I dont want to start a parenting debate but I'm curious as to what age (lol or not under my roof works too!) you consider appropriate for the following things:

wear a string bikini?

stay at home alone for a night?

go on an unsupervised one on one date?

get a tattoo?

get a body piercing?

go to a co-ed slumber party?

take BC pills?

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string bikini? In backyard, 15. Such a short window of time any of us can wear these!

alone for the night? Depends who is nearby to watch house; whether this is a boyfriend sniffing around.

unsupervised date? 16, could be older if boy she is interested in seems like trouble.

tatoo? Not under my roof.

Body piercing: See tatoo.

co-ed slumber party: Depends on supervision and whether it is a group of friends, or there are "boyfriend/girlfriend" vibes.

BC pills? Very difficult to say. Would hate it, but would hate a pregnant teen more.

I'm pretty conservative, so I'm sure many will disagree!

I very much like momshops' answers. I have two boys and will have a whole different set of rules but it does seem easier in many ways (having boys)?

Probably not at all on string bikini = don't know why anyone would feel the need for it unless you just wanted the attention
unsupervised date = 16 yo but, I think that also would depend on some factors, like how mature your kid is
no on tattoos because there pretty permanant, body piercing would depend on where it would be located, and no coed-slumber parties
BC pills = I'm sure all of us hope and pray that our children stay pure until marriage but with a 1 out of 4 chance that your kids going to be the virgin......I think we would be glad they aren't trying to ruin a childs life by getting pregnant . When I say child I am talking about a GRANDchild not DD.

We are pretty conservative here, but we try to deal in reality on occasion!!

wear a string bikini? 15 or 16, but this does not include strings such as thongs!

stay at home alone for a night? 14

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 15

get a tattoo? 18

get a body piercing? 14 if it's a belly button, no facial or private piercings until 17

go to a co-ed slumber party? depends on if it's friends or the boyfriend - girlfriend kinda thing.

take BC pills? 15 or 'if' I had suspicions that it may be necessary. A pregnant teen daughter is not something that I would want either.


I know my answers seem kinda open minded to some, but that's the way I am. I do 'remember' the teen years myself and I know what I did and tried to do. I also have several tattoo's, but don't recommend them unless you're old enough to 'understand' that you will live the rest of your life with them. As for piercings, I have many of them myself, but I personally don't like facial ones and wouldn't allow it, but I have no quarms with the navel. Guess, I have in my mind what I would like to see happening when my daughter is a teen, but honestly will have to wait and see what the 'real' situation will be like.

As for my boys, my answers would be totally different. I realize that sounds sexist and I guess it is.

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wear a string bikini? when she's old enough to handle this ( probably around 17 )

stay at home alone for a night?( not till she's 18 or older for more than* she may have a boy over, but more for safety reasons )

go on an unsupervised one on one date? ( 17 + )

get a tattoo? ( when she's a legal adult age 18 in Alabama )

get a body piercing? ( when she's a legal adult )

go to a co-ed slumber party?( Hmm never LOL. 17)

take BC pills? when she starts to have her cycles ( if she follows me age 15 )

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Ummm.. never?

On the BC, my sister is almost 18 and has been on it for a few years now but not because there's any risk of pregnancy (I don't think she's had a boyfriend yet)... helps her cycle or something.

Alot depends on maturity and whatnot.

wear a string bikini? 17

stay at home alone for a night? 18

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 17

get a tattoo? not while living in my house

get a body piercing? See above

go to a co-ed slumber party? prob 18, depends on if parents are home, etc.

take BC pills? A long time ago I would have said never, but things change. Probably 16

Holly

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I dont want to start a parenting debate but I'm curious as to what age (lol or not under my roof works too!) you consider appropriate for the following things:

wear a string bikini? WELL all 3 wear bikinis but string bikini I am not sure what you mean by that probably never it sounds pretty bad

stay at home alone for a night? alone probably 16

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? not in my lifetime!!!

get a body piercing? NEVER & NEVER

go to a co-ed slumber party? NEVER!!!

take BC pills? when she asks for them or I am suspicious of things going on I dont want to pretend I am on another planet & I dont want my girls to have a baby before they graduate HS like I did hopefully none of these things happen until they are at least at least 15
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wear a string bikini? when hell freezes over

stay at home alone for a night?when she moves out on her own

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16 but I will be interviewing first

get a tattoo? when hell freezes over

get a body piercing? ears now, every place else never

go to a co-ed slumber party? no freakin way ever

take BC pills? hmmm let me see well when she is married is a good time for me.

