What is the deal with people?

I had a "friend" on FB who I noticed had dropped off my friends list. When I asked her about it she said she just KNEW something I posted was in reference to her. I truly have no clue what she is talking about. Are people narcosistic or just paranoid?

Sheesh......its not always about "you".

Are you someone who assumes like this?

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Most definitely not all about me, I am one of kindest , caring, loving, extremely emotional person. I am deeply friendly and always say thanks and your welcome and hi and bye. I am very well in my home town and all the locals and local stores know we as Catherine, Forget about the school where I worked, It was the schools my children all went too, we are extremely small I know everyone and they know me. It is not all about me at all, but it is not nice to continue to have someone being mean-spirited to you over and over and then turn around and cry wolf, not me.......Peace. Catherine

I assume people who start posts just to bash others posters are jerks.

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- Stephen Colbert.

YES that would be the general consensus!

Had this same thing happen earlier this year!

I was going through a lot w/ work, w/ the Ex and some other "drama". I posted some rants about Ex and work being as vague as possible so as to not offend or name names. The other "drama" got all testy and de-friended me.

I finally had a face to face with the other drama--and told him he was being paranoid, and he admitted that yeah he was paranoid, and took things too personally. Especially after I explained to him what was going on with work and with the Ex.

So, yeah, paranoia plays a part in this sort of stuff....

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I agree with the paranoia but it is also just a sense that the world revolves around them. " If you were talking about someone, it would have to be me!!"

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Allinaugust....I wonder why people here would assume you are referring to them...

However, narcissism and paranoia abound on this board. And they are not mutually exclusive.

It could just be that you are just posting for discussion...... nothing wrong with that!

Yes, I've definately known people like that. I guess I always attributed it to insecurity. If a comment really was NOT about them, I just usually reassure them it's not, smile and move on. That's about all you can do and it involves the least amount of drama.

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Sanstat , narcissism and paranoia exists all over the world in every single facet of life,but to say it abounds here on the board it a bit too much and way over the top simulation. However we do experience drama now and then. Peace. Catherine

Are you serious? Get a clue, girl!

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Oh, and so does denial...LOL


And don't take that personally Lucy/Catherine!...unless you choose to do so!

Yes, for sure!

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Okay Mods it is happening again I think you must delete this thread as well, as you can plainly see, they are referring to me, this thread was started for me......proof is what sanstat and groovygirl just confirmed. Truly wish all this drama would stop. If your going to make a thread do like I did I mentioned the name right in the title, do not hide and pretend the conversation or thread is about a FB friend, honestly I am not that stupid, although you ladies by your rude mean spirited comments think I am. Thanks Mods so much in advance... Peace to you. Catherine

And then you've got the people that believe themselves to be better than everyone else is every way... I guess that qualifies as Narcissistic.

I think you'd have to be deaf dumb and blind to not know this bashing is 100% directed toward you! Unfortunately you are pretty much the only nice person left here! I wonder why no one hardly ever posts here anymore...ha wonder? NOT!

Catherine, if you really think it is all about you(as you usually do), just stop opening and reading. Truth be told, you LOVE the attention you get when you can cry "they are picking on me", like a pre-schooler, and then have some kind soul come and pat your back and say, "Don't cry, they are just mean, and you are nice". It is SO OLD!

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Really GG you seriously think this is not about me, you must think I am some fool, I am not and if the shoe was on the other foot, as it has been at you, many times, I have seen you come into that particular thread over and over to try to defend yourself, and you expect me to sit back and just take it. I will not I will stand up for my rights. Your the teacher correct??? in our class we always emphasize never to lie and tell the truth... You are not telling the truth...........Peace to all my friends. Catherine

I have not told any truth nor untruth here. I am just saying that YOU are loving the attention, even the negative (like children do). I have never run around here yelling that they are picking on me, and begging the moderators to make them say who they are talking about or make them stop. I am a grown up and people on a message board do not affect my real life, nor do I need any moderator to come to my rescue.

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Oh I can't stand that either! I have a friend like that who thinks all my posts are about her...and none of them ever are!

well, whether you believe it or not: I don't believe this to be aimed at you. I'm friends w/ AA on facebook. We've had this discussion there...

Maybe poor timing on AAs part, or perhaps she saw something that made her think of her situation.

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Don't pop her bubble.....she really wants it to be about her, so just let her think it.

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REALLY??? This thread was NOT about you. Kindly and "peacefully" GET OVER YOURSELF ALREADY!!!

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  Deleted u way back in september after ur little comment that I know very well was ment for me.

For all of you who think this post was directed at anyone on THIS board, here is part of the message I received, as stated, on FB. Gee, look at that....It WASN'T about YOU after all!!!!

Mods, maybe I can suggest you BAN ILOVELUCY for all the drama and BS she has caused!!!

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Maybe had you not included the line I bolded and in red one could assume it was about a person on facebook ONLY but since the added line, we all know who it's about! We all know just exactly what you meant!

