Christmas just isn't inspiring joy in me this year:

Just talked to my sister--her husband told her today he's leaving her (oh did I mention it's her 50th birthday?) He doesn't want the responsibility of taking care of the kids (my sister got custody of her 3 step grandkids--long story--).

My niece (who just turned 25) left her husband tonite. She has a little boy (7) and her husband has a DD (9). Well, my niece caught the kids playing "Dr." And the husband went ballistic and told my niece's little boy that if he ever touched the girl again, he would have him put in jail. (oh did I mention that the husband is a prison guard? ) forever.

My divorce was final on Monday. I realized today how friggin' angry I am with ex--and am struggling w/ feelings of hate toward him. I'm really struggling with wanting to be evil and vindictive toward him. And it just makes me angrier to know--he doesn't care! I mean he had a girlfriend before the divorce was even filed, much less final!

*sigh* I certainly hope the new year is better...

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Life is hard. Just remember the good things, like your kids, and the real meaning of the season. I know it's hard not to want to be vindictive. All that anger hurts you much more than him. I'm sure the anger will lesson as time goes by. The best way to "get even" is to be HAPPY. Try to think about that when you start thinking about revenge, etc...

I always think "this could be my last Christmas" when it's a bad year. Fortunately for me this is a good year and I am so in the spirit and everything is going well. Just a few months ago I was feeling bad and kind of hopeless so I know how you feel. I also know this too shall pass and sometime, hopefully soon, you will be feeling better.
I hate to sound corny but corny always works for me: one door closed is another door open.

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Marilyn I sincerely hope and pray that 2010 will be a better year for you and your children and your family may God Bless all. Your a strong women and I know you did the right thing so sorry to hear about your family. Try to enjoy christmas for your children they need now more then ever. Peace. Catherine

Oh I don't know about all this positive talk...I think a little "Thelma and Louise" by you and your sister is called for!

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marilynk,
Get your sister & niece together. Find someone to watch the kids for the night. Buy some wine, ice cream, cake and other indulgences and have b...tch fest to air all of your anger & frustrations. After all, they have a good idea of what you are going through and will understand. New Years Eve would be perfect. Start the New Year right. Maybe it will help you all feel a little better.
Judy

When things are rough I always remind myself that everything - good or bad - is a phase. Just bear through it and things will eventually get better. I really hope 2010 is much brighter for you.

Lisa

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