My Dd is grown, but I'll give you the actual answer as opposed to the hypothetical.


wear a string bikini? Not on my watch.

stay at home alone for a night? Assuming DH and I are only gone on a date. 14

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 15

get a tattoo? Not on my watch. She did get one on her own when she was 20.

get a body piercing? Ears were pierced at 8. No other piercings on my watch. None other that I know of.

go to a co-ed slumber party? 14/15 They were almost always at my house. The same group of kids had been friends since grade school. There were no couples. Funny thing is, boy/girlfriends were never invited to these. Only the kids who had been friends forever.

take BC pills? The very minute I found out she was sexually active. I believe it was 17.

Sorry. Brainfart. DD never had co -ed sleep overs. It was Ds. Although Dd could have had them under the same circumstances, it never came up.

wear a string bikini? 15 or 16

stay at home alone for a night? 16
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go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? In CA you have to be 18 even with parental consent.

get a body piercing? Maybe 16 depending where.

go to a co-ed slumber party? 18

take BC pills? When needed, I hope she is very old. LOL

wear a string bikini? dd(almost16) has a bikini but it covers her stuff, if you know what I mean

stay at home alone for a night? Not until she's at least 17 but then her younger siblings would be here too so they would tattle if she did anything she's not supposed to

go on an unsupervised one on one date? Will depend on her attitude. With the one she has now? Probably 18!

get a tattoo?When she's old enough to sign for one, 18

get a body piercing?She just got her belly button done but that's where I draw the line. She wants her nose pierced but I told her after she moves out and is on her own.

go to a co-ed slumber party?NEVER!

take BC pills? We're looking into them now. Unfortunately she got the nasty cramping all the women in my family have. The only thing that helps calm them is the BC pill. Otherwise, I would say 17-18.

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One thing I do not understand (and perhaps someone can explain it to me!) is why there comes an age at which it is acceptable to wear a string bikini. Not in every family, but in many, it seems an age you "reach", instead of an age you "quit."

They are so revealing and can't be worn for comfort, given that there is ... well, they just can't. It seems like the sole purpose is to be a turn on, sexually. Otherwise, I really don't see why anyone would wear something that shows so much skin... right?

I would think that once my daughter got to an age that she was being a turn-on would be the age I'd want her showing less skin, rather than more. That the age where she is interested in sex and starting to look sexy wouldn't be the age I'd want her looking like a sex object... kwim?

NEVER! (makes my butt hurt just to think about it!)

A very mature 17 under the right circumstances

Ditto

18

18

25 or 30!!!

As needed, I guess.

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wear a string bikini? Our oldest daughter was around 15

stay at home alone for a night? I think it depends on the circumstances and the maturity level

go on an unsupervised one on one date? Our daughter was about 15, and it was a double date

get a tattoo? She got one when she turned 18 (its a small burst of pink stars on her foot)

get a body piercing? She got her belly button done when she was 16 (as did most of her friends)

go to a co-ed slumber party? She went to a supervised one at age 16.

take BC pills? She was about 16. Came to me and asked me to help her make a doctors appointment

I honesty think most of these questions depends on the teenager. My oldest daughter was very mature for her age. Got her first job the day she turned 16, purchase her own car at age 16, was co-captain of the cheerleading squad and made the honor roll while in school. She had a few serious boyfriends while in school, and has since married. I also have an 11 year old, so I will be going down the teenager road once again. I can't honesty say these rules will be the same ones applied to her. They are totally different, both in personality and maturity.

wear a string bikini? On her honeymoon

stay at home alone for a night? Like when we were at dinner? 14 Overnight: When she has her own place

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 17

get a tattoo? She can get one immediately following my funeral

get a body piercing? Ears she has- everywhere else- see funeral

go to a co-ed slumber party? College

take BC pills? When she starts having sex- which again, she is welcome to do on her honeymoon- or immediately following my funeral.

