I was getting everything ready for the Easter Bunny... I thought my door was locked and kids were all asleep. One woke up and saw me filling the baskets.... So he got everyone else up to tell them I was a liar. My 8 year old is so sad. He told me he was very upset with me... Help what do I do? Should I tell them that the Easter Bunny just hides the eggs and I do the baskets or should I come clean?

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Probably depends on their age, but I think an 8 year could hear the truth, lol.

If not, tell them the Easter bunny stopped by while they were in bed and needed help, so you offered.

What ages are the kids?

Sorry this happened.

My 8 year old has asperger syndrome so think of a 4 or 5 year old mind

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

I have an 11 year old who already knew my other two are 8 and 6. They totally saw everything. I told them we would talk about it in the morning. But of course nobody is going back to sleep.

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

My 12 year old son tells me that he never really believed in the Easter Bunny. He pretended so that he'd get stuff. He told me that just now!

Kids will survive the truth. Maybe you can go in and calm them all down and tell them the truth. I'd rather have the children see me as honest then making up stories to cover my tail. You know what I mean?

I'm tired so I'll defer to someone else. Hope it all works out!

It's over I told the truth. BooHoo I think if I kept telling more lies they will never believe me again. I loved being the Easter Bunny. Loved it Loved it. I guess all good things come to an end.

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

I think its hard b/c don't we all want our kids to have that innocence?(ya'll feel free to check me on my spelling, its bad) I feel for you girl!

Very hard decision but probably a good one under the circumstances. All will be fine. I still do the Easter Bunny even though the kids know it's me. In fact, it is kind of more fun now that they do know.

Wanna keep being the Easter Bunny? Santa? Tooth Fairy? It is super easy. Now your kids are part of the Super Secret Keeping Special Forces (SSKSF for short). What is that?? That is the group that has to ooh and aah even more to make sure that their group is kept a secret from all the "little people". That is the group I belonged too until I was about 21 when my last Easter basket consisted of an iron, mist bottle and spray starch because I had moved out and my mom was tired of seeing me in wrinkled clothes I guess...LOL

And trust me, as I am sure you already know, there are many out there who already belong to the SSKSF who are already putting on the act for the little ones, and themselves because they are not ready to let go.

BeachRatz,

GO TO BED!!!!!

We just finished our 5 dozen eggs. The girls are still talking! They are camping out in the living room!

Since we're on the subject, I hope OP doesnt mind if I ask a question.

MY son is 6 and is terrified of Santa, EB, Tooth Fairy, etc. He was crying when I put him to bed tonight. He said Mommy I am so scared every holiday. I dont like people coming in our house. Recently, he lost his first 2 teeth and the poor kid was a mess. We had to come up with a plan to keep "her" from coming in and even then, he was still scared. Tonight, as bedtime approached, I could see the look of concern on his face as his younger sister was getting excited about EB (she is TOTALLY opposite him) I had to write a note to EB and ask him to leave the baskets out on the porch. Is he a good candidate for "the truth"? I would have liked a couple more years out of him, but, Its supposed to be fun, not scary, right?

Ideas, suggestions?

TIA

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All I can say, OP, is sad you have to give up the pretense!! I too loved being Santa, EB, TF---all of them......
Mine are now 14 and 16 and still get visits from them all........even though they are now members of Super Secret Keeping Special Forces (SSKSF for short) ---just because it is still fun for me and for them.

BUT, be prepared, once they know about the EB, they will probably sit down and start figuring it out about the rest of the crew, and Santa and the TF may soon be busted too!!!!

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When my boys were younger and found out about Santa they were so upset and angry that I told them there was a Santa. It is so hard!! My daughter is 9 years old and believe, even thou I was almost caught last night since she could'nt sleep of excitment!! My new idea is to have the baskets ready ahead of time and just take them out finished to get sleep

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Guess what, even though they don't believe in the EB, nothing has to stop you from putting together nice baskets for them. My kids are 16 and trust me, if they ever get up this morning, they will still be looking for their "Easter Bunny" basket.

I even sent one to my DD in college and she's 19! They still love getting them, so even though they don't believe in the EB, you can still make it special for them!

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My son slept with his door shut (he is 10) and wrote a note asking that the EB put his basket in the front room. He also requested that I put a lamp in his room.

He does not like the thought of a strange person/thing entering his bedroom at night either.

I still make Easter Baskets for my grandkids and my DD and her DHtoo.
The most fun for me is finding and using an unconvential "basket".
This year DD and DGD (age 20) got decorative baskets.
Oldest DGS got a black 'box', and youngest got a basket that looks like a train.
One year when my DGD was complaining that she couldn't reach the top shelf in her closet, I bought a small plastic step stool, turned it over and held the goodies in with plastic wrap. She loved it!!!

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Sorry that the 'surprise' of the bunny is no longer there. BUT on a brighter note, your children will still enjoy getting their baskets filled, cause I know from experience, I still get a basket from the Easter Bunny from my mom and I am almost 35 years old and am the Easter Bunny to my own children!

Remember, it's all what you make it! ~ But I still understand your dissappointment.

