What do you too enjoy to do with each other on date night? do you share a hobby?

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Too many people spend money they haven't earned to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like. - Will Rogers

We don't have date nights unfortantely. We don't trust anyone enough to allow them to watch our children so we always have our children with us. We do play dark age of camelot (MMO) online nightly when the kids go to bed.

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SAHM of Bailey 12, Tyler 10 , Emily Ann 6, and Ryan Matthew 4 yrs old.

We like to go out to eat, catch a movie sometimes. We joke that we have nothing in common, so I am trying to figure something out that we can do together. Maybe I'll break down and golf with him in the Spring.

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" Even though life can be a very long, hard, stressful and never-ending journey, never lose hope in what you want the most."

On date night...we usually go out for dinner and go SHOPPING!!

My hubby loves to shop...yes, clothes shop! It is actually not a good thing because he just refuses to learn the finer art of clearance rack shopping...he sees something he likes, usually for me and buys it. Sounds great huh? Well our taste in clothes is no where near the same. I basically have two wardrobes, one of stuff he likes me to wear, one of what I like to wear.

We both love to fish...love to travel...he plays softball, I love to watch! We attempt to play tennis!

My DH and I mostly like to shop and go to concerts. That's normally how we like to spend our time together.

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Don't dream it. Be it.

We both like to eat! We enjoy cooking and trying new, exotic recipes. We're both crafty but in different ways. He makes soap and carves wood. I scrapbook, sew and quilt. We both like to yard sale and find great bargains at Kohls or Target, too.

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Cecilia

"We must love them both--those whose opinions we share and those whose opinions we reject. For both have labored in the search for truth, and both have helped us in the finding of it."
Saint Thomas Aquinas

CAMP.........we both love it!!!

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Brenda

GO #24 JEFF GORDON

OMG! We are the same exact way...no babysitters, so we always have our kids with us. It's great to hear of someone else like us...most parents we know can't wait to unload their kids.
Ok, back to the question...stuff in common.....really, alot of stuff, from our taste in TV shows to putting grape jelly on a sasuage mcmuffin and butter on a steak. Most importantly our views on child rearing.

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"Cougars for Cook"

we share common ideals and both have an open mind. We have the same beliefs when it comes to religion. We think respect it a lost art and try to instill it in our kids.

Date nights: playing pool, going out to eat and *people watch*, drinking margs while eating chips and salsa, going to a play, 80's night at a club, hanging out with friends, bowling....

We have a date night at least once a month and try to do 2 times a month. We have family nearby so it's rarely "a sitter" but rather family. We also both enjoy traveling (although we don't do a lot of it). We are getting "into wine" and hope to take a class (when extra $$$ is available). We do the wine tastings every weekend and have fun chatting with the others who attend

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Proud to say I haven't shopped at a Wal-Mart since Sept 2003

My DH and I do not have much in common except for our love of Musicals and our love of Hockey. Strange combo, huh..yet enough to keep us happily married for 18 years.

(by the way, we do share the same beliefs and views on life and the future which also helps!)

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Nutella,....
proving some of the best things in life come in a jar.

You know? I find that statement offensive. I don't UNLOAD my children on anyone, we have a couple of babysitters so that DH and I can WORK to pay bills and provide for our children and so that we can go out and have grown-up time. To insinuate that someone who utilizes babysitter's are just looking to unload their kids is just rude. And according to most marriage counselors and "experts", parents need time away from their children for date night type things...

Back to the post--we have a lot in common: Our love of Razorback football, cooking, reading, comedies, science fiction, music. When we have a date night it's dinner and a movie, or shopping, or a formal function for work. Occasionally we do something like going to Taste of Home cooking show, antique/craft fairs.

The whole family LOVES garage sales--the boys actually FORCE us to get up at the butt crack of dawn on Saturdays during Sale Season...

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

Well we both enjoy going out to eat. We both love shopping BTW I am working on the clearance rack shopping.

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mom of 3 greats girls

Marilyn i don't think she meant it the way it came across. I also know people that really do look to unload their children just so they can do what they want. It doesn't mean that you are that way. It doesn't mean that most parents that do have babysitters are that way. I think sometimes it's hard to express how we feel on a message board. I do believe as parents that we all need breaks from our children. The break i get is when hubby gets home i run to the store by myself to get a little alone time. But i feel and my husband feel that we can't trust anyone enough to watch our children so we don't have any alone time without them together.

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SAHM of Bailey 12, Tyler 10 , Emily Ann 6, and Ryan Matthew 4 yrs old.

and I wasn't angry, I was just letting her know that it did come across as offensive.

And I understand where you're coming from--I was a SAHM for nearly 7 years living away from family and not really having any friends or knowing anyone where we lived.

