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Old 11-03-2011, 03:54 PM
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Red face With all the holidays coming soon does anyone else feel sad

For me the Holidays now are always bittersweet, I say this because first my children are getting older and it just plain is not the same as when they were younger. However since we are such a close and loving family I know we will in someway or other be together, especially and hopefully when grandchildren start to come, however my children have plenty of time for that, never ever want to rush their lives..They are lucky at ages, life seems so simple then, I will always say between the ages of 17-26 are some of the best times of your life, . I also get sad because I start really thinking to when Holidays of the past were shared with so many dear loved one's who are no longer here to share them with. However I am deeply grateful to be blessed with my wonderful caring family, my husband and my children, God really blessed me with my family, I am also grateful to still have my mom and dad here and may they live many more years to celebrate the holidays with. Anyone else kindly share and peace for safe and healthy holidays that are now upon us.......Catherine
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Old 11-03-2011, 09:51 PM
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Between Halloween and New Years was always my favorite time of the year. But not any more since my brother died. My nephew's birthday (his son) is Oct 4, and since my brother passed away we have not been able to see him. My dad works with my sister in law's step father and we would give him gifts / stuff for Tyler, but we would never get any type of response from her. Her step-father would tell us to just drop by, but the few times we did, as soon as we arrived she took him and left. Then November is my birthday and my grandfather's birthday, I was his belated birthday gift (his birthday was the 13th and mine is the 18th) I was his little girl, my grandfather died in 1990, then there is Veterans Day, while this may sound silly, it was my ex-father in law's favorite holiday. He was a Vietnam Vet and always told my kids never to forget to thank a vet anytime they see one. I remember when my oldest dd was 3 and a Vet in a wheelchair was collecting money, he gave her $5 and told her to give it to the guy. She walked up to the guy handed him the money and said "this is from my grandpa, he is a vegetable too" he use to tease her about that all the time. He passed away suddenly last year, and although there were issues between me and my ex, he will always be someone that I look up to and admire.
Then there is December, besides Christmas, my brother's birthday was the 28th and this year he would have turned 30. Then January comes and the 30th marks the 3rd anniversary of his death
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Old 11-04-2011, 09:17 AM
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Oh yes big time. I now live thousands of miles away from my family. My parents and sister live in Mass and with us being in Florida it is not possible to have holidays together. Last year was the first holiday not together and this will be the second. I can remember as a child we always had my grandparents over for every holiday and when they died it was just our immediate family. I miss all those times. This year like last year we will be celebrating it with my in-laws. It is nice and we had a good time, but it is not the same for both of us.
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To Maryann and Ayria I am deeply saddened to read your comments about the holiday blue's I totally understand and feel your pain and sorrow, as while I have lost so many family members, the biggest lost for me are the deaths of my cousin Maria, my Aunt Theresa , my Aunt Honey, and of course my beautiful beloved brother Sonny, who sadly the holidays will never ever be the same.......However I cherish all the wonderful childhood christmas eve memories we did share...Only wish he were here now, to see my children how they have grown, he would be so happy and proud of the wonderful, and caring responsible young adults they are.However I know he is always with us in spirit and always our guardian angels.Peace and blessings and sincere hugs to both of you always..............Catherine
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Old 11-06-2011, 12:11 AM
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Yes, Catherine. I am sad. I am thrilled for you that you still have your children to spend the holidays with. The holidays will never be the same for us. I'm sorry you lost your brother and your cousin and your aunt. How terrible. I buried my son next to my brother. But I'm sure it's worse for you than anybody else.
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Melissa thanks so much, but hon it is worse for you, you lost a child, there is not greater lost, believe I know I lost my first, long story here , but before I met my husband I was dating a guy named Victor, we met in junior high school. We continued to date till I was 20 and we became engaged . However it was a violent relationship from the start, I was so crazy in love with him, he could do no wrong. I listened to know one and stood with him. However as time went on and many times of cheating and hurting me and hitting me and causing me so much pain, it did become harder. Anyway long story short, I became pregnant the worse thing, however I thought it would bring us closer and he might change. Sadly it did not, he became more violent and did not want the child. On 3/7/83 I was 7 months along, we got into a huge fight and I was punched many times in the stomach. He left me bleeding and fled, my parents rushed me to the hospital and had to have an emergency c-section. My son I named him after my dad Peter Daniel lived for 25 minutes, he was beautiful. As I am writing this tears are flowing for he would have been 28 years old..I buried him with my grandmother and my uncle on my dads side and name him completely after my dad......Of course I was blessed with my 3 children with my husband and ironically my son Thomas Peter was born on 3/8/89 the day after Peter Daniel. So from one mom to another I know the pain. I often have many dreams and wonder how he would have turned out. I imagine he looked like me and my brothers....As for Victor he was convicted and served 11 years......not enough time for me.......Melissa I am dearly sorry for the loss of your son.....May God bless your son and bring you sincere comfort for the holidays as I know they will not be easy..Cherish the moments and know you son, will always be in your heart and soul and your guardian angel and we will all meet again in Heaven.........Peace. Catherine
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Melissa, I think of you and your painful situation daily. :'-(
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Catherines been banned? things that make you hhhmmmm.
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Old 11-06-2011, 09:52 PM
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We must have missed something. I've been out of town for several days and have no clue what's up with that... but I noticed it, too. Google cache afforded me a clue or two (I PM'd you Melissa)... but... after all this time, I admit I am very surprised.
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Old 11-06-2011, 10:04 PM
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You know what? I'm not really surprised. I've been made painfully aware of Catherine's true colors. You can only hide who you really are for so long.
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Old 11-06-2011, 10:16 PM
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I know you were the recipient of some PM's that were very disturbing that you felt were a 'window', so to speak, to a different personality aspect than the 'peaceful' one presented here. I'm very sorry that happened to you. I wasn't on the receiving end of any of that, so I can't comment from that angle... but from what I saw here through the years, coupled with what I know you dealt with, I'm not entirely surprised.