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My 8 yr old son told me this morning that he saw the little water guns in the back of my trunk (I put lots of other stuff in their basket....hate all that candy). Anyway, I quickly told him that I did add the water guns to the basket to help the easter bunny out. The other stuff, I didn't put in there. He bought it.

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Isn't it funny what we do to keep the fun for our babies? The grandkids in our family range from 21 (my son) to 5 (my nephew) and you better believe that if any of the 3 older (14, 18 and 21) spill a secret or ruin anything they get nothing.

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I was surprised yesterday when we were at the market and the cashier said "are you excited for the easter bunny to come?". My son (who is 7) said "the easter bunny is a folktle!". I LOOKED at him....I didn't tell him this, he has never said this before. I learned they talked about it in school. No biggie for me because I have never claimed that the easter bunny was real and if confronted, I would tell the truth. I do understand your disappointment. I remember finding out there was no santa because I saw stuff in my parents closet that later appeared under the tree. I was devastated because I thought of all the times my parents said "no lying" and "we hate liars" and they had the biggest lie going on It took me a long time to forgive them. We talk about the "spirit" of the people: santa, easter bunny, tooth fairy. I don't know if that will be helpful when the surprise is over or not though???

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I never looked at it as a lie - when I was a kid or now that I have kids. I just look at it as a fun part of being a kid. I remember when I finally asked my parents for the truth and they told me. I wasn't upset they had lied to me, I just figured it was a part of growing up. My oldest daughter asked about 3 years ago (she's 13 now) and she wasn't upset about us lying either. She has enjoyed being a part of the secret from my younger daughter. Though, she's 10 and I know our time is coming to an end soon - I figure this was our last year with it all as a secret - I'm assuming next year she'll know. She may know now and just hasn't let on yet.

Lisa

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I don't know why I took it so hard or took it as a lie...just did and hope my kids don't

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I think your DS is ready for the truth. I would pull him aside, tell him the truth, then explain his responsibilitys (sp??) as the newest member of the SSKSF (explained in another post in this thread). I think that will make him feel a lot better.

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My brother felt the same way. When he was kid he saw the presents behind the bed and was devastated too. He's in his 50's and still can't seem to get over it! He basically called my parents liars. I was born much later and my mom would tell me the truth about Santa etc. I think she realized how hurt he was and maybe didn't want me going through that too..

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For me, when the kids ask, I just turn it right back around to them... "well, what do YOU believe is true?" They have watched all the shows such as Miracle on 34th street, etc.. So they have a clue - it's all in when they choose not to believe, not me...I'll believe until I'm old and gray - oh, wait, that's now! LOL.

I also tell my 12 year old "If you don't believe, you don't receive"... that keeps the spirit alive and well for now in our house... I think my 7 year old has much more of a clue... they're very easy going about the whole thing though...

Donna mom to two (?) believers...

Call me wierd, but i never told my children that the easter bunny, santa, tooth fairy etc were real, I always told them that it was just for fun but not to tell the other kids because some of them believed they were real!
and why would I chose to do this you may ask! well when I found out there was no santa claus it was the first time in my life that I ever knew that my parents had lied to me, and it rocked my little world to the extent that i had a trust issue with them for years after that !

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Squeak, I did as you did. I never told them to believe, never told them not to believe, but they did anyway when they were small and gradually they have figured out that it wasn't real on their own as their minds have matured.
My parents did the same with me when I was a kid and I am thankful to them.

It is still hard to see the loss of innocence as children get older. It just is.




I have often felt *different/weird* myself. I often feel like I go against the grain on things. Maybe it has a lot to do with my upbringing. It is interesting the different perspectives that people have.

That's what I always say to my kids too. When they ask, I just say "well what do YOU think? And usually that is the end of it.

But this past Easter, my DH really ruined it but not hiding the eggs and leaving them in a bag and the kids found them when they came downstairs. I said, "well maybe the Easter Bunny left them for us to hide since it's so cold outside." My six year old said "no, Mom. You put the eggs in the bag."

And then he proceeded to tell me that his older brother (8) told him the Easter Bunny was not real because last year when they were searching for the eggs, his Dad knew where they all were hidden.

I love the idea of the Super Secrect whatver that was that someone posted above. Your mom (or dad) was very clever!

I'm 32, and I still get a basket from the Easter Bunny - So does my husband. I just wish I knew why I have to tell my Mother what our "requests" are candy wise.....

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funny you are all talking about this because last friday (good friday) all the kids were here at my house anyway i had hidden all the candy and toys in a closet that was blocked off by a HUGE toy box in a spare room of my house. (I have told the kids not to play in there many times... anyway they were all playing hide and seek and my son decided he was gonna hide in that closet. well as he opened that door everything fell onto the floor and when i heard the crash i came in to see it all over the floor and i was in shock and paniced. i yelled at him for being in that room and snooping. i felt horrible for doing that to him... so after i ened up telling him that stuff was for a easter egg hunt (which i had already planned anyway) and those were all the prizes and such... so anyway he appologized and i appologized to him and told him that closet is off limits due to some cleaning supplies i keep in there that are poison. (not really poison just dust cloths paper towels and such). So that Saturday i went out and had to buy all new items for the basket and the kids at the egg hunt got ALOT more than they expected to get...