I never had a daughter,only a son,but if I did it would be...

wear a string bikini? Never!

stay at home alone for a night? if trustworthy, any age after 12

go on an unsupervised one on one date? any age if proven responsible

get a tattoo? 18

get a body piercing? 18

go to a co-ed slumber party? any age if proven responsible

take BC pills? ASAP if she ever actually admits to going that far,but what teen girl is going to admit that? I would not want to make her take them not knowing if she needed them,to give them to her without knowing would strip her of all morals and values.

Love your answers, and they sound a lot like what I would write. My DD is only 3, so I have many years before these things will be happening. I really like to hope that DD would have the courage and smarts to come to me about birth control when the time comes. I really get a kick out of some of the answers, you guys are too funny.

I just want to clarify the string bikini, are we talking a THONG? Or a string binini?

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I dont want to start a parenting debate but I'm curious as to what age (lol or not under my roof works too!) you consider appropriate for the following things:

wear a string bikini? When she's on her honeymoon...

stay at home alone for a night? 17 maybe, depends on maturity... She's only just turning 4... We have a ways to go.

go on an unsupervised one on one date? again, 17, that's the age I did

get a tattoo? Never

get a body piercing? Never, well, other than one set of earrings. that she can have when she is 6, at the earliest...

go to a co-ed slumber party? Again, when she's married... And even then, only to one that has only her husband at it.

take BC pills? When she's married, if she's not ready for me to be a grandma


I have a question, for those of you who answered the one about the boys as well, were your answers the same, or if they were different, why do you have different rules to apply to your son's and daughters.
Just asking, because my hubby's cousin just had a boy and can't wait for him to go out partying when he's 16, but if he ever had a girl, whe would be locked in her room... I think there should be the same set of rules for boys and girls.
Again, like I said in another thread, our religion recommends for young children to start dating at 16, meaning group dating. And abstinence until marriage. I am expecting that of all of my children.

wear a string bikini? 16-18 in the backyard or under parental supervision

stay at home alone for a night? Probably Never

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? 18

get a body piercing? NEVER... Over my dead body

go to a co-ed slumber party? 17 at our house or a good friends house if I'm acquainted with the area and parents

take BC pills? I'd rather she take the depro provera shot or something that doesn't require daily maintenance. By the looks of her room.. keeping up with stuff isn't her priority. BUt still.. when she goes off to college unless I'm positive that she needs it sooner.. and then we'd have to have a LONG talk about why she felt like she needed to do that.

See above for answers.

Trish

thats a hard one.. i'd say 17 or so

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wear a string binkini? She has a binkini but if she wears it, its with shorts and just the top. BUT its modest, nothing skimpy....

stay at home alone for the night? My DD jumps at any sound so she'll probably never stay by herself, but 14 is probably okay age. My Son has never stayed by himself but he would if it came to it.

go on unsupervised one on one date? My son's been dating the same girl for the last 6 months, he's 17 she's 18. My DD went out on her first date at 16. 16 is an okay age.

get a tattoo? Virginia age is 18 no expections. This has always discourage them but there's no age that my children will come home with one.

get a body piercing? Okay I'm gonna get stomped on for this, but my DD who is 17 (Sunday) got a lip ring three weeks ago. Before you flamed me.....My DD is a straight A student, she's not out drinking and drugging, her friends ALL have grown up on the Island and if not, I make sure I become friends with the parents so that we can stay connect. I truly feel you have to meet your children half way so they won't rebell too much. When I was 17, I was doing a lot worse than she and her generation is very different from mine. Most of the kids you see with the piercings are normal kids just trying to show their "wild side". My son wouldn't have a piercing anywhere, he got his ear pierce when he was 16 and cried like a baby...took it out about a week after he did it.

