If anyone has done this or does this or knows of a legitimate way for me to get started with this please email me annadrose@yahoo.com if you don't feel comfortable posting it. LOL I wouldn't blame you.

I looked online but I am hesitant to trust a company that I have no knowledge of. I don't want to get scammed.

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I know you're desperate, and I'm not laughing at you---but OMG! I think this could be a very interesting job (to say the least).
Good Luck!

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You know anna when I read you post yesterday and read how hard you are trying and then I opened this thread up i thought you know more power to you while I cannot offer any help in that field of work lol I do wish you luck to find employment sincerely I do in this hard economical times..Peace...Catherine

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Oi... Anna, don't do that.. that's so close to...errr.. well you know...

This is how I make extra cash... Become a ChaCha Guide | Work for ChaCha It's legit. I've been doing it since April. You can stay home in your jammies doing it if you want HAHA!

This sweet pretty lady does phone sex.. check her out..
YouTube - Loco Mama's PHONE SEX!

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Thanks Susie but I went to the link and they are not accepting any new guides at this time. Yeah I've seen that one. It's funny. Men don't care they close their eyes and picture what they want.

And I am not worried about becoming a prostitute or anything like that. I would actually enjoy being a phone sex operator most of the time.

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Ugh, cha cha drove me batty. I only did it for about a week.

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Being a guide drove me batty too.. I am now a Expeditor there and I LOVE it. I get questions and send them to guides to answer.

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'Vegetarian' is an old Native American word for bad hunter.

Am an Expeditor too and my oh my the questions are sometimes really interesting. Been doing it for about 6 months and love the pay me now! It has saved me many times when i needed a few bucks to get by.

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Gee I wish I could get in. Can you guys refer me or something?

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This is your decision to make but you are making a HUGE mistake! This is a label that will follow you THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I'd think about that. You might think "So what?" now but you don't know where you'll be in twenty years. Being a phone sex operator will mark you and is that something you'd want the entire world to know? You think it's completely confidential and nobody can find out? Think again. A cursory background check won't find it but an in-depth one can. I doubt you'll ever be asked to marry royalty or to be a CIA operative or become world famous or to be anything where they'll check out your every past move so ruling out those kind of things might not bother you but there are so many little things you'll be ruling out too.

What we do now sometimes changes what we would have been later. This is a label that you'll wish you didn't have when you get older. I know you want a job but don't take one that can negatively mark you forever. I'm not getting into a debate on 'decent' jobs versus jobs that make people look down on you - I'm just saying they exist and right or wrong, there it is. I'm just trying to help you avoid doing something that you'll probably wish you hadn't later. Being a phone sex operator is a label that will follow you forever and I think it's a mistake to limit your future opportunities.

I will keep a watch on their forums about when hiring is open for you Anna.

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'Vegetarian' is an old Native American word for bad hunter.

Hey, power to you if you take this on! To me, it's a little bit like acting....totally different than dancing or escorting, in my opinion. I hope you'll share some good stories here if you get into it.

cj/

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I agree with cjs. I admire you for being so resourceful. I, for one, think it would be fun! I also don't think it's going to hurt your chances for employment elsewhere. I was a waitress for Wiener King when I was going to college. I've never had to put that on my resume! :-) Good luck! (Okay...I already see the connection between my college job and the one we're dicussing! LOL!)

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Crack me up, mdrpooh! ROTFLMAO

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I checked further into this because I think it's interesting. The job is called a "telephone actress."

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Once again opaldancing we all can count on you for being negative when someone is down and out, Anna came here and posted on how she tired to many options to try to find a job, and honestly with the financial problems we are having , we have to make a living we have to pay our bills, we have to eat, Anna is an adult she is not selling her body, she is an adult making an adult decision to make ends meet, to put food on the table to survive, to who are you to judge. again Anna I sincerely say more power to you, while it make not be the perfect job for some of us, if you and other feels comfortable doing it , then so be. I sincerely wish you all the luck in the world. Keep us posted. Peace. Catherine

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Bottom line....she did not ask if we thought it was a good idea or a proper job, she asked if we knew about how to get started. Sorry, but I don't have any info. I used to know of some, but that was years ago.