Lucy, my past awareness of AiA leads me to believe that, as Marilyn suggested, it may have just been poor timing on her part.

I absolutely believe a number of other comments in this thread are veiled jabs at you. Anyone with half a brain can see that.

But please pay close attention to something. Go back and look at the past posts. You are the only one who asks a mod to rescue you.

Any time anybody makes a comment that sounds like it might be directed at you - and admittedly, some of them are - rather than just moving on, you start shrieking at them and about them.

And I hate to harp on this, but you get lax with your posts, and say things that are not accurate (such as the teacher thing), and that is just like carelessly walking through a yard full of rottweilers carrying a bucket of steak scraps and accidentally letting some of them fall out. As soon as the dogs see you've got something for them to chew up and spit out, it's all over for you.

I honestly don't know if the issue is that you love the attention, however negative it may be, or if, like your kindergartners, you think that there should always be fairness, that everybody should play nice, and that nobody should have their feelings hurt. And that you think there is always somebody who can 'fix it' and put everybody back in their places when somebody strikes out at them out of pure meanness.

What I think you need to understand is that you bear a lot of responsibility for this. We're all big kids here, and part of being a big kid is communicating with your most astute and mature foot forward. Part of being a big kid is developing the ability to learn from the past and in the future, behave in a way that doesn't bring about the result you didn't like - even if you think you were in the right.

The teacher thing, for example. You're not a teacher. You just aren't. I understood what you meant when you said that the kids in the room call you teacher. When I was a student teacher and not a 'real' one, the kids called me teacher, but I was not yet really a teacher. My kids called the para in their K room one of their 'teachers', too.

But unquestionably, there is a difference between the teacher and the para. I feel relatively certain that the activities that you direct were developed by individuals who did have teaching degrees and not a committee of paras. If a school were to start cutting teachers based on poor testing performance, it's not the paras whose necks would be on the chopping blocks. I don't doubt that you work side by side with a certificated teacher, but that does not make you equals. He has to assume the responsibility for that room and answer for things. I assume when they have faculty meetings, he goes to them and you don't. I assume his pay scale is a salaried scenario, and yours is more likely to be hourly.

And I assume your job is not the ones that the teacher's union would go to bat for first.

That doesn't make you a bad person or make what you *do* do any less valuable. But it is what it is, and it's not what it isn't.

I have a relative who always talked about her daughter who was in 'medical school.' The thing is... she is in the medical field, and even has "Dr." in front of her name, but she was not in *medical* school. What the daughter did was impressive enough in its own right. Why the mom needed to assert that it was medical school was beyond me. Just SAY WHAT IT IS - there is no shame in it, and you won't have egg on your face when you're caught playing fast and loose with terms in a way that leaves you looking a little bit more accomplished in that particular realm than you may happen to be. There is no shame in being a para. It's a pretty noble duty, in fact. So claim it, own it, and wear it with pride. To do anything else makes you look extremely dishonest.

And as I said before, that's an invitation for the dogs to go crazy over the scraps you were careless with.

And for emphasis, I say the scraps that YOU were CARELESS with.

I will second that motion (raises hand, saying "aye aye").......others have been banned for far less and in a much lesser period of time. This is like the movie Groundhog Day, she's the same over and over and over and over.

dl

It is surprising how much she has gotten away with on this board...to the detriment of the board.

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This little two minute clip of a talk is very applicable to this situation.

It's dealing with spouses, and has a Christian emphasis at the end, but the point is great whether you're religious or not, dealing with a spouse or dealing with a friend.

Can a grain of sand in your eye be responsible for the infection you ultimately get?

Can the same grain of sand be responsible for the development of a pearl in an oyster?

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Surely you jest?

Coupons, I get what you are saying. I really do. Some smell blood and they start gnashing their teeth and playing stupid about it.

But it really is a two-way street. As nasty as some can be towards Lucy, she doesn't know when to call it a day and quit feeding the trolls. It's like there is no self-control. To go start a thread wanting to know what happened and asking the mods what was said and thanking for deleting mean things... that's just not how it's done.

PM a mod. PM the one you're fussing with. But launch a thread about attacks on you when you're in the middle of a lot of attacks? Um... not the way to clear the air and arrive at peace if you know what I mean. Just ignore it. Put the offenders on ignore. I understand why one might be bothered by the attacks, but to flail around in misery on the internet begging for somebody to save you from people who point out the mistakes and misstatements you make is just begging them to keep it going.

