*sigh*
Well, the Ex finally succeeded in getting his child support reduced. It only took him 4 tries, and filing with the court for a judicial hearing. He told the judge he just wanted the amount to be fair and equitable.

And the judge ordered a re-calculation based on the last two years' income (typically it's based on the two years prior to divorce...). His argument for the last two years was that he had been fired from three jobs in that time, and had just found another job (fired because of his own behaviour--once for not listing his conviction for domestic assault, and once because he was rude to customers...the third for I don't know...)

Let's see--he hasn't seen the kids since the Christmas debacle (his woman pushed my oldest son, then they threatened to send both kids home ON THE BUS by themselves on New Year's Eve), he hasn't done a flipping thing for his children in the last year. He blamed the Christmas debacle on the children, and said "well, she wouldn't have touched you if you hadn't been mean to her son--her son is older than mine." And he wonders why they won't talk to him! He hasn't followed court order (1/2 of medical expenses, carrying them on his insurance, etc.)

*sigh* I almost wished I'd flipped out and castrated him, instead of simply divorcing him!

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Marilyn...I am so sorry. Empty words, I know. I cannot even imagine (ok maybe I can a little) how difficult it must be. I wish I had some words of encouragement...the only thing I can say is just keep being the mom you are. You're all they have apparently, and it seems you are a great mom. Hang on to that!

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Melissa

Thankfully, luckily, I got really darned fortunate with my SO.
He's fantastic period--but my boys love him. And they love his family and friends.
And SO and the family/friends would do anything in their power to help me and the boys. All the male family/friends, and SO are positive male role models!

I'm blessed in that aspect. I'm blessed with having found SO. And with SO's family/friends having accepted us, and loving us.

It's frustrating because I played fair & nice during and after the divorce--and the Ex has looked for any reason to try and pick a fight. He's hurting the kids. They prefer not having anything to do with him. I've tried to do what I can to facilitate a relationship w/ the boys and their father. The boys feel that Ex has chosen his girlfriend and her son over them. Sadly, I think (but don't say) that is the case!

It's just irritating--he wonders why the house is under foreclosure. Well, dimwit--because you have dinked with the child support from day one, and because I lost my job! Geez--it's not hard to figure out.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

What a mess, but it does sound like you've found a good family to get involved with!! How fortunate.

How is the job hunting going?

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Melissa

What a mess, Marilyn....but remember that what goes around comes around! He will get his soon enough. His kids won't want to have anything to do with him and in the end, it is all we have.....our family.

You are really the victor in this miscarraige of justice. Seriously, the victor!(((hugs)))

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Marilyn, sorry to hear that your house is in foreclosure. Any chance you will be able to keep it?

Hope you find a great job very soon.

Unfortunately, no luck in the job search. I'm applying for any and everything I remotely qualify for....

There is a very, very slim chance I could keep the house, but it's extremely slim. Frankly, I've battled with the mortgage company for a year (1st applied for a modification in November 2010--and they dinked around for 4 months, and then I was terminated---I have filled out the paperwork for modification 3 times!) I'm tired of fighting. Don't know if I have the energy to keep fighting this battle...)

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Good luck on your job search. I hope things turn around for you.

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The political system is broke and it's a joke.

I am sorry you are going through this. That sucks. But, it sounds like he is basically leaving the kids with you, right? I don't know if I missed a post, but does he still have visitation rights that he is not enforcing??? If that is accurate, then I would count that as a blessing that they don't have to go over there to be miserable.

Keep your chin up!

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