Ya know....my husband told me today that I am hormonal...blah blah blah...
He doesn't understand that I am just plain FED UP with things....

Can anyone else relate?? I am so tired of excuses or non- answers / spinning conversations to avoid real issues


Why is it when a woman is truly upset, men just brush it off as women being "HORMONAL" ??

Men hate to communicate. If you try to force them to, you're hormonal! It's really just the easy way out for them.

Well, the interesting thing is men can be hormonal too. My hubbys never seriously accused me of being to hormonal but, we have fought "dirty" before!! Can you explain what things that you want to talk about when you are not upset and then you guys can tackle some of these hot topics when every is calm and being a grown-up?

My DH never hated to talk to me he just didn't know how! Honestly, his parents walked on eggshells with each other so it was either an all out war or they weren't speaking to one another. So, for my Dh it really was learning how to say what you need to say without being rude or aggresive about it.

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sanctuary... I'd try bringing it up again later. Meanwhile, try to think of one nice thing that you can do for your DH each day -- ideally, he would reciprocate. This helps you to learn to feel better about him and yourself. Also, write everything down in a journal. That has always helped me to sort through things.

At least you have planted some seeds. Yes, he probably wanted to put an end to the conversation right at the moment but it doesn't mean that you can't bring it up again when you have both calmed down again.

My DH and I do really well *now* but had to do some counselling early in our marriage to come to this place (the tips above were some given to us during counselling that we both felt really helped with communication).

I hope that things get better for you both. You are in my thoughts.

You mention being FED UP....I know that I tend to let things pile up until I am totally fed up and then I have at it. I think it ends up looking to DH like I'm over-reacting because the thing is that I'm not flipping out at the one thing that just happened, but the other umpteen instances of the same thing....events that are no longer in his scope or memory. Is something like that happening with you? (I don't have any answers if it is - LOL - just empathy!)

cj/

Yes, I am fed up (

If I told you'all what I was fed up about, you would cyber slap me for letting it go for so long!
Things are going from bad to worse...and I am really fed up!

Get a piece of paper and start writing!!! Write everything nasty you've wanted to say...all the mean hateful words every slight and then rip it to shreds or toss it in the fire place. BUT don't keep it. It would be hurtful for your DH to read it.

It is a stress reliever to participate in this activity and should release you to then get another piece of paper and write down all the good things Keep that one and read it as a reminder.

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This post reminds me of the Episode on "Everybody Loves Raymond" where Raymond blames Deborah's mood on PMS. Very funny episode.

Sorry, I have no real advice to offer you,but, maybe if you catch this show, you might get a laugh???

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It seems as though men have some missing genes. Most of them can only relate to sctatching their crotch, noticing big bussoms, forgetting anniversaries, wondering what is the problem that you can't just keep your mouth shut and mop up the pee around the toilet......... . I don't think most of them are trainable, but jeeminey, don't we just love 'em? They are pretty good at fixing things, and fun to snuggle with...... I sure hope it gets better for you.
Dee

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-Bette Davis -

I dont/never really watched that show, but caught that episode once and thought it was one of the most funniest things I EVER saw on tv.... so funny!!