ignoring bad behavior (walking away or turning around). Really worked for these 4 low income families they showed. Seems the kids reacted to criticism with more negativity, and they just wanted attention, even negative attention.

I think the program was like a primetime or nightline type - it was to be their next show.

This sounds like some helpful advice to me.

It sure does! Its about positive reinforcement. When negativity is put out thats what comes back. I think what parents dont understand is when they yell, threaten, bribe and so forth it puts out a negative attitude/energy and the child doesnt know how to respond to that but to dish back the same negative attitude/energy. Then the whole household is in an uproar because the parents are frustrated, the children are frustrated and then everything is out of order. I have seen it way too many times.

On another note: I do have to say that these times are way different from when I was a kid. My friend and I both agree that growing up our parents had the upper hand and there was just no crossing that. Period! We ate what was on the table or we didnt eat. Parents had rules and we followed them or else..
Today's children seem to have the upperhand. I dont understand it all but its something I notice....

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Your answer is in your first paragraph. Keep telling the kids they are great, keep giving them everything they want, make it all wonderful, make everything at school special with some sort of a reward. Pay them for helping around the house, always dangle an object in front of them which they can get no matter what. Meekly mention discipline and then later, back down.

There isn't a balance anymore. The kids rule. This role reversal isn't pretty and will have far reaching consequences.

dl

edited to add.....the news, this am, reports that the Indian girl who "fled" her parents because she converted to Christianity and feared for her life has been found to be lying. She is the one that ended up in FL and authorities let her stay there. I scratched my head about this when I heard it previously as she is 17. Here we have a 17 year old minor calling the shots instead of her parents.