I have been working for about 1 1/2 and I love my job. I have this lady I work with that is driving me crazy!! I got a wonderful promotion and am so very excited about it but this lady keeps telling people that I am sleeping with my boss. Which is not true not even close nor is there a reason for anyone to think this. But isn't this in some way a form of harassment or something? I am so tired of hearing about it and I want her to stop. Yes, I have gone to her and asked why she would think or say these things and she tells me I don't I never said that. On several occasions I have been told by other employees that she is the one saying it. What do I do? I left work the other day crying I was walking down the hall and someone said that's the one sleeping with so and so.

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not sexual harassment....it is however, creating a HOSTILE WORK ENVIROMENT.
Go to personnel/HR. If no response, then get an attorney.

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I have in writing stated that this is a problem and named dates, times and names of individuals that this person has said these things too. Nothing has been done. It's like I am supposed to be the better person because I am a supervisor and she is not. It just doesn't seem fair to me!!

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I hate people who get off on doing that. No, it is not okay. It creates a hostile workplace. It is also slander. I would probably contact an attorney for a free consultation if you have done to HR and nothing has been done. This person is out of line and the company could be liable if they do nothing to squash the "rumors"

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I found this online on a law advise site:

Slander is an untruthful spoken statement about a person that harms the person's reputation or standing in the community. Contact a local lawyer - many may give you a free consultation for an hour - to discuss your specifics

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Thank you guys for your help. I think I am ready to do this. It has gone far enough! I knew it wasn't right just wasn't sure why.

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Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

A hostile work environment due to that type of remark does fall under the guidelines for sexual harassment. See paragraph 2:

Sexual Harassment

Aside from that, OP don't let a (probably jealous?) coworker cause you to cry.

You don't mention if you have talked with the boss or HR about this. But if you haven't said anything to them it's a bit early to think about lawyers kwim.

Go to HR and your boss with documentation, keep track of every date/time you were told this by other employees and who said it and what they said. Like walking down the hall - that's the sort of thing you need to document...'walking to the north elevator at 5pm on Oct 1, Joe Smith pointed at me and said to Mary Jones, there's the one sleeping with John Boss'

Put it all in writing, just the facts, and state in your letter that these unwanted sexual remarks are creating a hostile work environment and interfering with your job. Good luck and don't let a jerk coworker get to you

What a shame. Sounds like that woman is super jealous of you! And the annoying thing is that no one has reprimanded her for her behavior. I hope you get an attorney and get this resolved somehow so you can enjoy your new promotion.

If everyone else has heard this rumor, what about the boss? Has he heard it too? What does Boss think?

It's slander. A lie that hurts your reputation. It's illegal in and out of the workplace. I would report her to the supervisor. Then if nothing gets done I would go up the line. She is crazy and destructive.

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Hi Carrie -

Sorry to hear that this is happening with you. I know how much you enjoy working outside the home otherwise. Women can be so awful to one another. As others have pointed out, this is a hostile workplace situation, not sexual harrassment.

It sounds like you haven't actually heard this person say the negative things herself, but have heard it from others. Are you sure it's really her? In these "she said, she said" situations, we would have HR interview the various parties and get to the bottom of it.

The only other thing that I'd say is to try to develop a thicker skin....you'll need to as a supervisor ....what goes around WILL come around.

Best wishes,
cj/

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