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I personally am too old fashioned to do anything like Phone Sex operator. I would feel like it was cheating on my BF. I would also feel used.

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I don't think I could do it because I think I'd be laughing too much at the person on the other end!

Lisa

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I never thought about that but you are right, I'd crack up too!

I could never be a phone sex operator, I'd be cracking up all the time!

When I saw this thread, I immediately thought about the old Aerosmith video for the song "Sweet Emotion". In it a young guy is on a phone sex call with a woman and it seems that she's really hot and they're both having a good time. Cut to the end when the woman hangs up and it turns out she's a fat, frumpy woman in a muumuu with curlers in her hair, standing at an ironing board with one baby under her arm and a couple more rolling around on the floor of what appears to be a run down, dumpy kitchen. Too funny!!!!

Back to the OP, I've known a couple people who have worked on phone sex and they said they actually made very little money at it. The customers may pay a pretty penny per minute but the operators see very little of it. They quit after a short time due to the crappy pay, but they did have some funny stories!

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More power to you Anna, I previously worked as a sex texter and made plenty of money staying at home with my kids. The industry has now slowed down because of the recession etc but there is money to be made out there doing phone sex or whatever. Men and women call these lines all the time so why not make money from them? As for this following you later in life, no one should judge anyone for trying to do what they can to feed their family or pay bills. As i said before, more power to you Please pm me and i'll send you some links to forums where you can find out more about PSO

You don't put phone sex operator on your resume you put home call center worker for one thing. So NOBODY would know that I don't tell.

And if working for the Federal Government (the biggest thieves, and liars on the planet who had me tricking people for 5 years) doesn't keep me from getting a job then I doubt "phone actress" or "phone sex operator" or "home call center worker" would do it.

And it is exactly being an actress. Do you think Charlize Theron playing a mentally ill prostitute killer is going to affect her when she applies for a job at Target in 20 yrs? Or a police officer who goes undercover talking like she's a hooker is cheating on her bf or husband?

I am not going to touch myself or engage in sexual acts. I am going to be watching Judge Judy playing on Facebook making sure the dinner doesn't burn while I pretend to be a skinny big boobed scantily dressed woman of whatever nationality they want me to be.

Every single time I go to ask for any job I am acting. I am acting like I am the perfect assistant, retail clerk, caregiver, hamburger flipper or whatever.

If that makes me a liar than everybody applying for jobs is a liar. If you really think I want to spend the rest of my life at McDonald's or Wal Mart or Dollar Tree or the stupid county office I applied at then you're dead wrong.

I see nothing wrong with it. Like I said I'm only acting not doing.

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Thanks Susie I appreciate it very much!

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No need to be so hard on opaldancing -- she makes some valid points and I'm sure she has your best interest at heart in saying the things she said.

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I was not hard on her and I disagree with it. I'm just making my point. A prostitute is a prostitute and an actress is not a prostitute but sometimes an actress plays a prostitute that does not make her one. I am not one and if I talked dirty on the phone all day to whomever for free or for money that makes me no more a prostitute than anyone doing a job for money that they don't like or don't agree with. My first loyalty is to my family and I will do whatever I can think of that is legal to make a living. If things were just a little bit fair I would not be in this position right now.

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Anna, I am not judging you at all. We do what we have to do sometimes, just to get through the hard times. But I am surprised ( and saddened) that you are considering this. . How is going to feel at the end of the day, knowing how many guys you "got off?" Sorry for the blatant term. The $$ might be good, but will it be worth the degredation? And I ask this question with total sincerity. Do what you have to do girl. If this is it, just stay true to yourself. It's a job, not a lifestyle.

