More of a vent...sorry, probably will not be a rhyme or reason for this.

I "know" a woman from her online blog. I have been visiting her blog and the past week or so, she has made some comments that have rubbed me the wrong way.

she just had a baby, and is very lucky to have supportive family nearby, not only emotional support, but have had multiple baby showers. She was given every gift, gadget and must have for this baby by family members. Her husband is by her side..etc.

Now , my dh was in the military when our children were born. I did not have family nearby to help me out, nor did anyone bother to send presents or what not. I know, it is no ones "fault"...and I am not jealous, really I do not think I am..but lately some of her comments..

here are a few...and my thoughts towards them"

"I just cannot believe how some women ignore their dh's after they have a baby ! are they insane?"

my thoughts..not every dh is helpful..some are acting more like pouty children and just add to after baby stress. It is not like woman "choose" to ignore them over the baby

" I went to church with the baby..and a man came up to me with 3 teen boys and mentioned how the boys should marry a woman like her..who takes care of herself and still is a hard worker"

wtf? Her mom was there to help her, again, her dh at home..and I think if a man said that to his sons in front of me I would chime in that the boys should be aware that since my dh was so helpful, it gave me a chance to comb my hair. Honestly, I felt it was rude what the man said..like woman can HELP not looking like house fraus if only they tried !

not everyone is blessed to have family nearby, or a helpful supportive dh...do you think I should say something ?

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No, I don't think you should say something. If you are annoyed by her blog, don't read it anymore. A blog is basically a journal that is available on the web. In HER journal, she should be free to talk about her life and her feelings about it.

Holly

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oh, I do know and understand, it is her blog, but I felt maybe I should leave a comment such as..."You are lucky to be so blessed..keep in mind not everyone has the same opportunities.." I guess in some way, she seems to be bragging...

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If it is her blog to post whatever she wants -- she can brag all she wants. She is writing about herself and her life and it sounds like she happens to be fortunate to have a lot of support from nearby family. If you don't like it, don't read it. Now if she were posting on another web site, I might be inclined to say something along the lines of what you have suggested, but since she is the blog owner, I think it would be inappropriate.

I agree, I don't think anything you say will change what she says, might just get you shut out from her blog though

I agree with what everyone else has already said. It's her blog. If I had a problem with it, I'd just stop reading.

I can understand why you are upset and I am like you. I would want to say something simply because well maybe she does not realize and when someone points it out to her she may think about it and have an epiphany and the way you word it is perfect.

There have been times in my life when I did not realize how what I said sounds. A perfect example is this very forum where I posted in response to someone about their pet when they go on vacation. Well until someone else kindly pointed it out to me I did not realize how what I was saying came out.

Yes it's her blog but she posts it online for the whole world to read and comment on. There is nothing inapropriate or offensive about it nor are you crossing any boundaries.

I would disagree if you wanted to say "hey B!&ch you are rude judgemental and unappreciative. You are a selfish thoughtless person who is very sefl involved" Now that may be the truth and what people are thinking but you just don't say it and even if you do it does no good.

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I don't know. First you have to remember that its her blog. No one is forcing you to read it. This woman could have a total fantasy life and its not real. Why is this bothering you so much? Hey if she's for real I want to trade places for a day. Maybe she can fix all the stuff I've messed up!!!lol You have to remember that its the internet most people out here are fake. And if it is all true and she's perfect maybe she will do something for this world that will make it better!!LOL

I am curious to know why you guys think it would not be appropriate for people to comment. All online blogs have a place for that. People comment on my blogs all the time.
She is not tyring to tell the lady to do something or that she's wrong. She is simply trying to gently show her that there are many reasons for things and everyone does not have the same opportunities.

I have never been offended when someone comments on my blog and I am quite political so people do disagree with me.

I may be missing something but please tell me what is wrong with it? Is it that you guys would not like someone commenting on your blog? I seriously don't see the harm but I see the possible good it could do.
Kind of like making a comment to a stranger who is impatient with their kids. You don't say "hey stop that you mean mother" You gently say something "It sure can be nerve wracking I have two of my own" and sometimes that brings them back to a different state of mind. No accusations no demands just a simple gentle reminder.

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I agree with you. I see nothing wrong with making a comment. The blog is on the internet and she chose to post it for the world to see. It's not a personal diary. Of course some bloggers only let nice comments on their blogs and anyone who disagrees with the comments gets deleted.

I have seen one blogger delete people's comments who ask legit questions/comments. They are not nasty questions either. There is nothing vulgar in their comments. This particular blogger does not want the people viewing that blog and see that the blogger is not truthful in their blog entries. I knew of one blogger who cried about being poor and having to possibly go on food stamps, get a second job, etc. They were concerned about losing their house, etc. They then posted about going out to eat, going to movies, buying new furniture for their house, etc. When questioned how they could afford to do all these things when they had posted a few months prior to the dire circumstances they were in, the blogger conveniently deleted all comments that they "perceived" as being negative. But people who previously knew the blogger, knew that they were not being truthful in their postings. Unfortunately, the people who were new to the blog had no clue about the blogger being untruthful. Of course, maybe they were being truthful and had just lied or been dishonest to those who heard them cry about losing their house, etc.
Hard to say.

I see no harm in saying something gently. I say that not because I agree with the blogger, but rather, because it makes it harder to see what you said as an attack. I really do understand your frustration at her attitude.