Hi,

Dh wants to wait to start a family- until he finishes school (first it was until we were married a few years, then when he got out of the military, I told him this was his last excuse ) By the time he is out, we will have been married for around 10 years.

Anyway, how old were you when you had your first child. Also, if you don't mind adding, how long had you been married?

Thanks for sharing. Just trying to not feel like the oldest mother/longest married couple to start a family.

DH and I celebrated our 15th anniversary one week before DD was born. I was almost 3 months shy of 35 yrs. old. Had DS 26 months later less than a month before turning 37. It wasn't our choice when the children came along, it's just the way it happened. We started trying to conceive after 2 yrs. of marriage. No matter, we've got two wonderful kids and can't imagine life any different.

I remember a couple at church that purposely waited 16 yrs. to have children.

I was 29 when my oldest was born. We'd been married for four years...we had a miscarriage the year before.

PS We just had some dear, dear friends finally be blessed with their first after FIFTEEN years of trying!!! They are thrilled. They are in their 40's.

#1-22
#2-24
#3-25
#4-will be 26

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Had my first at 31 and second at 34. Was married for two years and lived together for two years prior to having my first. Met my Dh when I was 23. We waited because Dh was also in the military and finishing up school. It seemed the right thing to do at the time, but now in hindsight I wish I had started earlier - I may have had more children.

#1 when I was 25 and we had been married for 3 years (but it's really just over 2 years since you are preggo 9 months LOL)

#2 when I was 27

Got fixed at age 31 (sounds like I'm talking about my dog LOL)

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I had my first daughter when I was 23 ( she just turned 21 a few days ago), and my second daughter when I was 33 ( she will be 11 in a few more weeks)! My dh and I will be celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary in June!

I was 22, married negative 3 months Just had my third at 30, I definitely felt this pregnancy more (though I never had any morning sickness, oddly..). Not sure if that was due to age or number of pregnancies, probably the latter. I could barely walk at the end! I'm on a list for babies due in October and there are a couple others around my age who had their first (and/or only).

We are *done*. We were done after 2, oops Hubby got fixed during the summer, I'll be getting fixed one of these days...

i was 25 when my first daughter was born in 1999 my husband was 20 almost 21. we got married may of 2000. Our son was born when i was 27 and my second daughter was born when i was 31.

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Had my first at 18, married, became a mother and divorced that year(1972)..Remarried in 1975 had 2nd one 13 months later, had 3rd one in 1980, lost oldest one in 1990. Have been "happily" married almost 32 years and now have 3 grankids and 1 granddog

I had been married about 11 1/2 years before my oldest was born. I was almost 31 at the time. My youngest was born 2 years later. My girls are now 8 1/2 and 6 1/2. And after 20 years of marriage, I'm getting divorced.
I really don't know if it's all related or not but I will say that having kids after being married for so long, really changes EVERYTHING and was quite hard on our marriage. However, I wouldn't change a thing. My girls are the absolute best things that ever happened to me. And because I was older, I was more mature and much more patient.
I think there's good things about waiting for a while and there are bad things about waiting. Being older has advantages and disadvantages. I just wonder though if those who had kids when they were very young, wouldn't say the same thing??
Good luck with your decisions about starting a family. It's definitely a huge, life changing event!!

We got married in 1990 (I was age 26)
DS#1 was born in 1995 (I was age 31)
DS#2 was born in 1997 (I was age 33)

I was 28 when DS#1 was born and we had been married for 4 1/2 years.

Sarah........mom to Jason & Devin..

We lived together & dated for 2 and a half years,
1994 got engaged & set date for Sept 1996: 2 years into future.

Found out i was preg, but decided to proceed with marriage plans as we had already made.

*previously 2 miscarriages
DS #1 Born March 96 (22 yrs old)
Married Sept 96
*another miscarriage
DS #2 Born April 2000 (26 yrs old)
DD Born March 2004 (30 yrs old)

My children are 4 years apart down to the month. The last pregnancy was definately harder on me, but mentally I have gotten better with age as far as raising them is concerned. Currently been married 10 years. Everyday is a new struggle. BUT anything worth having usually is!

