My daughter was invited to an 18th birthday party by two girls who are combining a special Masquerade Ball party. She knows one of the girls very well, and the other girl she knows, but barely. Does she bring a gift to both girls when she attends, or bring two gifts; the girl she knows well a bigger gift and the other girl, a smaller gift? What is the proper thing to do?

The gifts will most likely be gift cards or cash.

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I would bring a smaller gift for the other girl. It's thoughtful and considerate.

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Thanks for replying, Anna. I posted this because I really feel we should do the right thing, but it's a situation where you know one girl but not the other, really. So, what to do?

Am I out of line for even asking? I noticed 130 views, but only one reply.

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No you're not out of line at all. I bet you fifty cents there are those on this board who would not, for whatever reasons, give the second girl a gift. To me it's a matter of common courtesy as both girls (or their families I guess) are putting the party on. If you went to someone's house for dinner, even if you did not know them well, you would bring a bottle of wine, some flowers, a cake, something. To me it's the same thing.

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I agree with a smaller gift card for the girl you don't know very well.

The question the OP asked was about so many people reading the post and not answering. I am not sure how you made the jump from that to what you posted above. Of course there would people who would not bring a second gift...that is why we are all different. You made it seem as if that had some relationship to not posting an answer.

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I would also give a second smaller gift as well I believe it is the correct thing to do in this suituation but as Anna stated not everyone will agree or believe they must send a secomd gift and Anna I am sure that is exactly what you mean't to say.. Peace . Catherine

I would also give a second smaller gift. I hope your DD has a great time at the party

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I am pretty sure Anna is capable of answering for herself. She is an intelligent, literate person who certainly does not need you to tell me what she meant to say, but thanks so much for your help

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Suezz why would I ever think I would get a better comment from you ever, and yes I do know for fact Anna is an adult and can answer for herself but since we are great friends I know she would not mine me saying what I did and would appreciate any input she would have on my behalf... Have a wonderful rest of the night. Op your doing the correct thing with a small gift sincerely hope all works out. Peace. Catherine

This issue isn't that Anna would or would not "mind" if you answered my question on her behalf. The issue is that I wanted Anna to answer the question--- not you, as you have never had anything to say that I am interested in hearing. It is noteworthy that you are aware of that, but answered anyway. Have a good day now.

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Suezz proved my point and you made it clear, now you have a nice day.. Peace to others. Catherine

What point is that? That I find you obnoxious, the perpetual victim and an attention hog? If you knew that already, why did you answer a question I directed at someone else? Oh, I know to get attention and then to play the victim.
Go away, please.

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But Suezz you came back again for what reason to prove again how nasty and rude you are. And once again you totally proved it again in that lovely post you just left for me.... Truly sad as some have said some people never change... moving on.... and to op truly sorry to disrupt your original thread kindly continue. Peace to all. Catherine

You are the obnoxious one my dear. What a shame you have to harass the few good folks left on these boards

Please....make it so. Really...you promise that you are moving on??

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We sure as hell wish you would move on.Don't you get the message????

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Am I out of line for even asking? I noticed 130 views, but only one reply. [/QUOTE]

With the risk that I will get some abuse for answering this, I often read the posts but don't answer. This is particularly true in this case because I agree with the answers you got at the start. I usually only post if I have something to suggest that might differ from the other posts. I think gifts for both are in order, simply because both are inviting, paying for, and having birthdays. How you divvy up the amount is not as important as having a gift for each girl.

The party sounds like lots of fun. If it hasn't happened already, I hope everyone has a good time.

The party is tonight, and, yes it does sound like a lot of fun. It is a Masquerade Ball theme, so everyone dresses formally, and with a mask! Anyway, my daughter is at the party now, and hopefully having a great time. We ended up buying the good friend a gift certificate, and the other girl a gift certificate too, but half of the amount (as the good friend). I think that was the right thing to do for all. Thanks for all the responses!

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Crittles so glad you updated for us and all went well sounded like a real fun party peace. Catherine

How did the masquerade ball and what did your daughter wear? What were the outrageous/creative/interesting costumes? "Enquiring minds want to know" lol

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