DH and I used to fight about money a lot.

I was a stay at home mom and he barely made enough money to support us. There were some weeks when we depended on friends just to get milk. The bill collectors were always calling and I was a stressed out mess. Then we moved and God blessed me with a great paying job. The job lasted a few years then we took custody of my niece. I am now a stay at home mom again but we fight a lot less. I have learned to budget and I have a new outlook on money. It's like a river to me... sometimes it gets low but there will always be more next week. We still have a argument every now and then about money but nothing like it used to be.

What do you fight about with your spouse?

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DH and I do not really fight much and if we do it is really about one thing. We fight about Se*. That is really it! DH is a more active person as I am not. We have been fighting/disagreeing over this for years now. LOL

DH thinks that you should have se* more than 1 or 2 times a week. But he just does not understand that life sometimes happens....people get tired, don't feel good or that monthly friend happens.

But really all and all we don't fight.
Tracy

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We don't fight...DH is not a fighter, he will just give me a blank stare if I get upset over anything. Funny thing we get it out of our system in seperate rooms through e-mail LOL Then later we talk rationally about whatever....usually about his friends at work

We hardly every fight but when things get hectic and we don't get the chance to spend intimate time together it seems every little thing gets on our nerves and makes us argue (until we take care of things).
He works nights and I work days so sometimes we are ships passing in the night.
Other than that we talk things out. We have been together on and off since 92 and straight through the last 4 yrs so by now we would be in big trouble if we had not figured out how to resolve our issues.

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We fight about stupid stuff. One time we fought because he wanted me to go to the store and get some pop and I was cleaning, I never went, he got upset and so I finally went and got it and his family was here and I blew up in front of them and called him an a$$ and told him what he could do with his pop.

I love the guy dearly but sometimes he just doesn't think before he speaks and he says things and then sometimes realizes what he has said.

We fight over the kids and how things should be handled in certain situations. Usually when we fight we say our peace and then there is a period of silence and then once of us usually caves in (which is surprising considering how stubborn we both are) and speaks to the other for a conversation that in code means "I am sorry" We usually get over it pretty quick.

dh and I fight mostly about his not getting more involved with the kids..such as discipling or getting them to do homework, etc. Also, we fight when his parents pull some bone headed, selfish, mean spirited stunts they like to pull. I would get upset about it, and dh would try and act like it didn't happen. I also would get upset if I was doing a lot of housework and dh was just sitting watching tv.

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Luckily we dont fight often at all. I am trying to recall the last thing that we actually fought about and I dont have any idea.

I would say that we have a short blow up where he says something, I say something back then we dont talk for like 15 minutes and then one of us is finding the other and saying that we dont want to fight. That is about the extent of it.


Darlene

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How to discipline the kids and money money money. I came from a family that used credit cards so I'm not afraid of them, but dh hates it when I used them and we fight a lot about that.

My DH and I rarely fight, when we do it is about STUPID stuff and often laugh about it a few days later.

Now when we first got married..we fought mostly about his mom and about money.

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Mostly about money, but nothing major.

We really don't fight...If we do, it usually has something to do with the kids...My father was pretty strict...I don't think that DH is strict enough with the kids...He is too easy going and sometimes they think they can get away with things that I would never even dream of when I was growing up. It gets me really mad...DH thinks I spoil the kids too much...I really don't think that I do... ~Lisa

Actually we had one major fight when my oldest who is 16 was two years old...we yelled and screamed at each other and my son got scared and cried. Real sobering moment that brought back visions of my childhood. From that point on I told DH that I will not fight and argue at all ever again and I haven't. I do not engage him he does not engage me, we simply agree or agree to disagree.

That is not to say that we don't get irritated with each other, but we just get over it. It is odd that when my kids hear their friends parents yelling at each other, it is "weird" to them.

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Now that we are older we never fight. When we were younger in our marriage (the first couple of years) we had 'petty arguments'...usually over trival things that really didn't matter.

99% of the time we are on the same page (so to speak) about money, home life and DD so there is no need to fight or argue.

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As crazy as my husband makes me most days- we hardly ever fight. We are both very sarcastic, funny people, so if we DO start to fight, it ends in laughing a minute later.

I can't complain- but I still do. He is an awesome, involved dad, a wonderful, loving husband who works hard for his family- but he has no common sense- so I let him slide on a lot of petty things. He lets me be the boss about most things, so we hardly fight.

I love him. My friend and her Dh fight DAILY- name calling and all... I would leave.

What DH does to get on my nerves - he can be something of a slob...that is annoying.

This is pretty much it!! And I have learned not to nag. When he doesn't pick up after himself, I try to put most of his random items in a "special pile" for him. If he can't find something of his, I ask him if he'd checked his special pile. He can't stand his pile of junk, and I think he resents that I maintain this for him (he like the old way, where I put away his things, but I didn't like how angry it made me!), but we get along so well now. There really is nothing else we fight over. We are great with communication on everything else, and he is very good-natured, himself, so I never hear about what I do to bug him - LOL!

The only time we ever really fight is if he wants to have more than 3 beers.NO, NO, NO !!!

We rarely fight anymore we have disagreements about money alot though. We have completely different goals. But it calmed down when I went back to work 3 yrs ago though with me going back to work, I got some of my power back but we still have different goals. I want to save money to move & he wants a new motorcycle

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We are coming up on our 25th years of marriage and fighting is something we do not do. We have had two fights that I can recall one was over the checkbook and the other was about how loud the people down stairs were. I wanted to move and we couldn't afford to. As a child my parents would wake my sister and myself up fighting in the middle of the night. I will not put my children thru that. Ever..

I think were married to the same man

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Early in our marriage we fought about sports. DH watched football and basketball on TV or listened to the radio; he played lots of basketball and a little tennis, jogged, fished and hunted. Also, there was the occasional church softball team. Meantime, I worked full-time, did all of the housework, did all of the cooking and shopping. Thank God we worked through everything. We have now been married almost 35 years, and our marriage is more loving and romantic than I dreamed was possible. DH told me recently that he never knew it was possible to be so happy.

DH and I usually don't fight too much. However, today he was a real tyrant to the kids. He was cleaning the carpets (which I do appreciate), but was just yelling at the kids all a.m. I came in to ask him a question and he snapped at me-I am the one who does ALL of the housework all week long, and all of a sudded he does one chore and is king of the castle-oh no....
So, I called him a name-change the vowel in duck...
and think of those unsightly, uninvited plants in your garden...
put those two words together and there you have it. And then he came down and said he couldn't believe I would call him that when he was cleaning the carpets.


So I bowed down to him, gave him his hero medal, and kissed his feet-hahaha-as if!

We fight about my MS. DH hates that I have it and thinks I should be able to do everything I used to be able to do. Trust me I try as hard as I can to keep up with what I used to do it gets so hard. Most people don't even know I have it. I still do all my out of the house things but when I get home I am so tired and everything else that goes along with MS. The good thing about that is that he won't let me quit. He does make me stay strong and I guess I do appreciate that. But geese louise I'm sleepy.
Other than that we are pretty peaceful I usually fight with him through emails so the kids never know that we are fighting. Plus nobody raises their voice. Works great for us.

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