When you were banned, was there a way to know if it was temporary or permanent?
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Old 11-06-2011, 11:42 PM
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We must have missed something. I've been out of town for several days and have no clue what's up with that... but I noticed it, too. Google cache afforded me a clue or two (I PM'd you Melissa)... but... after all this time, I admit I am very surprised.
I seem too dumb to figure out how to do that search, rats.
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Old 11-06-2011, 11:59 PM
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Just google usernames.

With the new google search format, you have to hover over a result, and some arrows will appear, and if you click the arrows a flyaway thing will open up to the right. You can view cached images of posts that may or may not still exist.

There's not much to find about whatever happened here. I'm not trying to be coy or secretive - there is just one post I am able to view about a bad trade that could be related to what happened. I did see that post when it was still 'up' here at MC, and it appeared that there had been responses to it at one time, but I did not see them. They had been mod-edited and the text removed.

I'll admit that I am curious, but there just didn't appear to be much information available. I don't think mods ever announce that a ban has occurred, nor do they seem to comment when others ask about bans (from my best recollection). I understand that and respect it - it can't be a good thing for a mod to get in the middle of every mess. It doesn't change the fact that I was curious about what might have led to this, given that in the past there have been many things that, from my perspective, might have warranted at least a temporary ban... but no ban was handed out.

So... I figured whatever happened must have been pretty severe, and I was just curious to know what it was.
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Old 11-07-2011, 12:33 AM
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I understand I was just curious too. I get online so late at night, that a lot of times whole threads would be deleted from the night before, so I spend a lot of time here in the dark anyway.

Thanks for explaining the search, I am not very adept at computer use.
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Old 11-07-2011, 03:51 AM
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Just read the post on google cache.Wow, I would have never believed it if I hadn't seen it with my own 2 eyes.I would have never thought she was capable of doing that .I can't believe what poor judgement of character I have.You all were right all along.I am so naive.
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Old 11-07-2011, 06:07 AM
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What the heck happened? I guess that the powers that be got tired of everything....Can someone come back with a new name?
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Old 11-07-2011, 07:51 AM
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dollydeal...you're not naive, just nice. You wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt. I did that as well for a long time.

usnamom........yes, someone can come back with a new name. I did it when I got banned. Just to be funny kind of . I got banned for being a general pain in the butt, which I WAS being and it was a three day ban. So...just logged in with new name to let everyone know I was still here! I sincerely hope the mods saw SOME of the humor in it.

