My husband and I just recently got guardianship of our 16 month old granddaughter. My 20 yr old daughter moved into our home with her when she broke up with her husband last October. By early November our daughter stopped coming home. She does come by and visit but only for a few hours at most. When I brought up the guarddianship she was more then happy for us to do it. Now she is with the 3rd love of her life this year, and is talking about taking her baby back. I hate to say it but I think it is more so she can get foodstamps and medicaid then because she wants her child. I'm going to have to tell her no, at least until I know the situation is okay, but don't want a war with my daughter. Got any opinions.

Oh, and to top it off, she says she is pregnant again!

Protect the grandchild at all costs. Your dd is an adult, free to make bad decisions. Listen to your heart. I hope things work out for you and your family.

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my sil is raising her 2 year old grandchild and I take her on weekends. She is to good for her mom and dad. My neice is a total looser, in and out of drug programs. The little girl was born addicted. Her father is an even bigger looser he only gets to see her once a week with supervised visits. My sil has gaurdianship of her and if we have anything to do with it her mom will never have her. protect your granddaughter at all expenses. You are not alone. So many grandparents are raising their grandchildren in this country. my sil`s e-mail is mikjak46@aol.com. she would probably love to hear from you. she is in her early 50`s and its hard starting all over again.

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hi i am raising my 2 year old grandaughter Mckenna the court granted me her guardian with temporary custody last july 6th then on oct. 31 i went back to court and was granted guardian with permanent custody it was the best decision the judge could have made. since in our care Mckenna is thriving she was underweight failure to thrive not walking still not talking but it is coming slowly. she is the joy of our lives i have lots of family support she goes to my sis-in-laws every other weekend so i can work be strong and fight with all you have to keep the baby these moms have no business wanting their babies back because today they want to be a mom these little ones need lots of love and care and consistency . i have no regrets all the legal fees and fighting i had to do to protect her.please feel free to e-mail me since it seems we have alot in common jackie

Well Selena was the lucky one. She was with us almost since she was first born. I had these wild ideas of watching my grandchildren on my own terms, not to be at the beck and call of my kids. Well after my dd left her baby with total strangers when I said no, I changed my ideas on grandparenting. So Selena has pretty much lived with us her whole life. Her dad has very limited visitation with her, his decision not ours. I have guardianship, but not custody. Our lawyer said with guardianship I could basically decide where she lives, so I really didn't need custody too. (big concern here, I hope he is right)

This is such a strange situation for us. My dd did not get along with us at all from the time she was about 13 and on. She ran away numerous times. She is bipolar and would get violent at times, to the point we had to have her arrested. She ranaway the last time a month before she was 18. When she came back around us she was pregnant. Our relationship is 100% better. But I also know she is mixed up in some bad stuff. I know drugs and maybe even gangs are involved. It is a hard place to be to know there is nothing I can do to make her change. Believe me I have tried. We have given her chance after chance. I will stay strong for Selena. She is so happy and so smart. I can't even imagine her going back to live with her mother (who she totally loves) unless I know it is 100% safe for her.

I really commend you for raising her and giving her a healthy happy home. She is lucky to have you and people around her that love her. You have to do whats right to protect her and it doesn't sound like her going to her mother is a stable enviroment for her. Child comes first and until she can provide a drug free and stable home i wouldn't give her back for the world.

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SAHM of Bailey 12, Tyler 10 , Emily Ann 6, and Ryan Matthew 4 yrs old.

I have had my friends granddaughter since late Jan. They have guardianship of her and her sister, but she lives with me and we have power of attorney.

Same story with mom........two kids, no dad, (he's in tx and has never seen the baby) She went for a visit with her today and I went to pick her up under the pretense that I had errands and couldn't wait. The mom is living with a "friend'. Another young lady with a child who lives off of the state bc the child was a preemie. There was a guy there who I am pretty sure is into drugs. SO, we are having a chat tomorrow about where she visits with teh baby.

It is hard to say the least..........but I am completely in love with my little peanut and will assist the grandparents any way I can to help protect these girls!!!

I have my granddaughte who just turned 7 in March. I've had her since just before her 3rd birthday.
I have Power of Attorney at this tme but not custody YET.

She is my youngest son's daughter. He was married to her mother but they are now divorced and he has legal custody. But they are also now living together.
My son is an alcoholic and is violent when he's drinking. The mother has NO CLUE as to mothering, wifeing, housekeeping, or cooking. She has 3 other kids who have been taken away from her twice by the court. They are now being raised by her sisters.

My granddaughter is highly ADHD. I had thought before she was school age that she might be hyper but when she got into kindergarten she was really VERY disruptive. Her teacher had her tested at school and I took her to a theripist for testing. It was determined then about her ADHD. She now is on medication and is being seen regularly but a genitic dr. and also a behavioral theripist.

My son and his ex just made known 2 weeks ago they plan to take her back when school is out.
The school and all the dr's. are very much against her going back with her parents.
With the life style they live, if she goes back, it will only be a short time until CPS intevenes and takes her away just like they took the 3 older kids.

So, now my work is cut out for me. I'm having to try to find an attorney that I can afford to go to court to get custody. Once I find an attorney it shouldn't be a difficult case with all the backing I have from school and dr's. and in view of my son's life style and the mother's track record.

I am 65 years old and on Social Security so raising a child of that age is definitely not what I had planned for this time in my life, but I know it's a necessary thing to do.
I really hate to take my son to court, but he hasn't showed any effort of being a good father so I guess we do what we have to do.

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My GOD Bless our Country and our Troops, and rid the World of terroists.

I just want to say to all of you, thank God that there are people like you! There are so many precious children living in horrendous conditions, none that they asked for. All children deserve a safe, sweet homelife. It is unbelievable to me what drugs have done to our society. I never thought I would see the day when innocent babies are just thrown away to whomever will take them. I wish there were more generous and kind people as yourselves! Babies are so innocent. God bless all of you! Donna

Donna I couldn't agree with you more! Thank you for stepping in and being such caring parents to these innocent kids.

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