Last night we found out my husband's best friend died. He was only 27 and we're not sure yet what happened. He was found face down on the floor at home. I'm still in shock and having so much trouble sleeping, so I am up at 5.52am with no one to talk to and not knowing what to do with myself at the moment.
Today is my husband's birthday and I know it won't be the happy day we had planned. I still feel I should try to make it as nice as possible, but right now it's so hard to even imagine how to do that since I am feeling so sad and confused.
A few days ago, we had just invited his friend to spend Christmas with us and he seemed so excited about it. This is all so sudden and hard to believe.
Debby SpookyAndSweet@aol.com

((hugs))

I am thinking it's a brain aneurysm...

Wow, not sure if your hubby will be up for anything...I would spoil him today. Bring him his meals, drinks a blanket if he gets cold..make his favorite foods stuff like that. It wont be long before he starts looking for pics of his friend, I would get those ready too..
((Hugs)) again!

oh man so sorry to hear this, it is hard especially when its someone so young & unexpected it makes you realize at no matter what age you can be here today & gone tommrrow which I dont think we especialy when we are in our 20's or 30's want to think about ya know. So sorry all you can do is be thier for your husband & his friends family

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I am so so sorry for your loss. There are no words to explain an untimely death at such a young age. Try to be there for your husband but realize your own needs as well. The Good Lord has a plan although at times like these it's difficult to understand what it is. My prayers are with you.

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Aw, hun, I'm SO sorry. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

{{{HUGS}}}

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If you have a particularly good picture of your friend or one that is "classically" him- why don't you contact the family and see if they want a copy for a photo montage. Almost everyone is using a photo board at the funeral home. It will give you something to do and you will have a chance to offer the family something concrete. Does the friend's family live nearby? Can you think of something your husband can do to help the family? shovel snow? pick up relatives at the airport? babysit so the wife can have some time? Sorry for your loss and the family's loss. lynclarke

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How sad my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

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I am so sorry.
That is way to young to die.

Sending Hugs!!
Shirley

very sad..don't know what to say really. We just lost a friend of ours two weeks ago-he was a bit older 54-had a heart attack at a basketball game that he was playing in and died on the way to the hospital. We're still in shock. I know how you feel though.

How sad. I am so very sorry.

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Im so Sorry to hear this, So hard right before the holidays...

((((Hugs)))) to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.

Thanks so much to all of you for your kind words and suggetions, I really appreciate it.
Debby

So sorry to hear about your loss

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I'm so sorry for your loss

We just heard back about the initial autopsy and they are saying it was a massive coronary. They are going to do a toxicology just to make sure he hadn't taken something that caused it, but none of us are expecting them to find anything there. My husband was on the phone half of the morning talking to friends and relatives so it's good he's been able to do that and it seems to have helped a bit. Unfortunately, I don't have the support system of co-workers and friends like he does. Since he's basically the only one I have to talk to about this and I've tried not to make it worse for him today, I've been trying to just be there for him and not express my own feelings very much.
There really isn't much for me to say about it. I'm just feeling very sad and alone right now, but it definitely helps knowing there are people out there whom I've never even met that care enough to read this and respond or keep us in their prayers.
Thank you all so much
Debby

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It's weird to think that someone so young could have a coronary. DH and I are in our 20's and I couldn't imagine life without him. Did he have a wife or kids? MAybe you could offer to babysit for her. Or go get her some milk (you can never have too much milk).

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Wow. I am so very sorry to hear about this. That does seem so young, but I guess disease and horrible things like that are not prejudice as to age.
You definitely have your "mycoupons family" to talk to if you need or want to.
Patti

Sorry to hear about your loss {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

He did have 1 son and an ex wife, but they were not really on speaking terms and we never met her. I appreciate the suggestion though. My husband has told his friend's parents that we are here for them if they need us, but I really don't think there is much we can do to help right now.

Debby

How sad and especially around the holidays. what a shame, so young.

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OMG...very sad....we will keep them in our thoughts and prayers

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I'm so sorry. This is really tragic.

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend the week after we was transfered. I was so blessed that her family included me in the family stuff. They had me sit with them at the funeral, I had neighbors come to my house to tell me how sorry they was for my loss. The pain of someone so dear to you is as hard as losing a family member, I know I have lost both. I pray that you all find comfort and ease of your pain soon.

I'm sorry for your loss and feel very sad when Christmas Day comes for your Husband and you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as this will be very diificult. Please find comfort knowing that we are here to listen to you.

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I too am sorry for your loss and that of your husband too. He probably would feel guilty celebrating his birthday wth all that is going on....maybe just give him a card and a hug and say you will make it up to him later. Take care of yourself and your family.

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