Oh the drama of a coupon board! BTW.....I'm ready for the election board. I need to get plugged in better to what's going on and a good debate/discussion always helps. Looking forward to it!
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Old 11-07-2011, 08:56 AM
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What members here are now just seeing, many, many others at another board (where she has been banned no less than 6 times, but I believe more than that) have known for several years now. I have numerous emails from Catherine (yes, she's a big fan of mine, lol) over the years in which anyone could see her true colors. Those that are members here as well as 'the other board' are well aware of her antics and duplicitous dramas, and we have watched here often as it would give us a good insight as to when/if she would sneak back on to that 'other board' yet again.

Please be aware she WILL come back with aliases, and she will repeat the same patterns over again....the false niceties, the victim-play, the blow up and reveal of who she is....we've seen it so many times, we are able to shut it down in the first stages as we now recognize her writing styles, username patterns, etc. My best advice to the members here at MyCoupons is to keep an eye out, and shut her down as soon as possible to avoid more of the same.

PS--I am not a very active member here, but am very familiar with suezz, littlewolf, and KellyJeff on the 'other board'....just so you know I'm not some crackpot out of the woodwork, LOL.
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Wow....I must be somewhat naive as well. I just like to think the best of people until I personally can see the other way. I usually give people a chance to redeem themselves in more than one way before I write them off. I guess I have had my eyes opened today.

Speaking of that, I hope that there will be an election board. I am moving to Saudi Arabia next month and as a matter of fact, will be going on my house hunting trip this Friday and will be out of touch with most of American politics except by the internet...no American papers are expected to be had there....so I will be looking to people on that election board to provide not only some facts, some fiction, and of course, some fun!
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USNA, I started out as a 'true believer' for the first month or two. It's not in my nature to pounce on someone who is truly an underdog. It's just not how I am. But I saw a handful of things that made me pretty convinced that it was all just an act. I have a bad habit of NOT trusting my instincts about people and giving them the benefit of the doubt when it's not warranted... but for some reason, this one just wouldn't go off my radar. And sadly, my gut was apparently right.

The things I read on the 'other board' were pretty interesting. I really don't get around the 'net much and hadn't bothered seeking the other site out, even when there were cries of, "Make them stop what they are saying on another board!!" But when the ban happened, my curiosity got the better of me.

Speaking of the politics board... just to whet your whistle.... lol

concerning Colin Powell and the war in Iraq
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Old 11-07-2011, 10:10 AM
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Agree with everything that you stated here, saint68!! I have been on the receiving end of her nasty emails as well. Oh, well!! We will have to keep our eyes open on here to see if she tries to come back under a different name.

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What members here are now just seeing, many, many others at another board (where she has been banned no less than 6 times, but I believe more than that) have known for several years now. I have numerous emails from Catherine (yes, she's a big fan of mine, lol) over the years in which anyone could see her true colors. Those that are members here as well as 'the other board' are well aware of her antics and duplicitous dramas, and we have watched here often as it would give us a good insight as to when/if she would sneak back on to that 'other board' yet again.

Please be aware she WILL come back with aliases, and she will repeat the same patterns over again....the false niceties, the victim-play, the blow up and reveal of who she is....we've seen it so many times, we are able to shut it down in the first stages as we now recognize her writing styles, username patterns, etc. My best advice to the members here at MyCoupons is to keep an eye out, and shut her down as soon as possible to avoid more of the same.

PS--I am not a very active member here, but am very familiar with suezz, littlewolf, and KellyJeff on the 'other board'....just so you know I'm not some crackpot out of the woodwork, LOL.
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Wow....that brings back some nightmares, for sure! I sort of remember that.....but mostly I remember a poster who was testing people all the time. LOL!

I hope the election board comes back and is a fun and informative place to share ideas, to fight and to make up and finally go on our way to vote. I, for the most part enjoyed the debates.....but not if I have to wade through the posts you posted.....YUCK!
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Maybe I will have to come here to the Cafe and ask the mods here to make you all stop persecuting me on the Election Board! :-)
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lol - yes, I stumbled across that post last night when I was trying to figure out what I must have missed. That was from over three years ago. The more things change, the more they stay the same....!

