I have a "friend" who tends to suck the life out of me!
She called this morning to tell me her morning drama: She got woke up by police and probation officers looking for a kid that had spent the nite w/ her son. The kid had missed his probation appt. So, while police were there they recognized another kid that had been living w/ her--and that kid had a warrant out for his arrest! So, she and her son are just all sort of upset because the police arrested this kid and took him out in handcuffs! Hello??? Do you hear yourself? The kid has had LOTS of problems w/ "the law"....

Oh, and then she proceeds to tell me that she was afraid the police had come for her other son, since he was still on probation and had gotten a minor in possession ticket. So, I inquire as to whether that child was in school. Ummmmm....no, he isn't, because well there's a bad element of school and he's gonna wait until January when some sort of "special" school starts session WHAAAAAT??
Obviously, your grand plan isn't working if the little snot got a ticket for possession of alcohol!!!!

I swear to all that is HOLY! I just can't hardly stomach talking to her anymore. She's a "Maytag" when it comes to my Ex--always trying to stir up something. She calls every day, just to have the same conversation we had the day before....

*sigh* I don't want to hurt her feelings, but geez louise! I'm starting to avoid her calls.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I'm jealous You got to use MAYTAG first before I did! {{laughing}}

Seriously tho, I think it was a smart man that invented caller I.D. No joke. He kinda makes up for the dude that invented pantyhose.

X

PS... Where is everybody else today? Seems quiet around here. I've been doing laundry and dishes checking posts in between chores and it seems like we got some missing around here.

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Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28

Marilyn,
I swear I have the same friend as you do. She called me this morning to complain about her 20 year old son and the fact that he has been disrespectful and will not get off the couch where he sleeps all day and parties all night. He graduated from high school LAST May and hasn't found a job yet because there aren't any jobs he feels he can do. He barely graduated from school which is of course the teacher's fault and believes that certain jobs are beneath him (nurses aide, McDonalds).

He is disrespectful to her and her husband she says. They gave him a car to look for a job but he hasn't filled out any applications. I told her that in the small town they live in, it could be hard to find a job but in the city 40 miles away there would be better places to apply but she won't let him move there because it is too far away. She won't fill out financial aid forms for him to go to some trade school until he says he is ready to learn because "he is immature" "her boys mature later than other kids".

I just get so frustrated by parent's who won't let their children live. She is in such denial. I did a scrapbook for her a few weeks ago and she got it and in there is a page of her son and my youngest who is the same age. Her words were "Isn't it a shame that at that time the two boys were just the same and when they went to school, the teachers gave everything to one boy and he is in college and successful and they gave nothing to the other child and he can't find a job and he doesn't have a chance, thanks to the education system."

Sigh. I remember going to two parent teacher conferences for her because she didn't want to hear how he was doing in school. She didn't show up to his IEP meeting and instead took him out of school for two years to "homeschool him" When he went back to school and was tested he was four years behind.

Now, he has a MIP and she says it is the police's fault...they have it in for her kids......

This turned out to be a book....sorry. Just needed to vent I guess.

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Some people thrive on drama. If it isn't there, they whip some up. It is easy to get caught up in, too. I have a relative who is textbook drama queen. No matter who it effects. She once called Child Protective Services on her Grandson's mother (her son's EX GF) because the boy, 4 at the time, asked his female cousin (her other son's DD) if she wanted to kiss. Oh, what a mess that was!! I could go on for DAYS about the drama. When her mother passed away, it was HER tragedy, and hers alone....forget everyone else that was grieving.

I finally had to cut ties with her, for more than just the drama issues, but, you get the idea. It is just TOOOOOOOOOOOOOO draining.

IOW, I understand how you feel Marilyn.

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Oh, it gets better with her---she was working a temp job, and got laid off. She called me yesterday. I asked what she was doing. "Nothing, I'm bored". Bored? "No, I have a headache..." Asked if she had applied for any jobs? "I'm looking at a couple..." "I'm *figuring* out what I want to do."
Dear Lord, Woman! You are 45 y/o. Time to grow up.
She's constantly asking whether I've gotten a job. Whether I've talked to the Ex, how my SO is doing....

If any of ya'll are familiar with any of the Mario Bros. video games, you'll appreciate the idea my kids came up with: Give her a "mushroom" so she can get a life all by herself!

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Hahahaha...Maytag

I think everybody knows one and some people attract them. I am pretty good at attracting them, but have learned over the years to quietly and discretely shake them off. Sometimes it takes a while.

Maytags do thrive on drama, and seem to think all of this is normal. Ugh.