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We were married in Oct. 95 I was 21.

Had ds Oct. 96 (1 week before our anniversary) I was 22

Had dd Dec. 99 I was 25. Had my tubes tied after her. I almost died, we had talked about another, but it was not worth the risk to us.

We have to healthy beautiful kids.

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We got married in 1990 I was 18
DS#1 was born in 1991 I was 19
3 misscarriages
DS#2 was born in 1994 I was 23
I had my tubes tied after #2. My body had just had enough. I would give anything to have another one now that I'm older and have more patience.

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We sometimes think that we'd like another one BUT after babysitting my friend's baby for 9 1/2 hours a day for a year; I'm cured!!!! She has now moved on to daycare with other kids... aah.

We are thinking of getting a little dog instead.

Had one & only DS 9 days before my 35th. My DH kept putting it off also. We should wait for....a number of reasons. I finally said "I'm having a baby this year" and God agreed. We were married 6 years.

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#1-27, married for a little over 3 yrs
#2-33, married for 8.5 yrs

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We got married in January 1996 - I was 20, he was 21. We had our son in December 1996.

I was 22 and unmarried when I had my DD in 1997.

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Lord don't let that cold wind blow til I'm too old to die young'

I had my first at 17 and DH & I have been together for 16 years married for 11 years

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If there is a will there is a way!

I was 24 when the first was born. We've been married 17 years this coming Fall. I had only been married 2 years when the first baby came along.

DH and I had been married 10 years before we had our twins. I was 29 when I had them. They now 23 years old!! I'm SO glad we didn't jump right in and have children when we were first married. I think it gave us a chance to be together and get to know each other and 'have fun' before the kids came!!!

I was 25 when I had my son (who is now 8 months). Married only three months before he came along (but had been with DH for 9 YEARS). It just took us longer

DD#1 AT 18 not recomending it though
dd# 2 at 24
dd#3 at 27 tubes tied after her

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I loved reading all this information about everyone. Thanks for sharing such things about yourselves. I had a unique experience compared to others on here. My DH and I started dating in 1988, got married in 1989. I was 25. My first child was born (not to me) in 1984. I call him my Wedding Gift. My DH had sole custody of him since DS was 2 in 1987. My first natural pregnancy that went to term with a healthy baby boy was in 1993 when I was almost 29. We had been married 4 years with one miscarriage a year earlier.

Just a note.... my oldest is now 22 and I have never thought of him anything less than mine. He has called me mom from day one... his request and calls his birth mother by her given name, IF he talks to her at all. We have never said negative things to him about his birth mom and let him make his own judgements through the years.

A funny thing happened when he was 18, he went into the Navy (yes, I am a proud mom!) Right before this he called me and asked where I was born. I gave him the information. Then he started asking me more questions. I thought it was weird but I answered a few questions then asked why he was asking. He said he was filling out information for the Navy and needed information on his mom to verify citizenship and other things. I get teary even now thinking of this... I had to remind him I wasn't his birth mom. That was probably one of the proudest days in my life.

Thanks for letting me share!

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#1 DS @ 17 (wasnt married just living together) 1992
*Miscarriage in 2000*
#2 DS @ 31 (married for 4 yrs) 2004
#3 DS @ 33 (married for 6 yrs) 2006

I've been with DH for 16 yrs (Dec 1990 and will be married for 7yrs on the 11h of this month)

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I had my one and only when I was 27.

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I was Married at 17 in August of 1983 DH was 20.

I was 19 when I had my first baby a boy born in Dec 1985 (yep our Christmas gift for everyone that year I came home Christmas Eve)

At 20 I lost our only baby girl at 18 weeks gestation it was July 4, 1986

At 21 I had our second son June 1987 a 32 week preemie

At 23 I had our third son Nov 1989 another 32 week preemie he was supposed to be the last because my kidneys couldnt take another pregnancy.

