I have conferences tonight at DD's preschool and I am going alone. DS has a baseball game and so DH is going to bring both kids to the game and I am going to meet with the teacher. (I don't expect anything exciting, she's not having problems or anything, so a fast sure she's ready for next year sort of meeting I would assume)

Usually I do go by myself, unless we can find a babysitter for the kids. Do you and your SO both go? Another mom with a kid on the baseball team and with kids in the same preschool is missing the game so they can both go to conferences and it made me wonder if I should have done the same?

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I usually do go alone because of time of conference. Husband works nights can't stay up all day to go to a conference. If possible, I do think both parents should go.

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Both of us. I can usually get a 4:45 time and the kids are still in daycare.

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I usually end up going alone. The main reason is that my husband works night shift and our teachers seem to want to schedule conferences during the day when they have a work day.

Darlene

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I am usually the only one to go to conferences, DH has been to some, but usually he is at work when they schedule them. As far as missing a game for a conference I would say definately not, the kid needs to be at the baseball game. The conference can be rescheduled if you feel both of you need to be there (the game cannot), but if you say it's just a routine and nothing special sort of thing, I would say go alone, go with your initial plan and let DH take your son to his game. DD plays softball and for them to miss a game is not good, I wouldn't make her miss a game unless she was sick or there was a death in the immediate family. In fact when my mom died we were going to skip a game , she WANTED to play her game that night, so we went from being with my mom when she passed away at 3:00pm in her own home to going to a softball game at 7:00 that same night, she didn't want to let her teamates down, she was the pitcher. We did skip the game on the day of the funeral, that was just too much for me.

I have 3 children ages 10,11, and 20 and my dh has been to 1 or 2 conferences. Even if they are on his days off he usually does not go.

I always go alone. Scott is always working during the day.

Holly

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we almost always both attend. We bring the kids with us and the school schedules them back to back so when we finish with one kid we start the next. This year was the first one DH missed. They had out of town VP's in and he was in meetings all day He felt so bad...

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We both go. Neither of us has ever missed a conference.

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In our school district, conferences are from 3-9 twice a year. In middle school, the conferences are student led where the student displays his grades and work folders. The student has to explain to the parent about missing work, low grades, etc. After that if the parent wants to talk with the teacher they can. I've went to middle school conferences the most since they're student led and held in conjunction with other school activities. In K-4 I was in the school at least 3 days a week and stayed on top of things with the teachers if need be. I attended one conference for DD and maybe 2 for DS.

Usually just me but DH tries to make it if he can. I'd not feel badly about your DH going to the game.

Not only does my boys' dad always go to conferences, but his wife always comes too. It really used to bother me at first (when we weren't even divorced yet), but it's okay with me now that they're married.

Our conferences are child led though. It isn't as much of a meeting for the teachers to tell us how the boys are doing as it is for the boys to "show off" everything they're doing in school. It's a great experience for them, and I know that they would be very disappointed if one of us missed it.

However, if it was just a meeting with the teacher to discuss progress, and I didn't expect any surprises, I wouldn't think it was a huge deal if one parent missed it.

I'd like him to go and he'd like to be there too but we live in Montana and he works out of California so he's gone Monday morning thru Thursday night every week.

I do it all alone with the kids usually dh works 80 hrs a week so its all on me.

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I'll usually go since dh is in the Army and not always home.

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If my husband is at all available he will go with me. And, I have always taken my kiddoes with me too. They are very good students, and their conferences have always been very positive. I tell my children all the time how proud I am of the work they do and recognize their hard work. I bring them to conferences because I want them to know that it is not just a "Mom and Dad" thing when we offer our congratulations and encouragement. I want them to know that their teachers, too, appreciate their hard work. That being said, I think I would leave it up to the kids to make the choice--do they want to go to the games with Dad, Do they want to go to the conference with you or do they want to go to the conference with Both Mom and Dad....

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My dh didnt know where my youngest went to preschool at either until Saturday & no hes never met any of the teachers any of the girls have.

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We try to have both of us go. My kids are in three different schools, but for the high school and middle school they offer a block of time. For instance, from 4-8pm you can walk in, get your childs report card and head to the gym. All the teachers are set up at different tables and you can make the rounds. For my youngest we requested evening appointments so that DH can almost always make it.

If your kids are doing fine and you expect no major discussions one parent going is all that is needed. I would never make my kids miss a game unless there were serious problems with grades and/or behavior.

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I always go by myself. He watches the kids. The kids are not allowed to go. It even says that on the conference sign up sheets. My DH has never been to a conference.

Jen

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My husband usually attends.

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Yes, my husband attends conferences with our son and I. The teachers want the students to come to the conferences to explain what they have been doing.

DH works early in the morning, so on half days (conference days are always half days) he is home in time to attend also.

To me, it is important that he play an active role in our son's academics. And if he can make it to a conference, he will.

So far it has been just me. Our conferences are scheduled during the school day and they try to encourage both parents to attend, but there is no way my DH is going to take time off work for that. If he happens to be working from home, they he watches the kids while I go, so I don't have to hire a babysitter (children are not allowed).

I always go alone. DH has to watch the kids, we really dont have anyone else to do it. He has never expressed any type of interest in going anyway. Plus, it gives me a chance to get out alone. I usually sneak off to CVS or something for a bit afterwards...know what I mean!!

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