DH & I and the 3 kids (teens) are invited to a wedding on Saturday. It's the 3rd marriage for the bride (our friend) and they are not registered anywhere, so I'm thinking that they probably want $$$$$$.

How much would you give as a gift to cover for 5 people going to a sit down dinner wedding?? Or, do you have a fantastic suggestion for a tangible gift??

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We normally give $25-$100 depending on who they are to us and what we can afford at the time

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How about some Linens with her new initials embroidered on them?

With digital cameras everyone can be a great photograher, I would take tons of pictures between the 5 of us and give her a nice wedding album, put the the pictures on disc to music and give a digital album with a digital picture frame.

How well do you know the couple would depend on how much to give. I think $100 min. for a sit-down dinner.
You can get monogramed towels. You can get a frame with the wedding date engraved in it. A album for their honeymoon pictures. A religious item. A small appliance with something fun thrown in...ie" quesadilla maker, with some fun cactus type glasses and some tequella or some hot sauces, and chile pepper accessories. Do they have kids or grandkids? If so, some other appliances would be the hot dog stand (throw in some condiments or hot dog shaped bowls/plates), the movie stand popcorn maker,,,throw in some popcorn flavorings.

You don't need to worry what they are spending on you per plate.
The amount spent on the gift should be based on your affection for and relationship with the couple – or their families – as well as your budget.

A co-worker, or casual friend, I would give/spend $50. Close family, or friend, I give between $100 and $200.

I agree with Linda...don't worry about what they're spending. They are doing that because they want to and they honestly don't expect anything in return. We are dong something fairly inexpensive, and it's costly $39 per person...all I want in "return" is for my friends to come and have a blast! I'm glad I saw this post because I had considered not registering anywhere because it's my second marriage (btw...getting married on June 16, 2007!), but maybe I should...it would at least give people an idea of what they can get us if they want to get something.

My suggestions would be towels, sheets, bakeware...or, of course, MONEY! Also, you could find out where they are going on their honeymoon. I know that they B&B we're staying at sells GCs. If they haven't paid for the resort/rooms in full, they might appreciate that.

I really like the photo album idea.

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I like to give photo albums. There are some lovely black velvet albums with silver tone covers and ‘wedding’ themed adornments on the cover. I find these at Michael’s, Macy’s, JCPenney, Things Remembered (you can probably get it engraved there with the date), and even Target!

You could always fall back on a gift card from Home Depot, Bed, Bath & Beyond, Lowe’s, Target, Linen’s & Things, William Sonoma or Pottery Barn.

A nice sheet set in white or ivory is always appreciated.

I like this idea. If they have a photographer he will probably be taking formal photos and even if they have those disposable cameras on the tables, you could take your own pix and put them in a good sized album to which they could add their own candid shots. Not a lot of money spent but a show of thoughtfulness on your part.

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Thanks for your great suggestions! Keep em coming. Remember the wedding is in just a couple days, so I'll probably cop out and write a check. I like the monogrammed towel idea but don't think I have time to get it done.

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I know the rule in NY (where I come from) was always to cover the cost of your plate. Now that means a little more than $100 per person.

Of course now I live in GA and things are very different here! I wouldn't even know what to do!

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I always give money as a wedding gift. My dh family and friends are from back east and they give gifts at the wedding shower and only money for the wedding. With this being a third marriage and both of them probably older and on their own they don't need a bunch of stuff. They probably already have 1 or 2 of everything, and if they need something then they can buy it with a gift of money. LOL As for the amount I would go by what you can afford. I have been to very expensive weddings where there is no way I can give the bride and groom as much as the parents are paying for the dinners. For a good friend who invited my whole family I would give $50 to $100.