the lovely "X" had the audacity to threaten to take me back to court to "re-do" our divorce paperwork because he's angry that I am going through the state Child Support Enforcement. That means he will be subject to automatic payroll deductions--every payday! He just wants to pay me himself--of course he has yet to pay on time, so ummmm....NO! I think the state can deal with his goofy behind!

He backed down when I explained exactly what I would do legally if he took me back to court----he's got lots of skeletons in his closet (so to speak). I don't think he's handling the new, assertive and confident woman I am!
Don't worry. I am continuing to be nice/polite/friendly to him in front of the children. I don't talk bad about him in front of the kids. I continue to try and "promote" him in the kids' eyes.....This has all been done via email (yes, all of which I saved--sent and r'cd.)

He's so pathetic that I can only just shake my head, and wonder why I stayed as long as I did!

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

SOunds like you scared him. Glad you will not have to chase after him. It will be a lot less hassle for you. He will get it over it, or not.
Good for you!

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I thought most states had it taken out of their paychecks. That shouldn't be a big surprise to him. Way to hold your own!

Good for you. And, I am glad those darned "state government employees" (paid by everyone's taxes) are able to assure your children are supported by your husband. Because, one way or another, everyone would end up assuring your children are supported and cared for.

And, I am really glad you are able to take the high road with your kids. After watching my sister go through this, I can assure you the kids figure it out. By taking the high road, you are allowing them to figure it out. That way, they arrive at the knowledge themselves and are not only better adults for it, but will have a better appreciation for you. (If you can wait 10 years).

I couldn't be a Child Support enforcement officer---I had no tolerance for parents who didn't want to pay, or wanted to make it some difficult ordeal for everyone, I darned sure don't have any now.

I called my caseworker today and advised her that X wouldn't give me the information, and said he wouldn't give it to CSED until he absolutely had to. Her response was priceless: *chuckle* "oh, is that what he thinks? He doesn't have to give that information...we'll see about that" *chuckle*
I could have hugged her.
And you know what? I've never had to leave her a voice-mail. She always answers her phone. I always answer my phone @ work, but still have voice-mail! I've either got really good timing or something...

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I bet that made your day! I couldn't work in that field either-I'd get too frustrated and mad.

Good for you to stand your ground! Do not let him intimidate you by threatening court....the worst thing you can do is take legal advice from your ex! It is actually better for him, as he has an accurate accounting of what is paid/recieved.

My daughter has her ex bf on state cs.....he is in contempt, again, for not paying his $62 per month child support. The county automatically files the charges--she doesn't have to do a thing or even show up. He was soooo po'd at her for 'going after him' until he learned it is out of her hands. It is getting to the point where he has to make an effort or he will be wearing an orange jumpsuit!

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Marilyn I applaud you for the strength you have shown through this whole ordeal... I only wish I had 1/8th of your strength to deal with the divorce mess here. I think its best to let the State get the CS out of the checks because you are guaranteed the money and most people dont understand that.

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Can you tell me why you were unable to keep your man?

pepperpot, you are funny. I wish you would come out of the closet.....

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Well said Melissa!

Closet?? I thought they lived under bridges???

Oh that's an easy one TROLL---my X likes to perform oral sex on men( a little tid bit of information he conveniently failed to mention to me when we met). I don't have the necessary equipment for him to find me enjoyable. Further, I was not willing to allow him to have men he "met" on Craigslist to come to my home.

But, hey! If you want him--I will gladly give you his name, number and address.
(yes, I know I don't have to answer the TROLL---but, I refuse to be a victim or be bashed for something that is not, was not and never will be my fault.

Thanks for playing PP---we have some lovely parting gifts for you to take back to your bridge.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Why didn't you take him to your pastor to be cured of the illness? You could have saved your marriage.

OH YOU ARE A LAUGH RIOT!
here's a tidbit for you---God told me to divorce. Chew on that a while

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