Oh praise the Lord, praise the Lord!

I told my boys (10 and 12) that their dad and I were getting a divorce...They handled it so very well. They both said "ummm..we kind of saw that coming, geez!" We talked and they seemed to understand the whys and how comes (I told them this was my decision, their dad didn't want to. I told them that their dad had some issues and problems and he needed to work on those, and we couldn't help him. I explained that the issues and problems were nothing that they had caused, that the problems were adult only.) I explained to them that their dad was very upset with me right now, and if he said anything negative about me, he was probably still upset and/or angry. I explained that their daddy needed to know that they still loved him.

And then.....the youngest said "well, you're only 39, I think you can find another man."
It's such a relief that they are ok with this, that they are such bright and observant kids---and I am so very thankful that they are my kids!

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You are very lucky to have such understanding and compassionate boys.

Kids can be very awesome. We don't always give them enough credit. When my youngest was 11 and his father and I divorced he literally blossomed afterwards. I think it was the undercurrent of tension because we (ex) didn't fight, he (ex) rarely engaged which was a lot of the problem. The last seven years have been great for all of us. Don't hurry into dating though, ti's NASTY out there!!!! Sounds like you handled the explanation, etc... very well. Good job!

That is good news! I am sure a lot had to do with you giving them the respect to sit down and discuss it with them. There are sooooo many parents that don't do that, and then there are problems. My daughter is in the later group. I am sure as long as you keep the communication open with them they will blossom.

That must be such a relief for you. Good luck in the future..enjoy the holidays

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Children are so smart and they know what's up. I am sure it's a relief to them in many ways. Their maturity is a reflection of how you brought them up.

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Tears of joy for you Marilyn! Kids are so much smarter than we give them credit for most of the time I hope things continue to go extremely well for you and the boys!
***HUGZ***

Yeah, I'm sure you feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders now that you've had that conversation.

Good luck to you all.

Yes, what a blessing! I waited around until my son graduated from high school and he told me, "Mom, I wish you would have done this a long time ago!" Kids are smart! And, like another poster said, my son blossomed after the divorce, too. In less than a year after my exhusband left, my son lost 100 pounds! Wishing you the very, very best! And, yes, you are still young!!! Enjoy life! :-)

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