Anna, there are many women here who prostitute themselves every day by staying in bad marriages because they couldn't survive on their own. THAT is the ultimate of prostitution IMHO. Funny how people who put others down for seeking public assistance also put people down for doing legal things to make money. Afraid you might be talking to their husbands perhaps? (not talking to you Linny)

Good luck. It actually sounds fun. But, I couldn't do it without laughing. And, unless you need a reference or want to further your phone sex "career," no one ever needs to know this is how you did what you believed you had to do to get by for now. And, who knows, it may be the beginning of a fabulous work at home opportunity!

ETA - I'm 50 and at this point in my life "phone sex operator" would be something I would look back on and smile

Uh huh. It's a stupid point and a desperate attempt at rationalization. You say that a phone sex operator is 'exactly' like an actress but why do that if you think there's nothing wrong with it? You won't be a 'home call center worker' or 'exactly like an actress' - you'll be a phone sex operator. Call it what it is and do it or say it isn't right for you and don't because either you're up to this or you aren't. It is what it is by any name you care to give it and if you need to rationalize it and try to improve it's title, it must bother you on some level.

There's no reason to be offended because I was just trying to help you and I phrased my opinion nicely. You and your My Coupons counterparts seem to have convinced yourselves that being a phone sex operator is exactly like being an actress (LOL) but the rest of the world just doesn't see it that way and never will. Calling yourself a 'home call center worker' to lessen the sleaze impact doesn't change the fact that you'll talk sex for money and you'll still be a phone sex operator. You may make a hard line distinction between strippers, prostitutes, and phone sex operators but most of us consider the sex trade workers to be pretty interchangable. Why? Because so many of the women in these jobs made them so. So many strippers and phone sex operators have supplemented their income by turning tricks, that it's become a cliche. Whether you'll be one of them isn't the point - the point is that people will think you are. You might see these fields as completely different but you'll still be lumped into a semi-prostitute catagory by most people and I wanted to help you avoid that. I should have known better - my mistake!

One thing you can't buy is a good reputation and I was just trying to help you because I thought you might wish you had that good reputation back twenty years down the road - assuming you even possess it now. Don't bother telling me how wonderful sex trade operators are - they may be but most of the world isn't as 'enlightened' as you so they still look down on people who work in the sex trades and they'll look down on you - and your children because of what their mother does for a living. It doesn't matter whether you agree with them - it is what it is and I thought you might want to avoid that in case it impacts your or your children's future.

I got the impression from your posts that you are a young woman and sometimes, young women do things that they wish they hadn't later so I was just trying to keep you from making what I think is a big mistake. It was just a suggestion and if you think that being a phone sex operator is right for you and your family, it probably is. You would know.

I'm not offended. Not rationalizing explaining. One reason not to list it as phone sex operator is there are judgmental people out there who really would think of me as a hooker.

I am 47 yrs old so I know what I'm doing. Thanks though! My family would not think it was anything other than a funny way to make money. It's not selling crack. Or prostitution..

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Remember the claim "I did not have sex with that woman" and you say you are not rationalizing/explaining. President Clinton was a classic case of exactly what you claim you aren't doing, just like he did. It is what it is.

I don't think it's funny at all, your family statement is scary that they would think it is. I used to have a man call my place of employment for valid reasons to check/update his file. He would seem nice and ask how I was doing. Then he would ask more to keep me talking. It wasn't even dirty, but it made me uncomfortable. I came to realize that as he talked to me, he was most likely taking care of himself. It was not a comfortable situation and I personally would not take his calls. But that's me and you are you, and it is what it is.

I realize you got fired, you haven't been able to find another job,i'ts been a while, there's nothing in your area, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, but from what you post here, I am not surprised. You say you have a degree, but you are looking for things that don't require a degree. You mention things that are a luxury for many like (and I am not going back to look so I may not quite have this part right) dog walking, house sitting, selling Avon, house cleaning, etc - things/jobs that are the first people give up when they themselves can't afford it.

