I have a great family daughters husband parents etc. but I live in a neighborhood where I just don't hang out with the click. I love my home and can't afford to move but the place just isn't my fit. There is decension with my hubbies family that stinks but I can't help but feel disgusted sometimes. Sorry just needed to vent. It's just that I have freinds in other neighborhoods that are great and I just don't feel the love!

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We bought our first home three years ago and had not felt "at home" until about three months ago. we had two new neighbors move in that are more family oriented and they are great folks. Now I do not feel lonely like I had in the past.

{{{HUGS}}}

Well we used to have a few great friends but one died and the other family moved out leaving us with the cold clan including the mean kids.

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I often tell my boyfriend that I feel alone when I'm with my sisters and brothers.

yes, I always feel alone..constantly.

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I have great friends and children but since Tim was killed i feel really lonley like heartache lonley even surrounded by my family. its hard to explain but its like a big part of me is missing

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Stellati,
I really feel for you and this weekend as my husband was having emergency surgery I was so afraid of being left alone. I too feel my Husband is my backbone and couldn't do without him. It was very very scary and I have wonderful parents and kids but he is as you say a part of me and we have been through so many ups and downs together having a child with medical needs. God Bless you and stay strong and know that you always have open arms on this board.

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I feel lonely a lot. All of my close friends have moved away.

My neighbors aren't exactly friendly either. One of my neighbor's 7-year old daughters came over to my house last year and told me that her mom said that we are bad neighbors. This came out of nowhere! She proceeded to tell us that her dad didn't have any problems with us, but her mom didn't like us. This little brat came over and told me this on two separate occasions. We have done nothing to these people. The outside of our house is neat and clean, we keep our yard mowed, we don't play loud music or have lots of people over, etc. Don't know what the problem is, but they always seemed a little strange anyways.

My husband has three sisters, and out of all of them only one lives in town and she is the one that we like the least. We have never done anything to her (we've actually gone out of our way to be nice), but she is always trying to exclude us from activities that she and my husband's other sisters are doing. Once in a while all of my husbands sisters and their families get together for a mini vacation, one or two of them will invite us, and the sister that lives here will kind of uninvite us. She will make comments like "you should probably stay home and save your money instead of going with us." I don't get it because we've never discussed money with anyone at all. We don't ever say anything about how well we are or aren't doing, and, come to think of it, although DH is the baby of the family, we're the only ones who have never borrowed any money from his parents. The same sister will also make comments when we find out they did something without inviting us like "I was going to invite you, but I thought you would be busy." DH makes jokes that he has to have a minimum of two drinks before we go to a family function with that sister there. He also says that she needs to talk to Dr. Phil.

Wow! I guess I really needed to vent! I could go on about my SIL, but I'll spare you all.

Thank you oraf7 and i do agree everyone on this board has been a blessing to me.

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I think I've been lonely for so long that I've just basically adjusted to it. My DH is disabled physically and has a brain injury. I am his home care giver and it is pretty much just him, me and our three sons. We have NO friends since my DH got injured. It seemed like once he wasn't able to "do and be" like everyone else that his so called friends gave up on him and disappeared. I am so busy taking care of him, homeschooling youngest DS who has Aspergers Syndrome, dealing with our 2 adult (they don't act like adults!) sons, taking care of the house, ect. that I just don't have a life for myself and that includes having friends.

Kelly

Yes, I feel lonely a lot of times. I had to stop working due to a neck injury and since I'm not able to work in my church like I used to, they've pretty much stopped calling. (Guess out of sight - out of mind). It's sad that there are so many women who are really lonely and it's a shame we can't all find each other and hang out together. I would love just to meet a girlfriend and go to lunch and talk girl talk over coffee!! When we moved we left our closest friends in another state. We keep in touch with them and we even meet them for dinner and weekends.

It's funny you should ask! Yep, right this very minute. I've been stuck at home for the last 2 days, and I'm about to go out of my mind. I'd love to just get out to go see a movie, but I'm broke. Also, my DH has caught the hunting bug and I'm really starting to lose it since he's not been home much. LOL I do have friends and we get together once a month. Lonliness only strikes once-in-a-while now that I have a core group of women that I get together with. We have what we call "Emergency Estrogen Meetings". The rules are NO MEN, NO CHILDREN and CHOCOLATE. We are allowed to call one at anytime when we feel like we need it. Whoever can show up, comes. There are about 8 of us. We don't dare ever have a falling out, since we have all told our deepest, darkest secrets! LOL We HAVE to stay friends we have too much on each other.

But still sometimes I feel lonely. I think everyone does at times. Right now, I think I need a project (but I'm broke) or I going to need a E.E.M real soon!

My advice and it will take some time, but find your owe core group of women. It's taken me awhile, but anytime I was invited out somewhere I went hoping to find some kindred spirits or someone crazy enough to be my friend. But I find that I'm the one that usually gets us all together. I do all the planning and come up with all the ideas. You just might have to be "Julie", you know the cruise director on the Love Boat the one who got everyone together. See if you feel this way, then probably others around you feel the same way too, they just don't know what to do about it. Plan a girls night.

Hugs,

Kelly

I was lonely for soooo long after we moved here 4 years ago! I am a self-proclaimed loner but I still need a dose of friends every once in awhile.