I don't know how to go about finding my own posts from earlier than that, but I do believe that's the first time I ever even dipped my toe into the, "Let's see if we can say things a little more clearly..." thing. I had been under the assumption that we were just interacting with somebody who didn't know any better prior to that day. But for whatever reason, that exchange was kind of a lightbulb moment for me.

Good grief... over THREE years ago. THREE! That's a long time. lol

I am not really at peace with Newt's personal life, and I wish I was because when he speaks, he seems to have a better handle on things than most of the other candidates. I don't get the sense that he would cheat on his current wife, nor do I think people can't be forgiven... and I think he regrets his past mistakes. And it's not like me to hold a grudge, but somehow in my gut I'm just not excited about the thought of the 'first couple' being a couple that got together under those circumstances. Maybe that's just my issue. Reagan had similar issues, but they weren't identical, and many, many years had passed since his transgressions. Newt's still feel 'fresh' somehow....And yet I do think that he does a better job articulating the conservative position than the others do, and he has a greater depth of experience and understanding.


He does have a history of working with the Democrats and doing it successfully. He and Clinton, despite their differences, found common ground and set some good things in motion in the '90's.


And what can I say... I'm nuts about Cain. What he doesn't know, Newt does. That's why I find the thought of them as a duo rather intriguing.
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I know that Cain is a popular person on the Conservative side but the fact that every day he comes out with another version of the truth about the women in his life bothers me to no end. I would have more respect for him (maybe not vote for him but would respect him) if he was just forthright about what happened back then and realize that there is definite proof of what happened. I do not think it is funny that he "can't recall what happened then) I know that if I or my husband was ever thought of as harrassing another woman, I know that he wouldn't forget it nor would I.

However, I have met Jon Huntsman and I liked him....his kid is in my kids class at the academy. His wife needs to eat a sandwich, however....

I don't trust the smarminess of Romney. I have known many men like him and I just get a bad vibe from him.

This primary process should be interesting. I am awaiting for Michelle Bachman to implode so far that the only thing she will be able to do is to leave the race.

It is interesting to me that the only women that the GOP think about running this election are not electable. Sort of sad commentary.

BUT that is just my opinion!!!
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The Cain thing doesn't bother me, and here is why....

So far, there are no facts. None. I heard - admittedly on right-wing radio - that the allegations of harassment were just a small part of what those women alleged. They were, from my understanding, lower-level staffers who were unhappy with a number of things at work, and the Cain accusations were more of a footnote than the meat of their complaints.

If the key charges had been harassment, sure, I would expect him to remember every detail. But if he was the boss, and a low-level staff person who didn't get along with others in the office and who had lodged complaints about several things said, "Oh - and when you made that comment comparing my height to your wife's height, I knew EXACTLY what you meant and I think you were coming on to me!"... well, I can see how, if that were the case, that he'd just roll his eyes, say, "Oh, brother," call the NRA's lawyer, and say, "We've got an employee who is unhappy and accusing all of us of stuff. Can you work something out with her and get her to move on out of this job?"

My gut just tells me that if he really was a sexual harasser that there would be a long, long line of people who thought he was a cad when they worked for him. They guy has been in high places for decades, and these secret accusations from a couple of decades ago are the only ones we've heard about. They appear to have been a blip in his life, not a major episode. No formal charges were ever filed with anybody. Honestly, I struggle to remember the details of some big things that happened in my past... and this just doesn't sound like it ever got 'big'.

I assume you were okay, usna, with Clinton denying the Gennifer Flowers stuff when he was running... ? ;-)

Okay... I don't know Jon Huntsman. Need to go google him.

I feel badly for the Bachman / Palin types. Why? Because everything I've seen and read leads me to believe that they did well in the venues in which they made their marks. By all accounts, prior to becoming a national figure, Palin was pretty well-liked in Alaska. Weren't her approval ratings like... 93% or so? When McCain chose her, she was at the top of her game and doing well. Bachman, too, has a good history. Were they ready or prepared for the national scene? Perhaps not - at least, not for the election process. I actually think that, while the election process serves as a 'proving ground', either of them would've done a fine job actually *governing* were they in a position to do so. They have histories of decision-making that their constituents were largely on board with.