I suggested earlier, with all sincerity, that you go back to school. You had excuses about that too. Others have also sincerely offered thoughts, ideas, and support. Admittedly, not all have written what you want to hear. Basically they are telling you to stop your pity party, get in reality, respect yourself and others - you are not the only person unemployed.

Prostitution involves sex and money. You would be but a phone line/air wave away but still accomplishing the same thing. Taking money for someone else's "pleasure".

I can see why your previous employer fired you, even if you can't.

dl

I support you, Anna! Go for it!

Just ignore OpalDancing---she is always seeming to be negatively opinionated and discouraging. Opal, please keep an open mind. Better to be a phone sex girl than a prostitute! Phone sex is fun, quirky, funny, dirrrty yet CLEAN, (NO mess!), disease free, risk free, quick and painless, LOL!! Plus, you don't even have to see your customer's ugly mug, or smell his funky smells, hahaha, isn't that great? Phone sex might just be the next best thing!!

I don't know if I could do it without laughing all the time. I would find it hard to talk serious about sex on the phone like this, but maybe with practice.....hmmmm.....I can stand to make some extra money myself, hahaha!

Heck, this kinda job could spice up one's sex life too maybe...........After talking dirty all day on the phone, your husband just might be in for a surprise! ;-)

Just keepin an OPEN mind! And kudos to you, Anna, for having the guts, the courage, the oooooomph to come here and post to ask about such a, um, naughty job! I am STILL smiling just thinking about it!! GOOD LUCK!!

And oh yes, before SOMEONE asks, YES I have tried phone sex wayyy back in the early 90's, with some girlfriends, on a night of college drinking---it was one of those funny girly get togethers where we did something crazy and laughed so hard we nearly pee'd ourselves. We called some 900, talked to some guy, laughed and laughed and NOOOOO, nothing kinky went on afterwards.

I highly recommend it! :P Hahahah

I can see why your previous employer fired you, even if you can't.

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WOW, too bad the job of mind reader is already filled.

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Good grief. It never fails to surprise how when one person comes asking for advice, several others come along with more than just advice--they come with opinions. Mean opinions. It's so easy to be cocky online and be rude to each other, because this isn't face-to-face communication, but still, a little kindness is always in order! There is no need to be RUDE to each other. And sarcasm on top of it? Do you guys really enjoy talking to other people with such attitudes?

I'm going to be the 'devil's advocate.' I really hate that term, but I think you guys know what it means.

All Anna did initially was ASK for a little advice on how to get started on something, not for what you guys thought about it. That part didn't come in later until others started being opinionated. And some say, Anna is making excuses for this or that? Well, sometimes our excuses are actually reasons. Not everyone can afford college and get a degree to get a good job. Times are hard right now and people are looking at ALL options for making ends meet. Some of you might think her choice to be a phone sex operator is a bad one, but I say its not. It's up to Anna; she is a grown woman and by now should know the consequences of actions.

And you know what? The porn industry is a billion dollar industry; Anna, if successful at this, could possibly make more easy money than a lot of you who have degrees. I actually knew a gay guy back in the 90's who did this--- he was the operator, not the caller, and he made HUNDREDS of dollars each WEEK--- I mean, I was shocked! He nearly had a triple digit income, know what I mean? And all for sitting around doing doing a little dirty talk on the phone? I was like, why am *I* not doing this? This is toooo easy! But like I said earlier, I don't think I could really get into it, w/o laughing. And I was really young then anyways.

I support you, AnnaD! As long as there are phones, and males with hormones, the industry will flourish. Maybe not AS MUCH as when my friend did it in the 90's---after all, with porn online, for free to LOOK at, why call anyone, right?-----but as long as the option is there, the men, and some women, WILL make those calls.

