Seems to be quite a bit of this in the news lately. My DH told me of a man at his work having sex outside of his marriage on a business trip. I just seem to think it is more rampant than we really know.

While watching the news about the HOR member who resigned due to sending inappropriate pictures of himself to another woman (who he "met" on Craigslist) , who is NOT his wife.....I thought....gee, how about these "women" start getting OUTED. Especially the ones who knowingly engage in an inappropriate relationship with a married man. Just wondering if that would do any good, do you think??? Kind of like a deterrant??

Thoughts???

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

Yeah, I agree that both parties are equally to blame. The man, however, will always be looked at as the pursurer, as the woman is looked at as a willing participant. Goes back to the oldest profession known. The woman may advertise, but the man pursues it.

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oh.......funny you should mention that. I'm working on that right now.............

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Melissa

AIA---don't get me started! LOL

Both parties are to blame. Both parties should be "outed" or held responsible(assuming everyone knew who was married!).

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I'm not positive, but I think the HOR guy on craigslist woman didn't know he was married in the beginning and had enough sense to start investigating him and found out who he really was. I'm not defending the women who knowingly go into a relationship with a married man, but many don't know. And until they do, it's no one's fault but the liar. After that they need to do a quick walk out the door or share the blame.

Trouble is, it's hard to prove that somebody *knew* they were involved w/a married man or woman.

Sort of like it's going to be challenging to prove that Lindsay L was under the impression that the stolen necklace was *on loan* to her...

But I digress - I think both parties involved when both know that one person is married are responsible.

But I feel that the married party in an affair has a whole lot more 'splaining to do...

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"The errors of faith are better than the best thoughts of unbelief." - Thomas Russell

And then there's the situation where both parties of the affair are married!

Simply put, if you are so unhappy w/ your spouse/SO, then you get out.
No one wins, but, I'd rather not win than be lied to, cheated on, and just in general be used.

Yep, lived it...Speak from experience. Took me three years to pull up my big girl panties and stop being a victim.

I digress...

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Not to pry, but, didn't you say you and your DH had worked things out, or do I have you confused with someone else? Did the woman know your DH was married?

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

I think it all goes back to the 'Good Ol' Boys' double standard......a single sexually active male is a stud, a single sexually active female is a slut.

If a married man cheats with a single woman, she's not doing anything wrong, other than being promiscuious (and that is a matter of opinion). She didn't make promises or take vows with the 'wronged wife'. What good would 'outing' these women do? Embarass them? Probably not..... Drag their name thru the papers? Meh....unless they are public figures--who cares.

Hold them responsible? How? Alienation of Affection suits are routinely thrown out of court........ Public Slut lists in the town square? hahahahahaha......

The best revenge is to dump the cheating, lying, sleazy people and live your own life well!

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