go on a co-ed slumber party? 16. Both of my children have stayed several times at their friends house with at least 10 -15 other boys/girls. The parents make it a very nice slumber party, the parents come over for cards and drinks while the kids hang out in the game room and when its time for them to go to bed, the girls have one room with the mother sleeping in there, the father is in the other room with the boys.

take BC pills? 16. Our doctor has told us to get her on them to help her with her period but Ashley said no, she's holding out for marriage and won't need pills, of course if there is ANY evidence of otherwise, she's on them rather she wants to be or not. I want to be a grandmother one day but not this early. I'm sure my son is active, I found a condom in his wallet the other day when I went in there to put his weekly gas money.....So we have to sit down and "talk" but not tonight....they have rented a limo and 10 of their friends are going with them to Chilis for their 17 birthday

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wear a string bikini? whenever she wants too. HOnestly, my 5 year old has a string like bikini and it's so cute (and not in a britney way!). She wears a swim top over it usually. Bikini's are no biggie to me

stay at home alone for a night? probably age 13. That's how old I was

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16. I couldn't go on unsupervised dates til I was 16 so I think I am being nice on this one

get a tattoo? 18 unless it's something meaningful that we've discussed and agreed upon

get a body piercing? already has her ears pierced. I would say 18 and hope she doesn't want any

go to a co-ed slumber party? depends. I had one at 16 but it was a continuation of my birthday party and people just fell asleep LOL I guess I would say the same and say it will be supervised. No hiding in the basement or making out all night

take BC pills? when she starts her period. Bad and painful periods run in my family. I was on the pill at 13. If she doesn't have bad periods, I would say that she would be on them when she told me she wants to have sex. I hope to have an open and honest house and she'll know that I want her to be safe and not risk pregnancy when she has sex

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wear a string bikini? 14 (Hopefully they wont want one!)

stay at home alone for a night? 15 (but with people watching the house, I just hope that my kids grow up to be the same way I was and would never disrespect their parents by doing something stupid like "having parties in my house")

go on an unsupervised one on one date?15 (depending on maturity level and our girl "talks")

get a tattoo? NEVER (I hate tattoos on girls, nothing personal... to anyone that has any!)

get a body piercing? When they are legal to do it on their own, (I got my tongue pierced when I was 21 and took sh*t for it from my parents, needless to say it was gone 3 months later and yes my tongue has heeled, but I've always wanted my eyebrow pierced and my husband won't let me do it )

go to a co-ed slumber party? NEVER (there's no reason for that)

take BC pills? UMMM...depends on the situation some girls need them to help with their painful periods, so this would make a huge difference. Otherwise NEVER! But what does my say have to do with that when there is Planned Parenthoods that will give them to your kids without your knowledge.

wear a string bikini? No way one dd has to buy shirts one size larger because of her chest.

stay at home alone for a night? never over night, couple hours for dh & I to go out to dinner or a movie dds 15 & 13 ds 9

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16 must be home by 11:00 pm, also would depend on who her date was besides dh know just about every police officer in town

get a tattoo? not under my roof

get a body piercing? see above

go to a co-ed slumber party? oldest at age 10 teacher supervised at school boys in one room and girls in another room. Doors were all locked and lights around midnight.

take BC pills? No only if for medical reasons.

wear a string bikini? When she can afford to buy her own because mama isn't buying one.

stay at home alone for a night? 18 for overnight

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? after 18 and she is buying

get a body piercing? same as above

go to a co-ed slumber party? never

take BC pills? When I feel she needs them. I have 5, count em 5 teenage daughters. Only one has gotten pregnant and it was only after she moved out and on her own (and stupidly stopped getting her depro shots!) The others all know I am more then willing to take them to the doc when they are ready for birthcontrol. We tal about these things.

wear a string bikini? never, nor would she want to. I had to convince her to take off her t-shirt. She finally did last year I think and she always wears a one piece.

stay at home alone for a night? i don't know that she ever did, but we live in an area where it really isn't an issue. She and her brother have I'm sure.

go on an unsupervised one on one date? She was 17, we really didn't have an age set. If it had seemed that things were heating up, we would have put the brakes on. She didn't have her first date with her husband until they were engaged!! LOL

get a tattoo? She never would.

get a body piercing? She has her ears pierced and for her 18th bday, she, her best friend and I got cartelege (sp?) piercings. Good greif that hurt!!!!

go to a co-ed slumber party? Never happened.

take BC pills? She was engaged. It wouldn't of happened other wise.