But, I would recommend that you find someone you can trust! You never know when an emergency might strike and you NEED someone. This past spring I had a gallbladder attack and had to be admitted to the hospital from the ER for emergency surgery--had we not had a dependable babysitter, we would have been in a bad position.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

We're opposites but the things we do have in common is We both love Rollerbading. We do enjoy going out to dinner & movie. He loves wood working & I love to paint and stain the project. We both enjoy playing cards,scrabble & aggravation..We will be married 22 years this march..We do go head to head on alot of things but we have to sit down and find a solution we both can agree on.

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Angels may not come when you call them, but they'll always be there when you need them.

DH and I are both Audio Enginers. I am a SAHM now and he works at a local casino running sound for the national acts (Styx, David Copperfield, Big Bad Voodo Daddys are a few comming soon). I still am on payroll for the co. he works for so I can get into the shows free. On date night the in-laws take the kids for the weekend and I hang out with him at work. I used to work at the same casino running sound in a smaller room with local bands so I also wonder the casino and talk to the bartenders, waitresses and barbacks. Then we peak our heads into my old room and hang-out with the local band.

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TLJ ~ Where opinions are encouraged, not deleted

You laugh at me because I am different,
I laugh at you because you are all the same.

Your mind is like a parachute, it only works when it is open.

My SO and I share a love for yard/garage sales. We love to find the good deals (although I am the coupon finder). Date nights are spent cooking and watching movies. He will even check out a clearance sale at the craft store for me but he will not shop Target with me.

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We have a Harley so we enjoy riding and going to events we also love going out for sushi and sake once a week,

Christine R, SC

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TLJ ~ Women United in Spirit

Sad but true, we DO know alot of parents that look to unload their kids......I wasn't directing this at you, I don't know you...do I?
Just stating what I, personaly know...don't be mad, Isn't this entire board about opinions?

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"Cougars for Cook"

*sigh* and as I stated I wasn't angry--just a bit put off by the way you worded your post. I may have been the only one, but I might not have been. It's better to KNOW that you offended someone so that you can look at how something you have said and/or done and make any changes necessary. Do you want to intentionally or even unintentionally offend others and possibly hurt feelings? I, for one, do not.

I was also posting to give you the flip side of not all parents have sitters just to UNLOAD their children.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

You weren't the only one Marilynk...I was put off only because we have recently learned how IMPORTANT it is to spend time as a couple, alone, out of the house, without the kids

We spent the first seven years of our parenthood feeling like no one could be trusted with our kids...they are really close together...my oldest was four when my youngest was born and there are two others in between. I felt badly leaving them with anyone, didn't feel that anyone could handle them.

Having been there and done that, it really isn't good for your marriage. I can't tell you the joy that we get from just spending three or four hours together without the kids. We've been married for 14 years and were married for 4 years before we had kids. We have a stong marriage, however, you need couple time to reconnect. We still haven't left them with anyone for more than four hours...we are thinking about an overnight soon.

Besides being great for us as a couple, it is wonderful for the kids!!! They need a break once in a while too. The two youngest cry when we leave (we are talking once a month here!), but they always have a blast!

We have never left them with someone we didn't know...we have a little babysitting coop with two other families and we have a sweet teenager from our church who is wonderful with them...has fun, but doesn't forsake our rules.

On the flip-side, I know there are parents who work all week and then hire babysitters both weekend nights...I've been that babysitter and those poor kids just crave time with their mommies and daddies. I hope that is what she meant...

My parents live in the same town we do and we trust them completely with our children, so if an emergency does arrive we do have them. My mom can't handle watching all 3 kids at once as the baby is walking and my mom has some issues that make it really difficult to keep up with her so we don't have them babysit them. I know if i had an emergency she would do it in a heartbeat. Glad to know your doing well after your attack. My best friend had a gallbladder attack and almost died from it so i know how severe that could be.

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SAHM of Bailey 12, Tyler 10 , Emily Ann 6, and Ryan Matthew 4 yrs old.

Nothing

My Dh & I are like oil and water LOL

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If there is a will there is a way!

Scott and I are pretty different, but we share a love of movies and music, so we usually do something involving one or the other. Usually on a dat enight, we'll have dinner and a movie, or a concert. Summer is our favorite time to date, because they have the free concerts in the park.

We have been known to just go for a walk for date-- we love to do that too.

Holly

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No kids at home anymore for us!

I can understand what 4csmom meant!

There are a lot of people who DO dump their kids!

Some have gone off and left little ones at home alone!


I didn't see where she was speaking about anyone here.
Hard to see why anyone would find fault with her saying what she did??

my husband and I love to eat so we cook together, we play phase 10 and yahtzee all the time, we listen to the same type of music, we like the same type of television, and we both love football.

sandy

DH and I both like to bowl, go out to eat, and see plays. He goes to a local sports bar to watch our football team play and sometimes I'll go with him. ~Lisa

We go out for breakfast, go to a movie, or go out for drives to look at land (!) for fun.