But for whatever reason, the venue of national candidacy has not been a friend to them, and it's turned them both into caricatures and diminished the memories of how they truly were in their past roles.

JMTC, of course!

ETA: Just saw this: http://www.radaronline.com/exclusive...-public-monday

Guess we'll see if it amounts to anything. Gloria Allred has a history of taking on some legit cases, and some fruitloopy ones... and all of them land her smack dab in the spotlight. It will be interesting to see if this one is legit, or just another opportunity for Allred to get her mug on the talk shows.

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Old 11-07-2011, 11:41 AM
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I was also not on board with Clinton/Flowers thing as well. It was something that I did not care for.

Where there is smoke there is fire. When H. Cain was asked about it, don't you think someone in his group would say to him....hey, remember this....it was ten years ago and we settled, remember? Because the next day, he remembered a bit more and the next day, just a bit more.

It is just interesting that he can remember more as more women come out with their stories. I understand that it was the association that paid to settle the lawsuits but he HAD to know about it. It would be like my husband being in trouble at ALCOA with the allegations from a female employee. He would have to talk to the PTB there and if they settled with her.....he would have known and even if there had been no evidence and they still settled, he would have said something along these lines...."Well, I was falsely accused and the company decided to settle so as not to drag the young woman and her reputation through the mud." But Mr. Cain said something along the lines he had no idea what anyone was talking about and that he had nothing to do with harrassment of any woman and he never ever settled a case of harrassment. Sigh. That was on day 1. Day 2, he remembered a bit more.....It is my contention that he knew...from the beginning and hoped that the agreement would keep people quiet and it wouldn't come out. Whether it is truth or not, it still is what happened and therefore, he should have just said that it happened and it was false.

I would think that the GOP would want someone who is electable. JMTC!
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But... the guy is in his 60's. He's lived a lot of life, and surely dealt with a lot of crap. To us, a sexual harassment issue sounds like a great big deal, but not having been there and not even really knowing any details about it...we just don't know how 'large' an issue it was at the time.

I just now tried to think if I ever felt 'sexually harassed'. For a few minutes, I thought, "Nope... never happened to me."

And then I had a lightbulb of a faint memory...

When I was student teaching, there was a deaf child in my classroom, and his interpreter was a married man. I was a single - but engaged - college student. The married guy asked me to a concert because - he said - his wife was going to have to be out of town and couldn't use their 2nd ticket.

Right now, that's all I remember. I tell ya... I remember it felt creepy. And I remember that there was more to the story, but for the life of me I cannot remember anything else he did.

If I talked to my college roommates - who knew I was creeped out by the guy (who wasn't much older than me and was actually pretty good-looking, seemed very kind, was a good worker, etc.) - they might say something that would help the other things he did or said come flooding back to me. But off the top of my head... I can't for the life of me recall what they were.

I did talk to the supervising classroom teacher about my concerns, and she did something about them. What? I honestly don't remember!

Just during my years of college, I was in about ten different school systems, worked under as many - or more - teachers, and there were a number of aids and special ed assistants I crossed paths with. The things I remember clearly aren't necessary the things that some might consider to be BIGGIES if they were digging in my past because I was running for office. The encounter with the interpreter could be blown into something huge by someone who remembered it better than me... they could say that I made an accusation that led to his dismissal and the subsequent break-up of his marriage, for all I know. But on *my* end, I know that he just did some things that creeped me out and seemed a little too 'close'... not huge things, but things I questioned nonetheless. I couldn't pick the guy out of a line-up today. Don't even remember his name. I remember the school system and the fact that it was a 2nd grade classroom, but that's about it.

And... I would be considered to be the 'victim' of his attempts.

So... until there is something that comes out that is more proof than allegation, I'm hesitant to convict the guy. Supposedly the comments he made to one of the secret accusers were made at a party where there was lots of drinking, and others heard it and didn't think it was a sexual comment in any way... but the already-disgruntled employee took it that way, or at least said she took it that way and included it in her list of complaints about the workplace.

What a sad thing if it turns out it's all unfounded and made up.

