I do... wait, let me say that a little louder, I DO!!!!

Please, please and pretty please with sugar on top. I would love to be more like her. I know they say the older we get the more "set" in our ways that we are but I'd love to turn out just like her.

She was a great mom when I was a kid,
an encouraging mom when I was a teenager,
a supportive mom when I was a new bride,
an enthusiastically helpful mom when I became a new mom myself,
a thoughtful mom at a time when we had 3 kids under four years of age,
a reliable mom when the kids needed taking in all directions at once,
a tender-loving mom when I felt overwhelmed at being ON CALL 24/7 as someone's wife and someone's mother every single second of the day.

She knew just instinctively knew to call, email, or send a card snail mail when the world started to tilt off axis. She's just always been there and I love her for that devotion and dedication to multiplying the love in her heart for others to share.

My mom prays for me on a daily basis and today, my prayer is that I turn out just like her!

Think I'll go call my mom!
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Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28

yes, I would be happy to turn out just like my momma!

Now, if you'd asked that question 10 years ago--I'd have said NO! But, the older I get the more I have realized my momma is pretty neat.

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I absolutely do. My mom is fantastic. She has been a great teacher and support to me for my entire life - taking the hard road when necessary, which I can certainly appreciate now that I'm older!!!! My mom is retired now and is financially secure, which is an inspiration. They just got back from 2 weeks in Hawaii and travel about a quarter of the year - because they were smart and saved for it when they were in their prime earning years. DH and I are trying to do the same and hope that we will be as prepared.

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That was sweet I wish I had a mother like that, actually I always dreamed about having a mom like that since I was little. But to answer the question..do I want to turn into my mother..the answer is NO, no way, no how. My mother was a psychotic alcoholic and if it wasn't for my dad and my grandparents I am sure I would have either been dead or living with a foster family. After I had kids, I tried to have a civil relationship with her, but it didn't last too long. In her delusional mind, she has told people some off the wall stories at different times of how all of her kids died. She went as far as when my oldest two kids were 5 and 3, she sent them a box (using am relative's name and address) that had cut up baby pictures of me and a sympathy card saying she was sorry to hear that their mommy died so tragically. It turned out, she called family and family friends and told them this off the wall story of how I was driving and got broadsided by a truck and died instantly. I think the worse she did was a year before my youngest brother was killed, she called all of us, other family members, friends, his friends and his friend's parents and told them my brother was in a fatal accident in WY and his truck exploded. We all kept calling his phone, but he had it off because he was sleeping. It was a relief when we finally heard from him, but sadly a year later he died in a freak accident. At his memorial service I didn't say a word to her, but my brother, who she had not seen/spoken to in 3 years went up to her to tell her that his kids were on their way in with his wife, and please don't make a scene as they were upset as it was. When my sister in law came in with the kids, my oldest nephew (he was 10 at the time)said Hi to her and really loud for the whole room to hear she said "the wrong son died, it should have been your daddy"

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I just got a firm grip on reality....
Now I can strangle it

I'd like to have a lot of the qualities my Mom has, but I don't want to turn into her.

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If this is going to be a Christian nation that doesn't help the poor, either we have to pretend that Jesus was just as selfish as we are, or we've got to acknowledge that He commanded us to love the poor and serve the needy without condition, and then admit that we just don't want to do it.

- Stephen Colbert.

OMG! I'm so sorry. I know that sympathy is not what you were looking for--but no child (at any age) should be subjected to that
And thank you for sharing. It makes me appreciate my momma even more.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I wish I could turn into my mother! At 74 years old she is way healthier than me! She only weighs 122 lbs, and she is in tip top shape .She goes to the gym several times a week,exercises daily, she has an extremely active life,and socially has tons of friends,(I have none,lol).
She's STILL one the TOP bowlers in the leagues and bowls better than she ever did.She has no health problems,has the sweetest personality and everybody loves her.
I really wish I had her energy and her personality.She's also a very loving ,caring mother,(more than I ever was )and always calls me at least once a week to see how I'm doing.She always supports me no matter what and is my best friend.I am really lucky to have her as my mom .I feel bad that I could not have made her as proud of me as I am of her.

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I already turned into my mother

Sadly, she died when I was 21. Years later, when I was married and had kids of my own, my father said to DH 'Well, you never knew your mother in law, but you do. ____ is the spitting image of her.....right down to her stubborn streak."

ishop2much, thanks for sharing. If you have a daughter, I bet she wants to be just like you when she grows up!

Nope. My mother was an alcoholic who caused us kids a lot of pain and disappointment.

My father was an alcoholic who abused me, so my childhood was pretty rough.

My older brother pretty much raised my younger brother and me.

I believe the reason my DD and I have such an extremely close relationship is because I didn't have that with my mother so I don't take her for granted.

Wow, I used to think that I was the only one who had an alcoholic mother. Never really knew my father, as he left after I was born. I was also raised by my grandmother, as my mom never wanted to bother with me. It was either boyfriends & booze. Then she developed cancer because of her 3 1/2 pack a day cigarette habit. I kept thinking in my mind, I shouldn't help her, but I did the best I could, even though she still blew smoke up my nose while I did her feeding tube. No, I sure hope I never turn into my mother. My daughter reminds me that I do have similarities to my grandmother though-LOL!

Wow, both sad and uplifting to read these replies. Just goes to show you, everyone's journey in life is different. I think, no, I KNOW, that is what molds us into the people we are today. I remind myself of that every day. Even the people who are not so kind help to shape me into the person I am today.

As for me, I would like to have more of the crafty qualities my Mom had.


Dolly, I'll bet if someone were to ask your Mom if you make her proud, she would have a very different answer than what you stated above. We're so hard on ourselves.

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

I was thinking the same thing when I came back in here and read the replies.

The women that are writing a new chapter for your own children, you're an inspiration for the impact you are having on the generations to come. You are full of strength and courage to step up to the "way it should be" plate.

When rereading a previous chapter in your life keeps you from finishing the book
with a fairy tale ending aka Happily Ever After, it's time to move your bookmark.

Maybe this thread was meant to point out things YOU are now doing right for your kids. Your kids will eventually grow up and look back at what an extraordinary woman you were for rising above it all. That's my hope at least.

Happy Thanks-Living Ya'll,
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