Should I be upset?

I read about the girls night for the neighbors on facebook. It is apparently how we are 'supose' to keep in touch because it is to cold out.

I have one neighbor defreind me after her dog attacked our dog (ours was leased on the side walk while her's was not) She tried to BLAME my 11 year old. It was about a week or two later that my daughter Girl Scout troop leader (also neighbor and other neighbor's friend) defriended me as well.

All the other neighbors are friendly, talking to me when we are out and on facebook.

Did I get black balled or what?

Oh, the kicker from the post the person who has the girls night out had talked out us going on together leaving the guys at home.

THIS PLACE IS SO HIGH SCHOOL! I don't think I will even talk to my neighbors when we move again!

For whatever reason, it does seem you got left out. I'm sorry that happened to you, it doesn't feel good. We just don't have control over what other people do, and are only responsible for ourselves. Just try to find some good in this. Don't dwell, it won't do you any good, and they "win". Hope tomorrow is better!

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Melissa........... I agree with you 100%. The kicker is that I thought I was 'friends' with the neighbors...... It just hurts to be left out no matter the reason............. seems that everyone but me was included. I don't go out much because it is so cold however I know one of the persons who was invited doesn't either because they have a little one.

I bring kids home from meetings to help out the neighbors when my kid(s) are there. I let them use my cell even though it is a pay as you go. I give or loan them things that I know they need FROM their face book post..

I am like huh? I just cannot wait until it gets warmer so that I can request my snow gear back without seeming like an @#$# for doing so. The kicker is that this is the person who have everyone over and they live right in FRONT of me. What the?

I see from you location that you are AF? Do you live on base? I totally remember what that was like. I kind of miss it, but that was many years ago. Seems like a lifetime. My kids were babies, now my dd is married and my ds is in the AF himself. But, I digress...lol

Living in close quarters like that is hard. Sometimes our lives get too intertwined. This will pass and you will just have to move on to get alone. They are gonna do what they are gonna do. Just be the bigger person, even though I know your hurt.

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I agree, if you live on base, this can be typical. Don't try to be everyone's friend. Connect with one or two who will become lifetime friends.......

dl

some women (and by some, I mean most in my experience) are so "high school" forever. I am friendly with all the neighbors but I don't try to please everyone. There are basically 3 groups of women in our neighborhood. The group that hangs out together and does girls nights or happy hours at one of their houses, the group that hates the first group and does their own thing and the group of us who aren't invited to either. I am in the 3rd group and like it. I never liked the 'oh, you weren't invited...TOO BAD' in high school and I certainly don't need it now.

Host your own party with non-neighborhood friends. That's what I do. Are they wondering why they weren't invited? WHO CARES! Life goes on

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Our neighborhood has the 1st group and kind of a mix of the 2nd. I don't think any of us "hate" the first group, but the first group does nothing but party together and seem to forget they have a family (or maybe family isn't their 1st priority). The rest of us drink but not to that extent and have no interest in being their "bffs". It doesn't bother me when they get together because I'm right where I want to be. Maybe that's the difference - I'd rather have a drink with my DH than a bunch with some girls I don't really care that much about.

We're all friendly, wave hi, talk when were out, but I have no interest in "partying" with them. We're just different that way.

Lisa

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This is my answer to the petty neighborhood BS! I only am friendly to my neighbors..don't try and be friends. Too close for comfort! People are idiots so I've found! I tried this friend stuff when I bought my first house many many years ago...it seemed the thing to do...every weekend there'd be a party at someone's house and it was all fine and dandy until someone pissed someone off! JUST SAY NO!

I've met a couple people when we moved in a year ago. I have a friend about 10 houses down and that's enough. I dont need to know everyone or be friends with everyone

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Sounds like the woman whose dog had an altercation with your dog is the ring leader, so to speak. It appears that she at least influenced your other friend to exclude you. Yes, very highschool-like behavior. Maybe you are better off without them, as this will probably continue when one of them gets mad at the other, then all of a sudden you're friends with them again. Who has time for all that silliness?

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I agree with you. Sometimes you are better off just keeping to yourself. Then you won't have to deal with this nonsense. Just have one or two close friends in the hood who you can go out for coffee or lunch sometimes. I find (at least in our neighborhood) that those girls nights out end up just being a big gossip fest after everyone has had one too many to drink. You don't need that drama. ~Lisa

No - don't waste your energy. Ask yourself why you care about these women. Popularity isn't all its cracked up to be.

