I'M34, HE'S 47 Should we go out? I meet him at church and he seems to be a really nice man. But I am sort of leary about the age difference. Any Advice?

Thanks, Denise


Here's an update: We went to a revival meeting tonite and really had a good time. He rededicated his life to Christ which was very special for me to be a part of. We are planning a date on Saturday nite as our "official first date". Wish me luck.

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Age aside- Do you share any interests?

Age differences seem to shrink the older we get. It is creepy at 16 and 29. Acceptable at 25 and 38. Seems to disappear at 43 and 56. Totally ok at 52 and 65, or 61 and 74, etc.

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You're talking about going out on a date or two or four, right? Seems like there's lots of ground to cover before worrying too much about the age difference. I agree with the previous poster, that it isn't an insurmountable gap at this point in your lives if all else looks promising.


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I agree with the other posters. At this point in your life and his, age will not make a great deal of difference if you're both interested in each other, share the same interests, etc.

Even it 'kinda' bothers you, give it a shot. Go on one date and see what you think. It may surprise you.

On a lighter note, remember that it takes males alot longer to mature than females and with that being said, he may have been born 47 years ago, but maturity wise, he may only be 35 to 40 maturity wise; which closes the gap!

My dad is 53 and his gf is 2 years younger than me. I really didn't like it at first. BUT the more I have gotten to know her and see them together, the age really doesn't present itself. They enjoy each other. I have NEVER seen my dad look as 'human' as he does now (we've never had a good relationship). I am happy for them.

So, my vote is give it a shot and if you're unable to get beyond the age thing after taking a chance, then you've lost nothing, and maybe even gained a good friend.

Let us know what you decide and how it turns out!

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How will you ever know unless you try? You may be passing up on a really great opportunity for a relationship if that is what you are looking for. Most of my friends married men that are at least 10-12years older then they are. They have really great marriages, I think it has something to do with the fact that maybe these men are more mature. Of course there is at least one I can think of where that isn't the case.

I think you should maybe give it a chance. Are you attracted to him?

go for it!!
my dh is 47 and I am 36,we have been married for 14 years....
as far as the maturity ,hum ,he is closer to 15 than 50.....

I'm 35 and my husband is 51.....we met online a few years ago and have been happily married for over one year. He is the best thing that ever happened to me! Our maturity levels are equal and we share many interests, but of course not all. My opinion is that maturity levelsmatching is more important than physical age...but do be aware that women tend to live longer than men....

Absolutely go for it. My dh is 44 and I'm 35, a 9 year difference. We've been married for 16 years and have never ran out of things to discuss, yet anyways.

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I'll be 33 in Sept. And my DH will be 48 in June. We have been married for going on 12yrs.

The only down fall in the beginning or OUR relationship is that he is close to my parents age. (They had me young) My DH will be 48 my mom will be 50 and my dad just turned 52 I was afraid to tell my parents how old he was. But they loved him... So it didn't matter in the end

My DH does not look 48 or act it. We get along great and have many of the same interest. (except music lol)..


Go for it!!!

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Date him! Keep it light at first and see how things develop. I am 13 years older than my dh, and we have been married almost 14 years and have 2 great boys together.

I completely agree - Go for it!

Lisa

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My Cousin is 30 and her boyfriend is 41 or 42
She lives with him
He is very insecure
He checks her calls, emails everything
If she leaves work and isn't home in the time it takes to get from work he questions her
He even drives by her work after he gets off work to see if shes there
She wasn't parked where she usually does one time and he questioned her
Probably just him maybe
I never thought age mattered
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I agree go for it! I just turned 40, and my bf is gonna be 29 this month, we have 2 great boys together too.. and we met online

I agree with everyone else, GO FOR IT! But, I happen to think older men are very attractive, especially with a little gray hair. Let us know.

I say go for it !!!

My parents have been married almost 49 years, my mother kept trying to set him up with her younger sister because she is 8 yrs older than him. Well you see who won my Dad did, he just turned 77 in January and Mom will be 84 in August so not quite a full 8 yrs but close enough.
I have did genealogy research on my family and found one branch that the husband was 25 yrs older than the wife and she was his second wife presumably married to care for the young children after his first wife passed away. Its very common no matter what the generation.

So once again go for it.. it cant hurt you might find you have a lot in common.

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Have fun and go for it! Age isn't that much of a factor once you get older unless you are 24 and he is 80 LOL

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Thanks everybody. Your posts make me feel a whole lot better about the situation. I am attracted to him, he has a great sense of humor, and and the gray hair. The gray hair sort of bothered me at first. But anyway, I'll go for it! Wish me luck!

Denise

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Cool let us know how it goes!!!

I'm glad you're deciding to go for it! Report back! When I was single, I had only dated guys my own age. I met DH when i was 24 and he was 37...exactly the same age difference as you and this guy...13 years...I was very leary at first...I had to check him out to make sure he wasn't married etc. before I'd go out with him...It turns out, he was telling me the truth...He was a widower with no children...His wife had died of breast cancer two years earlier...To be honest, I thought that maybe I'd get a few good dinners out of him and that would be that...I'm shameful to admit that now, but that's the truth...I was young and immature...Anyway, I was very scared to introduce him to my parents...He's in between their age and mine...Turns out they loved him and still do to this day...We dated for two years and got married when I was 26 and he was 39...We've been married for almost 18 years and have three kids...There are differences such as our taste in music, but nothing too great...Sometimes I think it would be nice to be with someone from my 80's era...but oh well...He was settled, mature, and was a gentleman...I would never go back to dating guys my own age ever again...I'm only attracted to older men now...The older I get, the older they keep getting...LOL...My father and I never had a great relationship so I'm sure that a shrink would have a field day with me...LOL Good luck and let us know how it goes! ~Lisa

P.S...I love grey hair on a man...I think it's sooooooo sexy!

Only thought that I want to add is going to sound negative after all of the comments above. Sorry.

My mother-in-law is married to a man who is 13 years older and it has been difficult these last few years as he is in his late 80's and she is mid 70's. She really is having to take care of him and she is in the prime of her retirement years...

I know that this is really counting your chickens but something that I feel is worth mentioning since my MIL struggles so much with this and it is noticeable...

If it helps My Grandfather was 20 years older than my Grandmother. They met and had my Mother, she was 35 and my Grandfather was 55..( LOL Not to say ya;ll are having a child or even going to get married ). I say Don't let a number stand in your way., If you 2 like each other give it a chance, who knows it might be fun to date someone with a age diffreance.

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My dh & I are 12yrs apart. He's 48 & I'm 36. We've been married for 11yrs. I dated men my age and really didn't like it. Men mature slower than women so all the men in my age range were so immature. My dh was just right when we met. Just enjoy yourself. Age really doesn't matter as long as you are both adults and enjoy each other!

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try it...you might like it. i went out with someone who was 49 when I was 34....and it was one of the best relationships i ever had.

Glad you are giving it a shot! My dh is 55 and I am 48. We have been married for 18 years!

Hey Denise!!

Just wondering how it's going? Are you dating him? I just started dating a man 58 years old, I am 43. I thought of this post this week and remember how I answered. I'd love to hear your experience!

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