Whenever my Dad comes to my house he gets my DD crazy and hyper(in a silly not bad way). So I turned and said to him God You get her so crazy as soon as you walk in the door. Well now he is sulking and threatining not to come over for the Holidays. He is being very sarcastic and mean about this. I don't think I said anything wrong and thought he could have made a joke about this. I am losing my patience.

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Maybe he's just having a bad day?

My kids do the same thing around my relatives.

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No he has been mad for almost 3 weeks

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Oh dear. Make sure you tell your dad that you weren't mad at him or trying to offend him. You meant it in a silly way. Do what you can to make this right....and I don't think you did anything wrong. But, life is too short to have disturbed relationships with family members. At the end of the day, when all is said and done, you only have your family to count on. I sure hope this gets resolved and you're able to spend the holidays together peacefully.

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You are so right "at the end of the day you only have your family to count on"

I would call him and just explain that you were joking and that you are sorry if he took it the wrong way. All 5 of my girls get excited when they see their pawpaw. He brings them treats(soda/candy) every week when he comes and it drives me bonkers. LOL But I would rather pick and chose my battles and I just don't think this should be one for me,

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I'll be the grinch here. If he has been mad for 3 weeks he needs to grow up and get over it. Regardless of how you said it or how you meant it he and the girls may need to calm down a little bit.

I know kids get excited but it can get way out of control.

Good luck I hope that things settle down and you can enjoy the holidays.

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LOL...I don't think you're a grinch. My girls get very excited around my parents and even around their dad in the evenings when he comes home. I have to be the "bad guy" and make them settle down.
I know what she means and I'm sure she did nothing wrong. But it's terrible to see a family have tension over something that wasn't meant to even cause trouble. And sometimes we just have to be the bigger(or better) person and make amends. It's worth it to keep your family peaceful. Just my opinion, of course!

my daughter loved her papaw soooo much. she aways got excited when she was gonna get to see him. it lasted as long as he was here. He moved in with us when he had cancer and only got to stay here a week when he died. She misses him still and he has been gone since she was 5 and she is 21 now. It drove me nuts cause she would get all silly and stuff when he was here. but I sure miss it now. I think about all kids gets like this over seeing relatives ( esp. grandparents)

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I am actually prone to getting really stressed out when my dad gets my dd all worked up, too! However, I have figured out that, for me, there is an interesting reason. I realize that I want my kids on their best behavior when my parents are around, and that my dad is the very one undermining it! LOL. So, ironically, I'm here trying to be sure that they see what great kids we have, and my dad is busy bonding with one of them in the best way he knows how - by getting her to laugh hysterically and be silly. So our plans are incompatible...I realize it's my place to let it happen, and that after my dad has the girls all tired out from the laughing fits, he's happy, they're tired, and it's over.

So for me, the need for me to demonstrate how well-behaved my children are has to come second to my dad's need to make the girls laugh. It's annoying, but it means more to the two of them than it does to me, really. (Your situation could be very different than mine, but I thought I'd throw this out there, anyways.)

Having not been there and heard the tone of your voice and your facial expression--I can not say who is wrong or right!

So much would depend on HOW it was said--not so much WHAT you said.

For the sake of family--I say you should apologize and open up the lines of communication to determine what upset your father so badly.

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Take a moment out of your day and go over and talk to him.
Misunderstandings need to be taken care of ASAP.
(Believe you me I come from the biggest "I took your tone in the wrong way" family there ever was PLUS I married into one as well.)

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Who knows how he took it and why. The father/daughter dynamic is very complex and not knowing you, your relationship, his personality, etc all I can say is it sounds like his feelings were hurt. Perhaps in the spirit of the holiday season you can "apologize" for the way you said it, tell him you did not intend to hurt his feelings, you like it that he loves your daughter and they have fun together but you need set some boundaries. Then sit down with him and a cup of coffee and tell him what times of day and in what circumstances he can get her really excited and suggest some mellower alternatives for other times like in the house and late at night.
Hopefully whatever happens your daughter and father will always share this special relationship. One of my Grandpas died when I was an infant and the other lived in Italy and I only saw him about three times in my life. So it is special to me that your daughter shares this closeness with her Grandpa.

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You know- it might have been totally harmless but what you have is one sulking grandpa and a grand-daughter who is paying the price if she hasn't seen him in 3 weeks. Suck it up and go apologize (you can have your fingers crossed behind your back). If he doesn't snap out of it immediately then play the grand-daughter card---why should she pay for his big sulk. FIX THIS before the holidays. Good luck.

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Well Thankfully he is a big teddy bear with his Grandkids and would never take this out on them and he will come over just will hold grudge towards me and hubbie and be sarcastic and rude. So the kids are oblivius to all of this because they are the apples of his eye. I just think life is short and why hold on to petty issues that he know weren't meant to be mean. He will be coming over it;s just putting up with the crankiness and he is only 67 not 90.

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I agree life is too short.

How do you know that he knows your comment was meant to be mean? Obviously, he took offense to it for some reason. Is it not possible that you could have said it in a way that could be construed to be "mean" or hateful??

Again, life is too short. Why not ask what's bothering him and apologize if what you said offended him as that was not your intent.

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