This is what my 18 y/o DS said to me earlier this evening.

I was cleaning the kitchen, and he walks in and says "Mom, I got a problem. Lan (his GF) just called and asked me to go to the park with her tomorrow and I said yes and completely forgot that it was Mother's Day. Do you think we could rescheduel Mother's Day for you?"

Of course, I told him sure, no problem. But no matter how much I try to ignore it, my feelings are hurt. Maybe I am being too sensitive? I mentioned it to DH and he started to go in there and have a talk with DS, but I told him not to say a word to him. I don't want to make him feel guilty. I dunno. As I said, maybe I am being overly sensitive.

What would you typically do on Mother's Day?

Well, normally what we do only takes a moment. Usually he just gets me a card, or flowers, or like last year he got me a necklace. But, my point is, any of those things, or just a Happy Mother's day, would make my day. He could have just kept it to himself, and taken the moment to wish me happy Mothers Day, and left. But now that I know...I dunno. Like I said, maybe I am overreacting, being too sensitive, but am I the only one who would feel this way if they were asked this? I guess my feelings are just hurt is all.

I'm SS your feelings got hurt. Sometimes kids just don't understand how important something is to us.
HUGS hope your day is better Sunday.

BTW, If it will make you feel better guess what my DH asked me if I wanted to do Sunday ???

DH::What do you have planned for Tomorrow ??
ME: Nothing really why ?
DH: You want to rent a steam cleaner ??
ME: For what ?
DH:So I can clean the hallway carpet and maybe clean your carpet in the van
Me: DEAD SILENCE
DH:You there ?
ME: Trying not to cry Still Dead Silence
DH: You there ?
ME;Yeah, what ever, I need to go CLICK !!
Now for 12 years I have NEVER ever not once been taken out to dinner, movie, breakfast, served a cup of coffee NADA, So when he called, I just KNEW he was going to ask me out for a MD breakfast, But NO I get asked if I want to run rent a steam cleaner MEN.. Got to love them at time.

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Go rent a STEAM CLEANER??? Oh, my. I'm SS...
I think men only think of what is right in front of them. Not what is in thin air, like thoughts, and feelings. They are more physical and we are more mental. Did I make sense? LOL!!

Well, at least the 18YO remembered before it was over!! I sure wish he would have thought to figure out a way to do something special for you AND be able to see his girlfriend. What's the girlfriend thinking by the way?? Jeesh!

My other half was gone all day yesterday only coming home long enough to pack a bag to go to his mother's for the night and Mother's Day. I am here with my two sons and two other boys who slept over. (D)H said that I am not his mother. True, as I would have rasied him better.

We do not put a lot of emphasis on "Hallmark Holidays" in my family. If my kids wake up on Mother's Day and give me a big hug and tell me "I love you Mom, Happy Mother's Day!" I am happy as can be. If my DH wanted to rent a steam cleaner and clean my carpets I would truly be over the moon with joy. If my DH let me escape spending a day with his mother on Mother's Day I would know without a shadow of a doubt that I would spend the rest of my life in love with this man!!LOL!!!

I always thought with most holidays it is not so much as what you get, but what you have that really matters. I have a great husband of 18 years, 3 happy healthy boys who are 16, 12 and 8 and am lucky enough to still have my mom and grandma to love. Today we will all be meeting my mom at my grandma's house and we are spending the day cleaning and doing work for her. My DH and kids will be right there with me. This is a most perfect Mother's Day...

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My DH tried to pull that one on me early in our marriage. I told him right then that that wasn't gonna fly. His dad does something nice for his mom every year and vice versa (still does). I also told him there were 3 days a year that I expected to be taken for dinner - Mothers Day, Birthday and Anniversary. It hasn't been a problem since. It may not be fancy and it may only be dinner, but he does it.

He used to want to do a "nice, fun" dinner at home. I pointed out to him that what was "nice & fun" for him meant 3 or 4 hours in the kitchen for me. I would be happy to do those for Father's Day & HIS birthday (which he does want!) and that's fine with me, but not on MY days.

Don't hint and keep quiet. Tell him what you want and why.

Lisa

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I've learned if you want something you just have to ask.. that way the suprise won't be on you when they do nothing.. I'm sorry your feelings hurt.

