A neighbor shared some wedding pictures with me, of a wedding she recently went to. I saw pictures from the church and pictures from the reception. I was a bit confused when I saw the same people that I had seen in the wedding photos (the wedding party in particular) in the reception photos in a change of (casual) clothes. I know there was a rather lengthy break between the wedding and the reception, but, has that become the thing to do??? Change your outfit to basically street clothes, before you go to the reception???

It's been a few years since I have been to a wedding. I have been to many, and I have never seen this practice before.

__________________
Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

My dd is getting married in 1 1/2 weeks (July 3rd the weekend everyone is getting married). She has also been to several weddings in the past 2 years. Everyone stays dressed for the wedding and reception. But what I have noticed is that the wedding and reception happen one right after another with no gaps. In fact, they are having a Catholic wedding at 3:00 ( about an hour) and then people are going right to the reception from about 4:30 to 9:00. Receptions are happening earlier and not lasting until midnight like when I got married.

I've been to 2 weddings lately and both stayed dressed in their wedding clothes. Both receptions ended really early in my opinion. I was suprised at how early they ended! One around 10 and the other around 11. But people were really thinning out before that.

Lisa

__________________
"It's not having what you want,
It's wanting what you've got"

I've never heard of people changing into street clothes, I've seen the bride change into "wedding sneakers" instead of staying in her heels but that's about it!

(Oh I was at a traditional Chinese wedding where the bride changed into a bunch of different gowns, one more stunning than the next!)

Congratulations to your DD.

Apparently, this wedding started at 1:30, but, the reception did not begin until 6:30. This is a five hour gap. I wonder if they were just having "hor's deouvers" (sp?) and some of the guests went out for dinner before the reception??? My neighbor did say the bride is "pretty frugal", but, that would be tacky, IMO.

__________________
Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

Been to many weddings and have not seen anyone changing to street clothes and going to the reception. That certainly is not the norm. Maybe it is something the couple wanted, a casual feel to their reception

Congrats to your daughter by the way. Best Wishes to both of them.

__________________
Loida Chan
A Bargain Shopper who believes that Life's Luxuries can come at small prices.

In my day (36 years ago), the reception started at 5:00 for dinner and went until midnight with dancing. Most places you rent will give you 4 hours for the reception and if you want more it costs more money. Since we have 3 small grandchildren and my husband has health problems we took the 9:00 pm departure. We are having ours at the Knights of Columbus of which we are members so if it goes a bit longer they will not care.

I'd think it would depend on the circumstances. If there's a big gap in time, I wouldn't want to stay all dressed up for hours. I'm used to the reception being immediately after the wedding though. I'd also heard of people only going to the reception. I'd think that was pretty tacky unless you just had to work or something.

When my brother got married, they changed clothes at some point during the reception. I forget exactly when.

His wife wanted a huge, traditional wedding - with all the bells and whistles. And this was about 35 years ago. So, I think if anything, this is an old tradition rather than a new one.

I found this on this Web site on wedding receptions:

Lastly, change into your going away outfit (if you're doing that), have your last dance, say your goodbyes and leave.

__________________
If this is going to be a Christian nation that doesn't help the poor, either we have to pretend that Jesus was just as selfish as we are, or we've got to acknowledge that He commanded us to love the poor and serve the needy without condition, and then admit that we just don't want to do it.

- Stephen Colbert.

My wedding 2 years ago was about 6 hours including the ceremony and reception. I paid for an extra hour. We did not change into any other clothing but it was held at the same place so we could have more time with our guests and not make them wait around for any length of time. We tried to take all the pictures beforehand as well but it was too bright for many of them so our eyes were straining because of the sun so had to go back for a few more.
Mine started @ 5 and ended @ 11pm

__________________
-Kristi

I worked in catering for 10 years, we HATED when the reception wasn't right after the ceremony. We always had people banging on the doors wanting to come in early. They would come right after the ceremony. There is no way we could let them in, we were trying to set up, cook, get the hall ready. They would say there's just XXX of us. Well yeah and then the next set of XXX come and they want in too. We just couldn't do it and people would get pissed.

We saw everything. Really everything. People wear whatever to the reception.

__________________
Insanity laughs under pressure we're cracking

My parents went to my cousins DSs wedding last year and the wedding party went to a winery to take pictures and have a private reception. They all showed up 5 hours late falling down drunk. My parents lived several hours away and by the time the wedding party showed up it was almost 10pm! They stayed long enough for a quick dinner and left because they had a long drive home. Many of the guests were like my parents, in their 70's and lived several hours away. If you want to do something like that, at least have the courtesy to warn people so they can decide to stay or not. You just can't leave people fending for themselves for hours and hours.

__________________


MyCoupons is #1 for holiday shopping!