Just recently, one of my son's friend's mothers and her mother (wow, can you figure that one out?!) and I signed up for a Beginner Yoga class at the local community college - $55 for the whole semester!

We go to yoga at 11am two days a week. One of the days, we go out for under $5 lunch afterward as well. The other day is my grocery day. It has blessed my life to spend time with these women and we've also grown close to the other ladies in the class.

Sometimes you have to search and not wait for it to come to you?! It's hard.

I have to say I can't imagine being lonely, I am so sorry you guys! I could NOT imagine losing a husband, that thought crosses my mind every day and I just can't imagine your emptiness.

I did live in a neighborhood where everyone knew each other and hung out together and yes it was great, but we have moved to another part of town where it's a little quieter and we don't get neighbors looking in the windows

You have to get out, call someone over for coffee, make the effort to connect. Most times people just don't take the time to hang out with others unless they are conveniently next door, kwim?


OP, all you have to do to get "in" is click with one of them, then slowly you'll get to know everyone else and you'll be "in" in no time. Then they'll see what a great person and friend you are.

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I've suffered from pretty severe depression for the past 2+ years, with months on end where i was completely unable to get out of bed at all. I've lost all of my friends from all this as they have moved on. DH travels about 90% of the time and is out of state. I realize that I wouldn't be able to really have a friend anyway as it it far too difficult for me to make conversation or spend time with people due to my illnesses. I have no short term memory from a stress related thing and it's very difficult for me to carry on conversations or make small talk.

I just skipped my 20th HS reunion because of my depression (and the distance). I was a major social butterfly in HS and now am reduced to this! Talk about going from one extreme to the other. I had tons and tons of friends then and now I can honestly say that I do not have a single one. (well, other than my husband)

That is why I like coming to this website.
I often feel all alone from 8-3pm (school hours).
If I did not have my 2 cats and this website I would be sooooooooo lonely.
My husband also gets several calls from me during the day.
I talk to my mom and grandmother, long distance, alot. My husband never comments on the phone bill, because he knows that I do get lonely.

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Oh yes. My husband and I recently moved to a new duty station (leaving one where we had lots of friends) and he is deployed for seven months. I am dealing with my first pregnancy and terrified of my upcoming amnio (I am 39 so there is the definate risk of Down Syndrome). I get sad when I sit in the OB's waiting room and watch all the couples there for sonograms or just routine visits and I go through them all alone. DH is missing so much and I am missing him so much.

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Tessa that must be very hard for you but pretty soon you will have a bouncy healthy baby and hubby back home and this will be a distant memory. Now if I can only get these clicky witchy neighbors to move so some nice people move in HAHA!!!

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I feel lonely a lot. I love where I live but no one is hanging out together. I have lots of casual friends but no friends you call up and say "let's go have a beer". I haven't had a close friend since high school. I get along better with men and so their wives don't like me...like I'm a threat or something. I don't get along with women very well. I have different opinions (it seems) than most of them. I have lots of family near but the problem is my beliefs and thoughts are VERY different from theirs so that basicall leaves talk of my kids and after being home all day on and off with my kids, I don't want to talk about them.

If I ever lost my DH I would be lost....

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I feel lonely to being unemployed and not getting out and meeting people. I don't have many friends who I can call up to hang with. I have one friend I hang with but since she has came into some money I am seeing less and less of her so maybe she wasn't a friend after all. I don't talk to the neighbors they seem unfriendly and are always being nosy our way like I will be in the yard doing something or my husband is doing something outside and they will open the blinds in the windows and their french doors to look at us and sometimes they will come outside and stand on the porch and look at us.

alone never,lonely perhaps...
we live in the south ,my hubby is a yankee.I am French .so do the math!!!!
and after the Irak war debacle,it was like walking with a target on our backs..our supposably friends disappeared.our kids were teased at school...
I received blunt remarks from other parents,teachers....and some internet forums too...
so from then on I just kept to myself,and loneliness started to creep in.it is better now,but i don;t get too attached ,and don't care anymore....

I feel lonely right now even though I am blessed with beautiful kids and a great husband. I am a sty at home mom. I feel like I don't get a break or help from any one. I love what I do, but yes I still feel lonely.
I'm glad that I am not the only one!

At times I do feel lonely, as I do not have any close friends, only people that I say Hi too. I have a great hubby, who is my very best friend, and I adore my kids, my daughter and I are really close. I have a sister who keeps me on the phone way too much, but we haven't seen each other in two years, I miss her sometimes. I have a few close online friends, and I feel that they are just as good friends as any in real life.

But to answer the question, yes I feel lonely, I just wish that I could find some people who can just accept me for me, flaws and all.

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Wow reading all these messages makes me feel better that Im not the only one. Im a stay at home mom of 2. I also baby sit several children while their moms go out and socialise everyday. Its hard to get out and do anything. I have 5 children here from 8-5. Then I cook us dinner by then Im tired and its already dark and late. We are not close with either side of our families. DH's family has alot of issues, so we dont socialise as much as we did with them. I didnt come from the greatest family so thats that. I often feel I dont get any help from anyone. We never really get to get out and do anything together (me and DH). When I do get out, he usually gets irritated being at home alone with the kids.