My friend and I are having a baby shower for her daughter this weekend. We invited about 20 people. Less than half have RSPVed. I am sure more people will show up than have called.
Do people not know what RSVP means? This is not the first time in recent history this has happened to someone I know.
We fully intend to prepare food as though everyone were coming but what the?

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Apparently not. I think it's very inconsiderate for people to not RSVP. If it says to, then by god RSVP! I hate HATE it when I try to plan something and hardly anyone calls to say yes or no. Is it that difficult to pick up the phone???

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Any chance you can break up the list and each call 5 - 6 people to inquire? That'd beat cooking for 20 and only having 8 show up!

Change the location, only tell those who have rsvp'd and let anyone else that shows up, show up at the wrong place, with no one there. And then you can say, " Gee I'm sorry about that, but I told everyone that rsvp'd. Did I miss your rsvp?" Oh I know you won't do it, but it would be fun, wouldn't it?

I was invited to a grad. party this last weekend. The invite came through facebook. I posted, telling the host that we would be there. I noticed at least 10 people who had declined on facebook. Just before the event I talked to the host on the phone to get directions and ask if I could bring anything. He was surprised that we were coming. I had posted my answer at least a week prior. So it seems to go both ways. We went in spite of the less than warm response, because my brother was in town and going to be there and I wanted to spend time with him. At the party, I asked the host how many he was expecting and he got a blank look and shrugged. He didn't have a clue. I guess this is the future. Kind of scary.

OMG - I love that. That would be awesome!

I have noticed it, too. It seems no one RSVPs anymore and it drives me crazy!

Lisa

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I had that problem with my wedding invites where we had to pay per head. My Matron of Honor had to call at least 20 people to confirm.

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omg this is PRICELESS!!!! I'll have to keep this in mind....LOL!!!

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Personally, I don't think of Facebook invitations as 'real' invitations - at least not to graduation parties. Here, kids pretty much willy-nilly send those out to every single 'friend' they have. It's more like a shotgun method of informing the world that there is a fun come and go that they can attend, rather than a personalized wish for someone to attend their party.

Well I would love to be able to change the location it would serve people right. My friend called some of the people so we have a general idea. I just think, as we've discussed here before, that there is a general decline in manners.

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Just curious - the ones she called - were they planning to come or not? I think you should RSVP either way, but find it 'less rude' to not call if you are not coming than if you are. But, that's just me....

Lisa

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Well I'm rather new at facebook, and the invitation was from the father of the graduate, so I took it as a real one, (it showed up in my email box). If it wasn't, then next time, perhaps he will use a different method of inviting people lol.. He got us whether he wanted us or not.

wildwood, I do understand that - but having been on FB for awhile, I've come to view invitations sent via that method to be kind of like junk mail. If somebody goes to the trouble (and the expense) to send me something in the mail, I give it a lot more credibility than if they create an "event" in FB. In FB, I believe it auto-checks your entire friends list unless you tell it not to, and sends the invitation out in a big blanket way. I think that half the time, the people who create "events" like that don't even go back and check to see who has responded. It's more like a "notice" than an actual invitation, I think.

I can understand your response, though - it's how I felt the first time or two I got one! I thought, "Oh, now nice! I was invited!"... and then when I saw others who responded, I realized I wasn't all that special. lol

Some said yes and some said no and some didn't answer or call back. Two are bringing small children. I don't like that. We are playing Pin the Sperm on the Egg with some cutouts of cute cartoon sperm from the internet and I don't want to have to explain it to anyone.

I am hoping that people don't bring an extra person with them without saying anything.

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