Would it be prostitution if I was babysitting and I had to wipe the baby's butt? After all I'm touching their butt for money?

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OMG! Good point! LOL!! How can anyone argue with that? Wait, I'm sure someone will try.... :P

Is it really worth the money to have some man talk degrading to you and call you names and use you?
You might not care what the man thinks of you.. but I think after a few calls where they degrade you and call you all kinds of bad names.. and you'd have to let them or they hang up and there go your money.. that you would start thinking about yourself in those terms.

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'Vegetarian' is an old Native American word for bad hunter.

Playing devil's advocate, you are not wiping the child's behind for sexual pleasure or to provide sexual pleasure.
That said;
I don't have an opinion one way or another whether phone sex operators are good or bad. It's a legitimate job and as long as there are horny people, there will be people to provide either phone sex, real sex or lapdances or whatever.

However, dealing with what I have dealt with the last few years, people who utilize phone sex/porn/prostitutes may really have a psychological issue--and while it seems harmless enough, there are wives/girlfriends/spouses and children who may be harmed (mentally/emotionally or financially) by their loved one's obsession/compulsion.
I think it would definitely be an interesting job. But, I can also see the down side and don't think that I could do it. Not because I'd be laughing, but because I'd be wondering "why is this guy spending money on phone sex? Does his wife/spouse know? Is what I'm doing creating a problem in their marriage/relationship". Granted, I have a different perspective than some. And I realize that the caller would be the one w/ a problem. But after I thought about, I don't think I could do it, or recommend it.

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I disagree with you on this one, Susiecat. How is one being 'used' when it's the man paying for the call? If anything, the operator is using the men to make money!

Degrading names? It's sex! It's all about fantasy and using dirty language. Ask Dr. Ruth---it's FUN! And it's not degrading as long as both parties are in agreement. I believe both are: AnnaD does the dirty talking and the men get their jollies. That's what its all about. Being called names is all about role-play. Maybe some of you should try it. Dr. Ruth highly recommends it!


".. and you'd have to let them or they hang up and there go your money.." What do you mean? There goes your money? AnnaD is still getting paid. As soon as the call connects, the company gets paid and then she gets paid. The longer she can keep them on the phone, the more money they'll make.

Some of us have had very satisfying sex lives without role playing. Dr. Ruth, in all her wisdom, isn't the be all, end all of sex experts.

Again, while I really don't care what Anna does as far as finding work--there's a lot more to consider than "everyone is consenting adults". I couldn't do the job simply because I've been the spouse who didn't know their husband was engaging in copious amounts of inappropriate sexual behaviour. And when I did find out? It hurt...a lot. I don't blame other's for my husband's bad behaviour. I just know what I felt like and I wouldn't want to be involved in that ever!

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I also applied for a job at a place that makes sandwiches and has lottery. Should I feel guilty or wonder about people who come in and buy lottery? A job that's legal is a job that's legal as long as I'm not stealing from anyone. Even convenience stores sell lottery and cigarettes does that mean I shouldn't work at a convenience or grocery store or anywhere that sells lottery and cigarettes? Where does a person draw the line?
How am I responsible for a man spending his paycheck on a sex line, Big Macs, lottery, cigarettes, or even football dvds?
Should I blame the lady at Costco because I bought the tin of cookies?

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Anna,
as I said, my perspective and thoughts are strictly based on my experience over the last few years w/ a husband who chose nameless, faceless strangers over his family.
I'm not saying you shouldn't do it. I am just saying I couldn't do it. I don't think badly of those who do it. I'm just sensitive (maybe overly so) to the subject matter at this point in my life. 15 years ago? I probably would have been open to the idea of doing it! It's just a personal choice that you and only you can make.
*shrugs* it would definitely provide you some interesting stories.

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For me personally, it would come down to my beliefs about the reasons God created sex. For those who are not people of faith this is a non-issue. For those that are and who take God's words seriously and feel a strong responsibility to apply them to their lives... it just goes against everything God intended that sex *be*.