To wowitsdark I read everything you said some ideas I agree with you while others I do not. For example since the thread about the teachers, was locked and then for DL and AiA to come the next day and start talking about teachers cheating, then to a topic about being responsible for your actions, then to a thread about its all about me. Now you honestly can tell me, these threads were seriously not about me maybe not by putting my name , but going around the topic , but really the true intent was to further talk about me. Sorry wow but I disagree, no hard feelings towards me. Now as far as me asking the mods for help, that is what they are hear for, to help us. You can not tell me honestly that I have been picked upon a lot especially under a heated topic. So if I hear you correctly I fuel the fire or add to the flames, when I did not start the trouble. Am I suppossed to just sit back and let them walk all over me, and say whatever they want. From the beginning DL never liked me and she would take any chance to jump on the bad wagon and attack me on any level. The best part today now BS was said and I need to be banned really, I am not the one who is attacking people. For DL to tell me I should be very careful I could lose my job, that is not right. I will fully admit I am not a teacher in a written certificate, however in our school district, kindergarten paraprofessionals are considered teachers on many levels, why because we help the teachers right along side them to teach the children. Other then that I have no other way to explain it. Okay so let this thread be about FB and lets see what happens. Again wow I extremely value your views and you do contribute a lot to this site, however I assume we must agree to disagree on some of the ideas you spoke of, either well I always wish you peace. Catherine

Lucy, the cheating thing has been all over the news.

If you look at that thread, you'll see that USNAMOM and... is it Wildwood? Sorry - I have too many browsers open to look from here, but they disagreed with me. I absolutely think their responses are all washed up. The standards didn't MAKE people cheat - they just revealed that those people would rather cheat and keep their jobs than contact somebody at the state level and whistleblow on the administrators. In the end, it was the kids who suffered.

I can't tell you how much I disagree with them.

But nobody got squealy and whiny and started screaming for a mod to jump in and save them.

Lucy, you're not supposed to just sit back and let them walk all over you.

What you don't understand is this:

1) You ARE NOT a teacher. Just say that. You help teach, yes, but you are not legally a certificate-holding teacher who is on the payroll classified as a teacher. But you couldn't just SAY that.

2) You had the opportunity to stop it by just saying, "Sorry - I help *teach*, but I'm not a certified teacher. I work as a para in a classroom that is staffed by a certified teacher, and they give me a lot of responsibility. I love it." But rather than just owning your position, you argued about whether you are or are not a teacher.

3) You also had the opportunity to just ignore it. You make it entertaining because you get so worked up. Nobody will walk all over you if you just ignore it. They only walk on you because you keep the conversation going. And when it dies down, you start new threads about it!

I don't think this can be about FB now. It's already gone too far down the wrong track.

Yep! It took a sharp left somewhere....



I found that shooting fish in a barrel really isn't that much fun or entertaining.
That, and there's the whole beating a dead horse thing....

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Catherine, I did not even READ the threads you mention that I am involved with above (other than the one that I started, of course). It just so happened I came here to post something and apparently it struck a nerve with you.

Just for the record, let there be no misunderstanding.....in regards to the thread I JUST posted about military protocol, that is NOT ABOUT YOU EITHER!!!!! Just so we're clear on that

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AiA, I'm very careful not to post any FB status that could be construed as a veiled message about anything. I have a friend whose every status seems to have some hidden drama, and other friends make fun of her for it behind her back.

I never want to be the one they are making fun of - lol.

She's apt to say, "... is wishing that person could just be nice and not have to treat me like dirt all the time!"... or "can't forget the time she was wronged last year." That kind of stuff that leaves people wondering who she is talking about.

I know the effect her posts have on me (confusion, worry about who is upset at whom, etc.), so I try not to leave anybody else confused like that.

I know what you mean. I only posted part of the message I received from her. She actually dropped me last September, so I can't remember WHAT she is talking about. I don't post things that are that wide open, like the examples you gave, but, I do know what you mean. The funny thing is, this "friend" had posted something about Mexicans and another mutual "friend" of ours, told her she was offended by it, to which she replied "too bad, my wall...." Clearly we were not THAT great of "friends" if she dropped me in September, and I am just now noticing, right??? LOL.

I just think it's funny the way people think everything is about them. A good motto is "It's not always about YOU", which can be applied to so many situations.

Thanks for your input, and for trying to be helpful.

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Okay to settle again Wow you have made some clear and valid points, I would have to honestly say I am a very emotional person, I am who I am and very passionate about things I love, just passionate on many levels. To not having my name on a certificate about being a certified teacher, that does not concern me, for the most important reason, I simply love my job and working with the children and because I do teach and help them well that is how I feel. I am not a certified kindergarten teacher, but I do teach. To AIA I never ever want to be called a liar so I offer you a sincere apology if your post was not about me... Okay please lets move on, thanks so much. Peace. Catherine

Good job wow....I guess you got that point across .

Now you dealt with crying to the mods and we got this reponse...."that is what they are hear (sic) for, to help us." I guess you got that point across also .

One more issue you might want to address is the danger of sharing so much information on the board so that we know exactly who she is, where she lives, where she works, who her family members are and all their issues. While it may not be a concern to talk about one's children when one is anonymous, it is WRONG to share THEIR issues when they have been identified....daughters' boyfriends issues, son's health issues...both physical and emotional. They did not ask to be identified on this board and I am sure did not ask mom to ask for advice on their behalf.

While ILL needs to put her life out there, I am sure her children do not and it is immoral to put them in the position.

So solve that one too, wow. Thanks

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