Dec 1989 DH got the big "V" done

At 34 we welcomed our fourth son into the world Sept 1998 yet another 32 week preemie. He was conceived using medical intervention and he is definitely the last (Doctors Orders) and very much worth the money we spent to get pregnant and the 24 weeks of bedrest, monthly nephrostomy tube changes, mid-line IV, constant hospitalizations and kidney failure to bring him into this world healthy.He was the toughest pregnancy of all of them and amazingly enough the healthiest.

If we had to do it again, honestly we woudl have waited until our 30's because I feel we are better parents in our 30's than we were in our early 20's.

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DH and I had been married for a little over 7 1/2 years (together for 11 1/2 years) when we had DD. We didn't have any problems, we just chose to wait. I got pregnant the second month we tried. DD was born when I was 32 (2 months shy of my 33rd B-day) and DH was 34.

I was 20 and married cause I was pregnant so we had been married for 5 months when DS came along. The marriage lasted 4 years and 50 weeks
Followed by years of infertility and 2 miscarriages.

I had a scare last summer and decided that with my age (41) and my health it is better that I adopt fur babies instead of kids.

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We had our first when I was 33 and second at 38 We had been married for 7 years and together 12 years. Dh had the same excuses "not the right time" but I finally convinced him it was time! I'm glad I waited ~ I think I'm more patient and it keeps me young to be chasing around an almost three year old at 41!

Kathie

We got married 11/89...My DH was a widower (his first wife died of breast cancer at the young age of 35)...DH is 13 years older than me...They had tried to have children, but never could...

6/91 DS #1 28 yrs. old
9/93 DD 30 yrs. old
3/95 miscarriage
3/96 DS #2 33 yrs. old

We've been together for 20 years, married for 17 years... ~Lisa

I was married at 22 in 2002, had my first (boy) the day after I turned 25 in 2004, due with my second (still not known) one month before I turn 27 in July 2007.

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I had my oldest a month shy of my 18th b-day. Met my dh 2 years later. Dd's bio dad, let's just say we won't go there. Once Dh and I had dated a few times, I introduced him to my dd. She was his "test", if she liked him then all was good, had she not, well then bye-bye..lol
Dh and I have been together 14 years, married 13. Had ds at 22 and my youngest dd at 27. Dh got the big "V" shortly after dd was born because the drs. said my body couldn't take another preg.

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I had my first child at 19 and I have been married 5 months. I was about 4 months pregnant when I got married.

I had my second child at 22 and we had been married for 4 years.


I am so glad that we had our kids when we did. We have now been married 16 years and are in our mid 30's.


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We were married for six years before our first was born. I was 30, DH turned 41 the day after DD was born. DD2 was born when I was 35 and DS was born when I was 40 (and DH was 51!!!!). DH always had a reason why we should wait and then after we had our first, he said he wished we hadn't waited so long. (grrrrrr). I can't tell you what we both said when we found out about #3 -- I'd get banned from the board! Our timing was a bit odd but we love our little family and would have more if we weren't getting so old.

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I was 18 when I had my first. I had been married for about 18 months when she was born. I was 26 when I had my 2nd one. I had been married (2nd time) for almost 6 years when she was born. I had my third one when I was 30. I'm the youngest mother in my oldest dd's school!

We started trying as soon as we were married for #2. It took 4 years and 8 months for me to get pregnant w/her. The 3rd one just came along. It was about three years of no protection for her. It was "if it happens, it happens." That's where we are now. We're hoping for #4, and hopefully we'll be blessed w/another one.

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and announcing......
Gavin Michael Chase, 9 lbs 10 ozs
and 21 3/4 inches long on 10/13/09!

Got married at 18
DD1 at age 21
DD2 at age 25
DD3 at age 26

DD2 was the only "planned" child.

Would I change anything? Nope. I have no regrets on having my girls young. I'm graduating college this spring (BSN) and my oldest daughter is a freshman at the rival state university. LOL!