During his forty year career, I just have to think he'd have done this much more frequently than just during the three year window of time he was at the NRA. Aren't we taught that sexual predators are always repeat offenders?

ETA: If the charges are false, the best thing that could have happened to Cain is for Allred to take the woman's case. lol. Didn't she represent octomom?
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Just read the post on google cache.Wow, I would have never believed it if I hadn't seen it with my own 2 eyes.I would have never thought she was capable of doing that .I can't believe what poor judgement of character I have.You all were right all along.I am so naive.
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Somewhere I read that he was thought to be "not exactly PC" a few months ago at some function...I will see if I can find that link and post it later today....i am on my way to get our international drivers licenses now.....more later.
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OK.....someone clue this mean, nasty, rude poster to what got "Ms. Thang" banned

She needs serious psychology help.
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She needs serious psychology help.
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Sending you a PM!

got it!
Wow--just wow! Mail fraud is a federal offense....that's all I'm saying.

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Can you please PM me, too? She considered me one of her biggest troublemakers
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Can you please PM me, too? She considered me one of her biggest troublemakers
well, that was when I wasn't picking on her!

And to think, you & I use to have adversarial opinions, and didn't EVER see eye-to-eye. We should really thank her for bringing us together. LoL
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I am sooo curious. I have googled, but can't find out exactly why she got banned from here. Are you not allowed to say it here?
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Littlewolf, sitting at AAA, but would please send mea pm too as I missed the posts, thanks.
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Oh it looks like we have done some spring cleaning around here

Maybe I can come back and get a word in edge wise and not lose my posts in a sea of peace.
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OK.....someone clue this mean, nasty, rude poster to what got "Ms. Thang" banned

She needs serious psychology help.
When you find out let me know, you mean, mean woman :P
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I misread this and thought you said you were sitting at "AA" as in Alcoholics Anon!
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This is gonna be SO much fun now!!! I really like you ladies....I was gonna say love but that would be weird.
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This is gonna be SO much fun now!!! I really like you ladies....I was gonna say love but that would be weird.
Nah, wouldn't be weird!
I told one of the mods I would kiss her on the lips (might even slip her some tongue!)--maybe I'm just weird. LoL
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THAT"S funny Marilyn!! the tongue part kinda mad me gag though. lol
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I am hpoping that lots of peole who drifted off or just stopped posting do come back. This place has suffered from negative energy and it showed with the decline of posts.

Kindly......please share and post.....
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I am hpoping that lots of peole who drifted off or just stopped posting do come back. This place has suffered from negative energy and it showed with the decline of posts.

Kindly......please share and post.....
Peace!

(or maybe as my kids would say "peace, out")
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I misread this and thought you said you were sitting at "AA" as in Alcoholics Anon!

As much of a hassle as that was, I might need AA now! I swear, no one in Charleston wants to work. We stood there for about 20 minutes while people went for breaks, took phone calls etc. before one of them asked if we needed anything..... So, after ascertaining that we indeed needed help, she sighed loudly and slapped the papers down in fromt of us without skipping a beat and walked away. My husband said "She doesn't seem happy to see us leave the US, does she?" LOL! So she came back half an hour later to pick up the forms and our pictures and left with them...probably to copy them so she can steal our identities.....and came back to throw them on the desk and said "Have a nice evening" Geesh! I need a drink or she does.
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Can someone please PM me and let me know what happened? I have been accused, in PMs, of surrounding myself with the popular people because of something I posted that I thought was pretty nice. It took me a while to realize that the nicey nice peace and love stuff was a big phony act. But I am NOT popular people on this site that I think is apparent to everyone lol.

I googled but that doesn't tell me all the dirt.
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Are any of us the popular people on this board?? I don't think so. We are all so different, but that 's what I LIKE about it. Differing opinions and personalities.
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Are any of us the popular people on this board?? I don't think so. We are all so different, but that 's what I LIKE about it. Differing opinions and personalities.
Yep, that is what makes this board a good thing!!
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Nah, wouldn't be weird!
I told one of the mods I would kiss her on the lips (might even slip her some tongue!)--maybe I'm just weird. LoL

Thanks, but no thanks. Happily married although I am sure dh would ask to watch - hahaha!


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