Here at home, we enjoy cooking, playing board games, and snuggling up under a warm blanket and just visiting each other.

We really are each other's best friend...

Ummmm nothing??

We have very little in common other than the fact that we love each other! We have two different religions in the house, he's an outdoor guy and I'm an inside girl.

We've been married for 21 yrs and together for 27...go figure

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This space for rent

Dinner and a movie or Boating.

We're both broke.

We enjoy square dancing, travelling, bargain shopping (stores and yard sales) being with the grandkids,
home improvement and a few TV shows.

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Square dancing is friendship set to music!

DH and I are both pretty cheap- so we enjoy thrifty pursuits (Ex target clearance shopping, browsing goodwil for a deal)

We are also pretty much to ourselves most of the time.

Also, we can make each other laugh with dorky things.

ummm, four kids???????

We don't seem to have a whole lot in common at all, and he is really getting on my nerves these days, but today is our wedding anniversary (17yrs.) so I guess we must be doing something right....

DH and I dont share many interests.. I like scrapbooking, shopping and couponing. He likes quads, paintball and pool.

Date nights for us going out are dinner, movies, bowling, indoor mini golf. We have alot of date nights after the kids go to bed too. Rent a movie, play board games (monopoly is our favorite, we collect them) or cards

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*Danielle*
Mominct@comcast.net
Married since June 2001
Mom to Two Boys Ages 4 & 6

Nothing and everything......he is a nerd and I am a free spirit. He loves type A hobbies, computers, reloading, intense video games. I love a good book, antique auctions, and being social. I am crazy about him. We have lots of mini dates. Slip out of the house, go grab a shake or sundae and talk about the stars. We have been married 18 yrs last December. It is wonderful and I plan on many many more years of the same.

I hear ya! And I can relate...We've been married for 17 years as well and have three kids...We get along pretty well, but sometimes he can really grate on my nerves, as I'm sure I do to him as well. This thread really got me thinking...We actually have more not in common than in common...He likes to do things outside...I'm more of an indoor person...He's always running to the doctor about something...I only go when I really have to...He likes to jog...I don't...I like to shop...He hates it...I love astrology...He thinks it's not for real...I could go on...Hmmmmmmm... ~Lisa

Thank You Sista'! I'm just calling it like I'VE seen it...and I'VE seen it alot!
Maybe I just need a better class of friends!! Clairify!!-- Meaning, ones that don't dump their kids so much---Clairify!!
!! LOL!! I feel paranoid now..hey, is someone laughing at me?!?

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We dont really have a date night but we do have quite a bit of alone time. We both love Steelers football and football in general. Also we do a lot of shopping together, dont know if that is a hobby but it sure can be fun sometimes.


Darlene

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Sell crazy some place else, we are all stocked up here.

We'll be married 17 years in August (20 together) and spend basically all of our free time together. We enjoy; camping, hiking, fishing/boating, gardening, cooking(having friends over), playing games, showing and breeding show cows and steers, building little projects (our current one is a pretty laid-out chicken coop for DH grandfather..looks more like a beautiful greenhouse), and I know there's a ton of other things!

We don't have alot in common either.
That does make it hard.
When we do go out together we usually go out to dinner and maybe a drink or to go see a local band or something.
I do wish we had more in common than we do.

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Long Lost ejm99 !

SHEEEE'SSS BAAAAACK!

Thank you so much for posting this.

My husband & I don't have much in common but we do choose not to raise our child in a paranoid world. Therefore we go out without her. Mostly to the theater. It's good for her to spend time with other adults and we get to debate the merits of the show later.

Dh and I are so much the same but so diiferent ,Our Birthday is 1 year and 5 days apart.

we enjoy playing golf together
Going to a concert
Going out to dinner
Shopping***YES
Watching sport on Tv
going to the Movies,
getting a Movies and laying on the couch together eating popcorn
Once a month we go alway for a 4 days weekend getway

Absolutely nothing anymore.... At least that is what it feels like.

I have realized that most couples are opposites, and that one will be good at something and the other good at something else, the strengths and weakness balance out each other. My husband is awesome with money, very diligent with projects/workaholic and organization. I love to spend, give gifts, and can live with my underwear drawer unorganized. We balance.... we clash at times too. If we were all the same, we all be robots. It is good we are all different, otherwise life would be extremely boring.

I wish... my husband is in the mind set that I can't have a differing opinion then him. I'm wrong no ifs ands or buts... And he constantly thinks i'm cheating on him.. never have never will...but the constant comments about "my boyfriend" from him are getting old.