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Yea, and I was thinking the same thing. She was probably thinking that she wanted DS to be there with her to celebrate mother's day for her mom in the park. I don't know that to be fact, but I can't imagine her doing the same thing to her mom...being a girl and all.

When I woke up this morning, he opened his bedroom door and said "Happy Mother's Day, mom". That's really all I wanted. I still am a little hurt from the situation, but I guess I should get used to it. He's a man now...I've lost him....LOL!

Well, like I said, my feelings were more hurt than anything else. I also said I didn't care what I got. A hug would be fine...or just a "Happy Mother's Day". I got a Happy Mother's Day, so that's cool. I'm happy. As a matter of fact, I cried this morning, I was so happy...

I was really hoping I had worded my feelings and thoughts right so you guys would understand what I was trying to say. I haven't posted much on here, but I have read every day. And I have discovered that this is a group of caring, friendly ladies that alot of you have gone to for comiseration and comfort when something has come into your lives and upset it.

I wasn't complaining because I wouldn't get anything, geez. I could care less about what I get/got...I was just hurt. Sad that my baby is grown up and has a GF and I am not his #1 lady anymore

The good news is that he told you about the dilemma rather than just take off with his girlfriend. It sounds like he was planning on spending the day with you. I put myself in your shoes, and if my 18 yr old son said that to me, I think my feelings would be hurt too (kind of like picking the girlfriend over mom). Initially, my reaction might be to sulk a little, but maybe you can turn it around and tell him that he REALLY has to make it up to you. Maybe turn it into light humor and poke fun with him saying that he picked girlfriend over me. How could you do that?

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Sorry, but I think an 18-year old should do better than this.

He wants to "reschedule Mother's Day" because his GF wants to go to the park?? I would think the "park" could be rescheduled.

Since your feelings were obviously very hurt, he should know you well enough to know how sensitive you are and that he would need to show you some appreciation on this day.

Unfortunately, I am the same way: I would be crushed if my DD didn't "recognize" me on Mother's Day since we are so close. Don't get me wrong, though, I don't need "presents" from her, but I do need her attention and love.

LOL! There's a good idea He's gone already, but he told his dad to tell me that he would do something with me when he got back.

That's what I was trying to say. I don't need anything. Just saying he loves me or a hug would be fine. Like I said, he could have kept the GF thing quiet, done something for me, and then took off for the day...with me none the wiser. I guess it says something for my DS's honesty..

I don't think this ia necessarily about Mother's Day, but realizing that you have "lost" your little boy and he does have priorities other than you.

I don't think you're being too sensitive, but I do think it's hard to let go of our "little boys" KWIM? Of course, I could be way off--my boys are 7 and 9.

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No, you're pretty much on target. As I said in one of my posts..can't remember which one..LOL. I am pretty sure I have lost him to another woman..LMAO!

It's ok. It's a part of growing up, I understand. Just doesn't make it any easier...

have 4 kids, oldest almost 14, i've not been taken anywhere my 8 year old makes cards in school but he's mad a t me cause he didnt get his way about something and took the card and shredded over the garbage can other than my ripped up card I got nothing out of the other 3 .

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Oh well that sucks. Geez, take my heartache and multiply it by 4...so sorry

I got a call from my son this morning saying happy mothers day. I asked him what he was doing and he said he was going to spend the day with his girlfreind at her mothers house. I know how you feel. I dont want anything the happy mothers day was good. But I would have liked him to come see me.

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Well he is a teenage adult now and at that age they are only going to think about who they are in "love" with. Parents take a backseat once the relationships start.

If he marries and has children I hate to say it but that woman will be his first priority and that is the way it should be. Did you ask him to have his girlfriend to join you all for a short period of time? Kind of divide it up a little? Maybe you could have offered for them to have dessert with you later in the day.

I think I would be happy that your son gave the day that much thought and that he was actually somewhat concerned w/ your feelings. My two youngest boys crawled into bed w/ me this morning and gave me their gifts they had made in school-a pin to wear and a keychain. My oldest gave me a card w/ a Starbucks card enclosed. DH brought me up a plate of cold waffles (yum!), and I didn't get so much as a Happy Mother's day from my 14 yr. old.