Well, don't know if it's venting or just being upset. I have a friend (well, we're not like good friends but we go to the same church and we talk). Anyway, we're friends on Facebook. Since the beginning of summer, she has taken a second job in order to pay for health insurance and they needed the money. This is what she said. They own their own business, have a huge country home, horses and lots of acreage. So... she's been posting on Facebook about how she's always so tired because she's working the two jobs, how she has to pay tons of bills, how she wished she could stop her second job but she has to work so she can pay for health insurance for them, etc., etc.

Anyway, imagine my surprise (and I'm sure others), when she posted pictures of their Cayman cruise taken in November, complete with pictures of their suite on the cruise ship with private balcony. Not just her and her husband, but their two teen boys too. Plus snorkleling and all the other things that go along with a cruise.

She's had people posting on her FB about how sorry they are for her that she has to work two jobs to make ends meet. I notice she posted these pictures over the weekend and not one person has made a single comment about them. I'm sure they're surprised just like I was.

I don't know.... I just don't understand things. I'm disabled and my dear husband works so hard so we can can just afford to live. Then she talks about how they're hurting and poor-mouth about having to work 2 jobs, how the economy has hurt them, and then have the nerve to post pictures of their beautiful cruise.

I know I'm just rambling on but it upsets me that (and yes, I'm probably jealous about it too!) we can't even go away for a weekend.

If you want to work an extra job in order to take a cruise, then say 'I'm working so we can enjoy a cruise in November." Don't say I HAVE to work this second job to pay for our insurance, our bills and poor me.

Ok. I'm done. I'm sure you've met people like this too. If you want to flame me, go ahead. It's ok. I'm just frustrated right now. Thanks for reading this and letting me get this out of my system!!!

No flaming, I see it too. I've said for a while that people have money for what they want to have money for.

ITA with you. It is nauseating and frustrating. It makes you wonder about the human race. Your friend wants to have it all / has it all and can't see beyond giving anything up. I bet too, she's given up some thing (?like having her nails done?) and certainly considers that her "sacrifice". People irl and on the puter cry about money and yet they toss it around and do nothing of substantial value to cut back. You have to cut the outgo also.

On a personal basis, I'd be an idiot if I lived outside of my means and had to work two jobs due to my own financial selfishness. I am doing my best for that never to happen - we did without a lot when younger to be financially forward in our future. I think of all those pizzas, gadgets, non necessities etc that were treats when we did indulge. Others we knew had to have all that crap and no longer have that crap, nor their money.

My suggestion to you is to find a location about 1, 2, 3 hours from your home you could drive to. It's easy with the puter to learn about the area and pick up points of interest, whether there is an admission fee or not. We do this once a year and it gives a nice respite at a reasonable price, while learning more about our own state.

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I think this is indeed the problem because it sounds like your 'friend' has some financial problems of her own. She's obviously not working for the fun of it and while her problems may not be as dire as your's, they're important to her and she's venting, too. You're venting here, she's venting on Facebook.

If your leg hurt terribly and you vented about it here, would you want one of your wheelchair bound friends to resent you because at least you have a leg that works? Wealth is relative. You may see her as 'rich', compared to you. Her friends (who have no problem paying for insurance out of their pocket) won't agree with you. At any rate, your friend is struggling and letting off some steam about something that's important to HER.

Your 'friend' may have more possesions than you but she doesn't have what she wants or she wouldn't be working at a job that she clearly doesn't enjoy. If it makes her feel better to vent on Facebook, so what? Be a friend and listen to her or close the page and forget about it. If this trivial jealousy is the worst thing in your life that you have to vent about, consider yourself a very lucky woman. There's millions of people who would be jealous of you!

Do you know if they paid for the cruise? |Maybe it was an early Christmas gift from family?

I know, I know!

We have a young relative for whom we send birthday money every year. This year we got a note back from his mom, thanking us for the money. So far, so good.

Then she tells us that this 9 yr old boy got $600 total from all his relatives. She says she gave him $150 to spend, and tells us that she wisely had him invest the rest in stock.

She then goes on to tell us about all his activities, he's active in this and that, and oh yes he's now playing soccer too. Wait, the soccer league is terribly underfunded, and if any friends and relatives can spare any money, $50, $25, or even $10 would be greatly appreciated. Can we spare anything?

I'm thinking not

People can be pretty greedy and self centered that's for sure.

Either she's lying about being broke or they are the type of people that feel entitled that they deserve something whether they can afford it or not. They could've put it on a credit card and considered it something they couldn't live without. My husband and I haven't gone in anywhere in months since I lost my job. We consider mortgage, food, utilities things we "deserve" so we'd rather spend our money on those than getting in debt for something that's gone in a few days.
Perhaps the real reason she took the second job is to pay off their overburdened credit cards or just to pay for the trip.
And although I am not saying she needs to give everyone on FB all her intimate financial details, she could have said nothing about her finances at all rather than lying or being disingenuous.

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It just sounds to me like she's an attention HO! Look at me...poor me...I've got more than you...whatever the attention...she's not even sure what kind of attention she wants. Does she want people to feel sorry for her or does she want people to be jealous of all she has! Wow...confusing to me! Soon she'll be posting pictures of her brand new car...

I know what you mean, I have known people who couldn't afford to pay their mortgage or bills, but yet they went out and bought an expensive item. I was left thinking did they lie about not having money or were they just seeking attention??

However, my initial thought was like that of cajmom. Maybe someone did pay for the cruise. I know at a time when I was having financial difficulties people blessed us with clothing, food and items....

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