Sure, it was tough. DH was in college pretty much the entire time I was pregnant and now with me in college it seems our married life has always included college tuition, books, etc....

Still, I have loved every moment. We'll be married 22 years next month and again, no regrets on anything.

Married to my first husban when I was 23 in July 1993.

Took birthcontrol (most of the time) and still got pregnant!
Had first daughter in Oct 1994

Had second daughter in May 1996 - 18 months after the first was born!

I got a divorce from my first husband (best thing for all of us!) in 1997

Met my Husband now in 1997...not taking any kind of precautions at all!
And still did not get pregnant with my son until Jan 2003!

I just believe God has a plan for us all and we have to go with it.

My DH & I had pretty much came to terms that we were not going to have any more children.
He loves our girls but I so wanted him to be able to experience the whole process and have a child of his own...and when we were least expecting it it happened.

The funny thing is I almost new I was pregnant the day after it must have happened. I wasn't late or anything yet...there was just some talk about some other coworkers or their family being pregnant one day, and that night or early next morning I awoke from a dead sleep and thought " I wonder if I am pregnant?" Don't ask me why on earth that came to me in my sleep - usually I have weird sci-fi type dreams...a few days later I couldn't stand it anymore and my oldest daugher and I went to WalMart and got a cheapie test. It showed positive. I went to my dr to confirm. I was only about a week & 1/2 pregnant by their best calculations...

My point...don't worry about it either way as you can try to plan, either way, and there is no way to guarantee the results.

My family of 5 is finally settled and complete.

I was 17 yrs old he was born right before my 18th birthday. We didn't get married until this past summer.

After 11yrs together, we got married and planned to have 4 children right away. Apparently God had other plans since #1 didn't show up until over 7yrs later when I was 38. I'm 42yo now and just had #2, 5days ago. I've had 2 very easy pregnancies and even my deliveries were pretty quick & easy. My dh has already agreed to go for #3. We have a girl & a boy so I think I'll wait a year and see what happens.

We were married when I was 21, had a baby 10 months later (22) and our second a year and a half after that (23). I have also had four miscarriages. We have been married for almost twelve years and are not having any more babies. Now that we can't, though, I would love to have another.

OMG.. EXACTLY!!! Yes I am old but not yet 45 so I have a few good years!

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DH and I were together 8 years before we had our first.....we were both 38 when our beautiful daughter was born and I was just 1 month shy of my 41st birthday with the second, my DS. DD now 16 and now you can figure out that my kids are the same age as some of your grandkids probably. But I will tell you that I truly believe that having my kids later in life has kept me so much younger than so many of my contemporaries. I listen to "my" music (being an old hippie and rocker too) and still love and listen to their music! instead of taking my grandkids to Disneyland and Magic Mountain, I am still going on those same rides with my teens.

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I had my DS the day before I turned 40!!! We had been trying for 3 years and had 2 miscarriages. We had been marriied for 4 years.

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Married at 20. Had DS #1 born 3/87 when I was 25. He's leaving next week for the boot camp. DD #1 was born 1/92 she came home on my 30th birthday. DD #2 16 months later born 4/93. Miscarriaged 7/96 at 20 weeks. Last one at 35 DS #2 born 5/97 weighed in at 10 lbs 9 oz's had him natural with out drugs. Done!! We will celebrate our 25th anniversary come 7/07.

Married at 19(1990). Had DD at 21(1992) Started trying again when DD was 1 year old. Finally had DS at 25 (1996). No more for us, we can't have any more .I would loved to had a house full. I was a only child and always wanted a brother or sister!

Married at 18, had first son at 20, second son at 25, third son at 28. DH and I will be married 18 years in April.

I did have two miscarriages between second and third sons...actually I was pregnant three times in one year!

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6/93 - Married (30 yrs. old)
1/96 - DD #1 (33 yrs. old)
7/97 - DD #2 (34 yrs. old)