It's to be an act expressing love between a married couple.

I realize people pervert that, but it isn't *His* desire to see sex become something a man does to himself while listening to a stranger he'll never meet say dirty things to him.

I realize it's legal. I realize many don't think it's any big deal. But for me, it would be a violation of the values I hold dear. It's not an 'opportunity' I would even put on the table, and I'd have faith that eventually, my steadfastness in not settling for a job that would violate my conscience would be rewarded with a better job sent from above.

I don't equate being a phone sex operator to working in a convenience store. Working in a convenience store is more like working for an ISP or a wireless phone company. People may utilize those avenues to make available things I'm not fond of, but the primary purpose of those entities is not to deliver vices. Phone sex is a straight-up, no-other-higher-purpose way to make money by using sex in a way that I believe it is not supposed to be acted upon....

So I just couldn't do it.

Couple of things: the written word carries no tone, inflection or body language. If the written word appears "rude" it may just be YOUR perception. Secondly, Anna is a big girl, and having been on these boards for a while now, I'm sure she was prepared or anticipating some less than "supportive" comments. Lastly, just because someone doesn't agree with you, doesn't mean they are rude or cocky. Many of us here are very blunt and to the point. It comes across in the written form as being cocky and sarcastic.

I know that I have had what I thought were mean posts from others---even deddlast and opaldancing---and sometimes those posts were the ones that made me stop and think. and in re-reading them, realized that by and large it was a type of "tough love" kind of talk that we all need from time to time.
So, really, while I'm sure that Anna appreciates the support. She's a big girl and can fight her own battles. typically Anna can give as good as she gets.

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Anna, I don't have thoughts on how to get started here or legitimate companies, but just wanted to chime in since the responses seem to have strayed to whether you should or not. If it puts some money in your wallet, is not illegal, and can help tide you over until you find what you really want, go for it. I hope you can find something soon.

Kim

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To Anna here are my views on the subject matter and again its my personal views. For me personally and all members here we are not in your shoes, and I have decided that as long as children are not harmed and no one is being abused, we are talking about an adult making an adult decision.For me personally I could never ever do it at all , its not for me and I also would never ever feel comfortable knowing if my husband engaged in any of this and I know for a fact he would be upset if I engaged in any of these activities. Again if a married couple agreed upon that this is okay for their suituation and their relationship then so be. Finally this is Anna's decision and only Anna has to live with the choices she is making she has to walk in her shoes no one of us does. So again while it is not for me and Anna did not ask I fully support her because if I decided to do something and it did not agreed with Anna I would appreciate her support in a decision I chose to make. Peace. Catherine

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You are right about that, Marilyn, it sometimes IS hard to decipher the tone of written words. Maybe I took the tone wrong? It's not like me to be disagreeable by nature, so apologize if I came off that way.

And now I am wondering---Anna, are you married? I may have missed the answer in your posts--sorry if I did-- this thread is getting long. It just occurred to me that maybe you are not married, and so having a husband in this situation might not even be relevant.. It's none on my business, and you certainly don't need to answer my question--its just a few other posters mentioned how they couldn't do this particular job, because of how their DH's might feel... I can certainly see that! Mine would be jealous and would not let me do this. He'd only want me to talk dirty to him! ;-P

My husband does not mind. He knows I'm not touching anyone else or even getting turned on by anyone else. It's just acting just like if I was cooking Big Macs for people. That would disgust me more probably watching people eat that crap.

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The op has posted much information. A reasonable person only has to ........connect the dots. It's all there, hidden under the justification, double talk, explanations, excuses, denial, etc.

Now she tries to equate wiping a baby's bottom with prostitution!?!?!? There is another dot to make a connection.

dl

Can't you take a joke? I am not afraid to say you my dear resemble an idiot.

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Hey Anna .... This one's for you !