My DD left for Bible college at 17, fell in love at 19 and was married in Aug.
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I agree 100%.

wear a string bikini?

Never, they are merely to attract attention and that is not the kind of attention I'd ever want my daughter's attracting.

stay at home alone for a night?

Not sure...probably not until youngest is 12.

go on an unsupervised one on one date?

They won't, group dates only.

get a tattoo? Nope

get a body piercing? Ears only

go to a co-ed slumber party? Not AFTER the age of 12...and only now if I know the parents well.

take BC pills? Only for medical reasons until married.

wear a string bikini? 17 in public

stay at home alone for a night? 16

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? Over my dead body or when she moves out

get a body piercing? Over my dead body or when she moves out

go to a co-ed slumber party? 16

take BC pills? When she asks for them

but knowing my daughter...the string bikini will never happen neither will the tatto or baody peircing....
She has no interest in boys as "boyfriends" yet so all those are likely guesses.........
The birth control, I'd rather her be on birth contol then be a Mom before she's ready......

Cole girl

I had both my tongue and eye brow pierced a few years ago.....honestly I have a tiny little scar from the eyebrow piercing so I get people looking at me funny when I go to get my eyebrows waxed!!! LOL

I LOVED that answer!

I have been finding everyone's answers to the coed sleepover question so interesting.

But the one I DON'T understand (that seems to keep popping up) is this one:

coed sleepover - ".,..as long as it's 'well-supervised'"

Um...what does this mean, really? Did an adult stay awake and watch the kids all night???? I mean - are you considering the supervision acceptable if the supervisor is sleeping?

I'm surprised that so many feel that coed sleepovers during adolescence is an acceptable activity. Obviously kids are going to do what kids do -- but for me, I don't want to make it any easier!
(This one would never be acceptable to me unless the supervisor is truly expected to stay awake and monitor the sleeping bags - on a lifeguard-type of chair in the middle of the room. Since I don't exactly trust that anyone would do a good enough job, I think my kids will be foregoing the coed sleepoevers while I'm in charge...)

Ditto! Couldn't have put it better myself!

wear a string bikini? Humm, bikini probably whenever, string bikini, when she leaves my house, lol.

stay at home alone for a night? Probably 16, it depends on her and how she is at that age.

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? Probably 18

get a body piercing? belly ring, probably around 16

go to a co-ed slumber party? Never, or when she's married, lol.

take BC pills? When she's married.

Keep in mind, my daughter is only 2 years old, lol, so just imagine your daughter at 2, lol, and you'd probably say "no" about everything, lol.

DITTO DITTO DITTO DITTO DITTO

NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER

NONE of the above.

NO.

NEVER

And don't you even THINK it.

Sincerely,

Dad of 3 girls.

(Back to hiding under my rock)

wear a string bikini? NEVER - I did when they first came out back in the 70's, married, seven children already (I was a tiny woman with "substantial" boobs & a hard concave belly less than 4 months after youngest was born - hate me? LOL) and I would not want my DDs (all who are VERY busty) subjected to the lecherous harassment that accompanies such attire.

stay at home alone for a night? Three of my four DDs (the oldest was profoundly disabled) were responsible enough to babysit overnights (mostly long weekend getaways) for other families by the time they were twelve/thirteen.

go on an unsupervised one on one date? 16

get a tattoo? On HER deathbed!!!!!!!!!

get a body piercing? Except for single ear piercings, same as above. Two of my four daughters have single pierced ears.

go to a co-ed slumber party? NEVER

take BC pills? We pushed abstinence but they knew from before puberty that option plus condoms were available if they chose to be sexually active -- they didn't -- my DDs abstained until they were adults.