Did you ever have a conversation with someone and it is just so forced and unnatural? Can you feel it when someone doesn't like you?

Yep, and do I care, NOPE!

Yes. It's such an awkward feeling and I admit it does bother me.

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ABSOLUTELY!

( I am super sensitive, can feel their sadness too...it's so draining!)



I can also smell BS from a mile away!

My husband always stick to my instincts! He will back me up on this in a heart beat!

Definitely. I can also feel when someone likes someone (not usually me), or is feeling awful. I walked into the lobby at work one day and wanted to cry. One of our security guards who's just returned to work after losing his wife was in there. Creepy stuff.

Yes, and it does bother me as I'm a sensitive person. I just try not to think about it too much because I mainly get this feeling from my mother and it's really depressing.

Yep, so I make sure I go out of my way to talk to them more and be kinder to them, it really annoys them.

My mother does this as well... Things seem to be calming down now that she has gone through menopause and some other physical issues have been taken care of. But, a lot of damage has already been done.

I do not feel that she likes me. A lot of it is jealousy for what I have and anger because she has always felt that I love my dad more than I love her (they are divorced).

I hope that I will never put my kids in that position, ever.

I do the same thing!! Make sure to ask personal questions, so it seems like you care about them!!

Great tip.

As I think about it more, I came to the realization that maybe some people don't mesh. I'm probably guilty too. I know there are people that I just instantly did not care for. No matter how much I try to hide it, maybe it still shows? Maybe it's an energy or vibe we all give off.
I also try to be nice and outgoing but I wonder if people feel that is forced on my part?

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That is so sad - I'm sorry anyone has to feel that from either parent! Sometimes divorce seems to bring out the worst in people, and this is an example of that in its truest form. It is so sad all around.

And I'm sure you WON'T put your kids in that position - it's not in you to be like that (just based on how we know you here!)

I can tell and it doesn't bother me. I look at it this way, if they like me then they do and if they don't oh well it's their loss. I am not out to impress anyone just so they will be my friend. I will admit I don't have many female friends only because I have been told I am overly sarcastic and when someone says something to me that I don't like I am real quick to become defensive and make a sarcastic comment which in turn insults that person. I told my kids this "Never try to be someone you are not to impress someone, cause if they don't like/love you for who you are then they aren't worth your time"

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Thank you for your kinds words. It's okay too... I've come to terms with it and have learned to treat my mom with dignity and respect but live far away from her. She has taught me a LOT.

I can feel it and it does bother me cause i can`t figure out why. I think I AM A NICE PERSON AND WOULD NEVER HURT ANYONES FEELING ON PURPOSE.

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Yeah, I can tell. And it usually doesn't bother me, except for one person that I really wish liked my husband and me just for her husband's sake. Sad when you get married and lose your friends because your spouse doesn't like them.

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Yup, I can tell and it makes me crazy when people I don't really care for can't pick up on it.

One of my bosses at work does NOT like me at all. I really don't care but I LOVE being super nice to him and talking to him all the time just to be annoying. Hee-hee.

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I must admit that I read people very well....and very quickly. Would I prefer to be well-liked? Sure!! Does it kill me if I run into a brick wall occasionally? Nope. I leaned early on that you cannot control people's emotions, so don't knock yourself out. (I too, unfortunately learned this at home from my own parents---Dad who left when I was 8 years old and never looked back--and Mom who found it easiest to blame her kids for the fact that Dad left so till the day I turned 18 and left home that v ery day, made our lives miserable -- physically and verbally.)

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Yes, I can tell when I am not liked.
I get ignored a lot.
But I too, try to be as nice as I can.
Sometimes just to be nice and sometimes to just annoy!

I have found that quite often I am turned off by someone and later find that I really enjoy their company.
Now I try very hard not to be too judgemental too quickly.

But I still find it hard to be nice to a woman who kicked me in the ankle while square dancing because I think she did it on purpose. She kicked me so hard that I had to stop dancing and sit down and my ankle was sore for weeks!

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Yes, I can tell if someone doesn't like me. If that's the case, I'd rather them just ignore me totally than to be fake and pretend they like me. I'm the same way anymore...I'll just avoid them and not go out of my way to say hello...I used to try to bend over backwards to try to make someone like me that didn't. I finally wised up and realized that you can't do this. I must say that in the past, I've been quick to make an opinion about someone and not like them...later getting to know them and liking them very much! One woman I didn't like has now become one of my best friends. I get my feelings hurt though when I'm nice to someone and they don't know me at all, but I can just sense that they don't like me. I wonder why and just can't seem to understand how someone can act this way. There's a woman I see all the time at school who just seemed not to like me from the moment she met me. I would always go out of my way to say hello to her first, she would never speak. Finally, I got so sick of being ignored and treated like crap that I just stopped speaking to her. It's just not worth it, although there are times when I just want to ask her "what did I ever do to you?"...Boggles my mind. ~Lisa

You can add me to the ones that can tell. Unfortunately it does bother me sometimes. I guess it just depends on if I like that person in return. If I don't like them to start off with, then I couldn't give a rat's behind if they like me as well. If it is someone that I like and thought they liked me, then my feelings do get hurt, because I don't know what I did to upset them.