If you have children (under 18) and included them in your wedding party , did you invite your ex to the wedding? I thought about it and my kids would be in my wedding party and I would let my ex come to the ceremony to see the kids but the reception would be off limits. I should mention that during our wedding, which was extremly small only 24 people and not like a wedding at all, he got drunk and got sick all over the floor and ruined what was suppose to be a good day. So did you invite your ex to the wedding and would you reccomend it?

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~~~~**Maryann**~~~~

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Youe ex got drunk and sick at YOUR wedding TO HIM???

Oh heck no. I would have annuled it the next morning.

I would send him pics of his kids in your next wedding. No reason to have him there.

Yes he did and his family thought it was funny. Actually the whole thing was bad Thats why the next time I plan on doing it right. I said the first time was just practice LOL

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~~~~**Maryann**~~~~

I just got a firm grip on reality....
Now I can strangle it

I would not invite him, I don't see the point. If you want him to see the kids dressed up then send him pictures. He sounds like a real winner.

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All the cool babies are wearing cloth!

Pictures are enough!

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Square dancing is friendship set to music!

I am going through this delima now. My FHs ex thinks that since they have kids together she is still included in everything in this family.. INCLUDING christmas eve dinner and all the other family functions. We have talked about getting married and I told him under NO circumstances would she be there. I draw the line there. The kids are 18 and 15 year old twins so its not like she needs to babysit them or anything....
I just dont see the point. I think when there is an ex, they are an ex for a reason and there should be a line drawn for certain things, holidays and weddings being one of them...

It would depend on how you parted and the relationship you have now. I have firends who are divorced and I was not surprised when she had her ex and his new wife at her ceromony...they had it rough when they were married, but were great friends in the end.... they were just better off not together, but reamained close in paretnting their children.....Don't remember if she went to his wedding, but .....she wanted him there as her friend.....

I would not invite him becuase the kids are in the wedding, but becuase you want to share your day with him as a friend. Seeing the kids in the wedding are not a good enough reason to have him there...send him a picture or two.

The day was a day for me, my husband and our children. I think I sent my ex a picture of our son in his tux but that's it. I didn't even tell him where it was--just so there was no chance they'd show up.

My ex did get remarried I did not go, did not want to go nor was I invited. Our son did take part with my blessing and encouragement.

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My dd was in my ex's wedding when she was younger I did not care to go glad I didnt go & when I got married later on I didnt invite my ex I wouldnt trust my ex or anyone who had any reason to hate me to come to my wedding

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Wow. There is absolutely no reason to even consider having an ex there. You might as well still be married to the ex if it's so important to have an ex there. Is it a way of throwing it in the ex's face that happier times are here? No way, not even a consideration.

I was wondering how would it make your new spouse I know my now dh doesnt like it when I say anything nice about my ex & I really dont care to hear good things about his ex either KWIM

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invite him? LOLOLOLOL ahh thanks for the laugh, ummmmm NO
he wasnt invited

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Obsessive-Compulsive Coupon Disorder!!!

Has he epxressed an interest in coming??? Since it's your EX, I'm not sure what the custody arrangements are, but, I know a friend of mine had custody of the children, and the wedding was in a different state, therefore, she took the children there (when her EX got remarried), but did not want to go to the wedding, even tho they parted on good terms and get along very well, always keeping the kids' best interests in mind.

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