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This is why it's so much easier to be friends with men.
For the most part they don't play those stupid games like that, they either like you as a friend or they don't, period.

Don't bother with the catty women, find a few others that you really like and hang out wiht them.

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I agree Targetgirl. 99% of my friends are men

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OMG- MOVE TO AZ- i would love a neighbor with girl scout cookies and a "attaclk dog" lol

Hey maybe you live in my neighborhood? Sounds like the same group of miserable high school acting women. It hurts but you have to hold your head up high and screw em because they aren't worthy of your friendship.

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HA... I would love too........... no BLIZZARD with another one on the way. Oh, wait no cookies because of the roads we aren't picking them up on Tue as planned......... UGHHHHHHH

I agree with all........... I will not be so willing to go out of my way to be a 'good' neighbor next place we live. I 'was' in the IN crowd BEFORE more folks moved in then slowly I was no longer o f 'use or interest' to the 'ring leader'. I don't do all the flipping 'high class over priced stuff' so I was soon finding myself not knowing what the heck they were talking about.

Background: loaned my extra pair of snow boots to the neighbor who had the 'girls night out' however didn't invite me.

ok... It seems that the LAST storm DD didn't tell me her snow shoes were to small. I of course didn't see the new storm(s) coming so I didn't get her new ones. There is also my plan on her being able to use my current shoes while I use my 'extra' pair of snow boots............. LOL, one BIG storm is enough for one year right?

So... now I have an issue. I NEED the dumb boots that I LOANED the neighbor the LAST blizzard BACK. I don't want to come off like a sour B$#ch asking for them back however they are MINE! (of course asking for them back could COST me because she may be upset and refuse the GS cookies she pre-ordered. Oh, wait she has still not paid for the calender she ordered and has.)

She had the boots on earlier this week and gave me a BS line about how she couldn't find any snow boots under 80 dollars locally or on line. HUH? LIES......... you can find anything on line CHEAP if you look in the right place. She is a talker and makes everything sound so cool.

DD needs snow boots.................. I don't think at this point in the game we could order them and they arrive because of the roads.... I don't think any B&M would have them at this point. I don't know what to do............ I told her that I wanted them back but didn't say "WHEN". ughhhhhhhhhhhh

I started the Halloween "boo" for our neighborhood. It was so en-lighting to SEE how everyone reacted as they told their "boo" stories and tried to figure out who booed who.. I don't think anyone knew it was me........... however.......... Boy did I learn something about how well the folks around here can lie with a smile on their face. I knew who Booed who for the first few Boo's.

Call me a bitch if you like, but I would knock on her door and ask for my boots and wait for them. Sounds like you have taken enough guff and they are your property.

I think I have worked up the nerve to ask for them back. I just don't feel right having to. We are getting another 10+ inches of snow. I cannot see making my DD suffer with her current boot situation. I did make it clear that DD would end up with mine because her's were to small so.

Oh, I also JUST found out that another neighborhood was invited to the Girls Night out. So I have been black balled anyways.... guess I shouldn't care. I would still be "in" had we not taken offense to the ring leaders dog trying to eat ours.

LOL, I will let you know if I lose my nerve or not. I should not be losing sleep and wasting my time over NOT having my boots back. It would be totally different if we were friends because I would feel comfortable telling a friend that I needed them back regardless of the weather.

You can't lose your nerve because they don't give a crap about you. Get mad and think to yourself that your DD comes FIRST. You go get those boots and you will feel so much better. Trust me!

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Well if they do do the "high priced stuff" then she can afford to go get herself some snow boots. And, if they think that you don't do that, what is she doing walking around in YOUR boots anyway? She should be happy to give them back to you...right? :0)

We don't even have clicks in our neighborhood. I have lived here for 16 years and see people come and go. I will wave and talk if they are out but as far as friends and groups I have my own friends from high school and work.

A little OT, but, EWWWW, I would not want to wear someone else's shoes. As for the boots, I'd ask for them, back, then in the trash they would go.

Don't waste another second worrying about this childish nonsense. I'm sure you have a family to spend your time on.

JMTCW.

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So... Did you get your boots back??? By the way, it's been a NICE 50 degrees here all weekend! Sorry for all you getting a TON of snow!