My dd had a friend over today. This was the first time this girl has come over. The mom dropped her off at 10:30 am and I told her come get her about 3:00 pm. We were going to the movies, have lunch them go home and swim if there was time. The mom called at 3:30 and asked how things were going, I told her they were swimming and just come over. The mom told me just call when they are done and she will be there. Well, we called her at 4:30 and she said she would be over soon. The woman came over after 6 pm!! I like her dd but please come and get her at the time we discussed because now I will think twice about having her over again.

Atleast she wasn't as bad as the one who dropped off her girl and went to a bar with her husband!

What do you do with these people?? When I drop off my child I make sure I come at the time told!

wow ,unbelievable!!!! I am speechless!!!!

Next time Stick her kid on the front door at the alotted with a note that says " We left here at three, we had a great time with her, bring her again real soon"!!!

That should get the point across...LOL!!

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That's really ballzy. I could NEVER do that. I am usually always early to pick up my child...

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Wow-- I agree! That WAS really gutsy! She basically used you guys as a day care for the day!!

Holly

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I would wait a looonnnnngggg time till I had this little girl over to my house again...and would definitely not send my child to her house until I knew the Mom and her "habits" better, as she has shown herself to not be a very reliable and trustworthy person. AND the next time I did invite this little girl over, since you and your daughter b oth tlike the little girl, I would be sure to tell Mom when she drops the daughter t hat you have a commitment at such and such a time and need to make sure that she shows up on time. Otherwise, you will have to just call off the play date then and there.

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I am a long time mom here. My son is 18 so play dates were unheard of back then. I have a great solution for you though. If and when you have the child over again, tell the mom YOU will drop her daughter off at such and such time and show up on her doorstep on time. That should help her get the message. My son's girlfriend's mom used to invite her daughter to my house every Friday night. Mind you I work a 40 hour week and she did not. By Friday I was exhausted and the last thing I wanted to do was entertain another child. After this went on for a few times, I finally told the mom that this was NOT going to continue. I told her I work 40 hours a week and was too tired to monitor 2 teenagers in my house on Friday night. One time she even waited until 5:00 on Friday to call and say she was dropping her daughter off. I left work at 5:00 and wasn't even home yet. She called again after I got home and I didn't answer the phone. I have NO IDEA what happened to common courtesy with some people!

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Doing this did cross my mind!!

I cannot believe that this woman thought that was OK to do! ITA with the PP who said that she basically used you as a day care for the day. That is NOT cool.

It would be a LONG, LONG time before I had this child over for another play date.

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While I agree with what's been said, there's another twist to this to consider. If the parent is that desperate to be rid of the child, that's the child that needs all the time and attention you can give them. I feel certain the child doesn't receive adequate attention at home.

I always feel sorry for the kids in situations like this.

So, I'd probably say something to the mom so that the child doesn't lose out on another playdate. I'd politely tell her that it was an inconvenience having her there three hours longer than planned but that you'd like to try again sometime... Something like that. I'd give it ONE more chance after telling her and if it happens again, I'd not have her over any more.

Some parents are just clueless and need to be told (for their children's sake!).

I agree with you guys I have no idea whats up with people doing this with thier kids I would have never done that with any of my kids.

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Me neither snoopy! I was the kind that would stay with my kids at other peoples' houses until I really knew the family well and sometimes I NEVER felt comfortable leaving my kids at certain peoples' houses. Those are the ones that I started making excuses for the kids not going to their houses, etc. and they have fallen to the wayside as we've gone through life.

It is very hard for me to relate to someone doing this.

Some parents are just odd - I actually DID try to use "Plan B" (planning to end the date by bringing the kid home, ourselves) - We had a kid who we brought to a parade - I said the parade would be over by 1:00, and I'd bring her home at 2:00. Fine, they said. Well - come 2:00 - we get to the driveway - NO CAR - NO PARENTS!

I call them on their cell phone - I thnk they'll be mortified as I say that I'm in their driveway, and we're home - they say "Oh, okay, would you mind bringing her home to your house - I'll just pick her up from there?"

Ummm - how about showing a little embarassment????? I'd be mortified and apologizing all over the place - It gets weirder...When the mom finally shows up, the kid says "Can I stay longer?" And the mom says "That's up to Mrs. G - it's her house..." They both look at me, and I find myself conned into saying "Sure - she's fine here" (I was dying inside, though). The mom says, "Great - my DH will pick her up later, then?" At this point, I find a (small) backbone, and say - how about in an hour?"

He did, but you know we have not had that kid over since then. What a hassle, and too bad for the little kid.

I actually had the exact opposite problem this weekend. One of my daughter's friends called Sunday to see if she could go see Pirates on Monday. Yep, that's fine. Then Monday she asked if they could go swimming afterwards. Yep, that's fine, too. When they picked her up, the mom (who I've never met before - but I know the daughter is a sweetie and they live in a different part of the same neighborhood) said they'd be back late afternoon/early afternoon. Fine. I finally called at 8PM to check in. She said they were playing and eating pizza, would it be fine to bring them home between 8:30 & 9? It's still a school night here...we've got today and a half day tomorrow! I said yes and all was fine, but it was weird! They had her from 12:50 to 9 PM!! My daughter had a blast!!

Lisa

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