I am a hairdresser by trade/profession. Have been doing hubby's cut for 10 years. He asked for a cut the other evening and then HIS friends come over and he didn't want it cut cause they were there. I never gave it another thought, after all, I do have THREE SMALL children, house, job, etc.

Well, yesterday, he came in and said, I gotta go get a haircut at 430. I was devastated.
Should I be mad at him? What do you think?

I really took it as a slap in the face. I mean I am in competetion with this lady. Tell me if I am over-reacting or what? How can I handle this?

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I think he's being ridiculous but don't take it personally, he's just a "guy". It most likeky never occurred to him that this would hurt your feelings. Did you ask him (calmly) why he scheduled an outside appt. when he could have reminded you he needed the cut?

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Did your husband give a reason for why he wants someone other than you to cut his hair?
I think it would hurt my feelings but I'd try to talk to him about it. I can't imagine a good reason for it but who knows.....men definitely think differently than us girls, lol!!

Since you do this as a profession, yeah that does sound bad

I was thinking maybe his friends joked about his haircut or something, but if you do it as a profession I can't see that, and surely if he wanted it cut a different way all he has to do is ask?

I just would like to know why he would/and did do that??
I would think it would be a major perk to have someone in the house as a hairstylist.
Please let us know.
AND yes I would have been upset as well.
(Why would he want to spend HIS $$ and give his $$ to someone else. Perhaps your rates for your service should double!! :-)

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I would be mad-for the most part for the $$-it's quite a waste for him to pay money for something you could do quite easily at home. I would have told him to cancel his appt. and then get the smock on ASAP! And then I would have given him a bill and expected a large tip!

I would definately speak with him about this. I have been cutting DH's hair since we were dating 25 years now and if he did this I would be very hurt. You have led me to thinking through my own situation. Perhaps he wants a different style and doesn't know how to discuss with you, or maybe he feels as if since he "canceled" on you when you had the time he feels that he shouldn't impose on your time on his whims.

However I wouldn't be afraid to tell DH that he hurt my feelings by going elsewhere. And if he feels like paying for it he could contribute to your savings goal

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Spend money on a haircut when you are a stylist? I would have killed him AND I would decrease his spending money by the amount. GRRRR

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I used to cut the hubs hair..but every once in a while he liked to go to the barber shop-for some good old fashioned male bonding. Don't be pissed at him-he's actually giving you a break!

Yup, I would be very upset. I would have a conversation with him about this. Maybe he does not understand how it is competition and semi-embarrassing especially if he tells whoever that his wife cuts hair. KWIM? He may not realize what he is doing so I would let him know.

I think her hubby thought she forgot about giving him a haircut and instead of reminding her, made an appointment to get one.

Could it be possible that he knew how busy she was and didn't want to burden her?

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I'd be hurt as well, but would be angry about the $$ he's shelling out for something that could be for free.
great job on your money saving goal!! keep your head up.. I wouldn't get to upset over it .

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men don't think the sameway we do. I know if my DH would have done something like that he would have thought he was doing me a favor by not asking me to do it on my off time. I would nicely ask him why and see what his answer is before I got angry with him.

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I just ask my DH to put himself in the same situation and he said it would probably be because one of the guys made a stupid comment about his "mommy" cutting his hair.

Maybe?

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I think he wants some attention. Men are such babies and crummy communicators (and I can't spell!)
I'd bet he did this so you'd respond with "Honey, I always cut your hair.." I just think they need babying more then we have time to give it!
Pamper him if he is a good guy ...if he is a jerk on a regular basis let him go elsewhere to get his haircut...w/o saying a word...that will really baffle him!

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I'd let him go and get his hair cut by whoever he wishes to cut it~

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I would be ticked if he pulled that on me. Is there a plausible reason why he would use another stylist?

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The old me would have been ticked but nowadays I would just say go ahead pay for it no skin off my back thanks for the break!

Another way to play it is then start telling him at dinner about some cute guys hair you cut today or his friends hair or something & say ya I gave him a discount too ROFL!!!

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This is my thought as well... I have cut my DH's hair for the past 10 years and sometimes, I can tell, he gets tired of waiting for me to be available. It has actually gotten quite long at times. I'd ask him... can't hurt.