D/h snores, every night, all night long, loudly. Most nights I manage to get to sleep, but nights like tonight it is like a buzzsaw next to my ear and I feel like I'll lose my mind if I don't get out of bed and away from it!

We are married over 20 years. He has always snored on occasion, but this constant snoring has been about 5 years. Yes, he put on weight. Yes, he has apnea. No, he will not wear the mask or do anything else about it. I actually considered taping him so he could hear how loud it is, but I dont' think it would matter. He is the type of person who can fall asleep in two seconds, under any circumstances.

How do you deal with this???? I have friends who have separate bedrooms, but I cannot imagine that, and my bedrooms are full! I tried earplugs, but they did not help, and then I was nervous I would not hear the kids if they needed me.

I'm sure there is no great solution, but I needed to ask. I am tired!!

YES!!!!!!! He just completed a sleep study and is being outfitted with some kind of sleep apnea machine. He saw Dr. again last week and they are supposed to call this week. I can't wait. After 15 years of me nagging him he finally followed up on it. I wish I had some answer for you. If I don't get to bed before hubby(which is NEVER) I have to tap him to roll on his side so I can get to sleep.

NO, but I am the one that does. (Married 22 years) I can sympathize for you. I understand completely. My wife complained and complained that I snored constantly and it is only getting worse year after year. So this year I decided to so something about it. I did the sleep study and sure enough they said I snore. Fortunately for me, I don't have apnea and I am not over weight, so there are several alternatives for correcting my snoring. I do not want to wear an appliance of any kind, just seems that it was be something that would not be worn all the time and therefore just money down the drain. Beside they would only stop my snoring and not cure it so I would wear it forever. My doctor told me about a new procedure Pillar, cheaper than the appliances and there is nothing to remember. I have read up on it and this is the route I am going to take. My doctor is great and he has the most Pillar procedures posted in the DFW area.

You really need to talk to your DH and make sure he understands that it is your health that is being effected by his snoring not just his and YES his health is be greatly effected by ignoring the fact that there is a problem. There are alternatives available and it wasn't until my wife really talked to me about this did I do something about it.

Good luck with whatever is decided, but your DH should really stop and listen to your side of the situation.

I have been married to a snorer (is that even a word?) for almost 17 years. I usually fall asleep before him and dont have issues. If I dont fall asleep before him then I end up poking and proding him until he stops for a little while.

I wish that he would go in and be seen by the doctor. I cant convince him that it is an issue though.

Darlene

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No, he doesn't snore. I do.

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I was the one that snored for years. I had begun to put on weight and bad headaches woke me in the night, and I would wake up with one every day. Always tired.

The one good thing that came about from my gastric bypass was that pre-op I had to do a sleep study and found out I had sleep apnea. I had stopped breathing 70 times in a minute. WOW. Took some getting used to the machine, but once I did, I never slept so good. I was rested, no more headaches.

DS has apnea very bad, and tried to test out my mask and couldn't tolerate it, but said he'd go for a study and see what other options there were for him. It is so dangerous...I can hear him stop breathing and cringe that I had sounded like that.

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Yes! We've been married 10 years, and for the past 5 he's slept in another room due to the snoring. Even if I would fall asleep before him, the snoring would still wake me up in the middle of the night. When he falls asleep on the couch at night, I can still hear him, even with my door closed all the way down the hall!

OMG yes. I have to have either the fan going full blast or some other white noise to try and drown him out. I can usually get him to roll over and then it's not too much of an issue, unless he's been drinking, then it doesn't matter WHAT postion he's in....

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When he's really overtired he seems to snore.....but in all honesty I'm the snorer........

Now my Dad snores horribly many times my parents sleep in seperate rooms......He's done sleep studies, had things to try, and just won't......I hope I don't get that bad...

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Yep. DH has sleep Apnea.

He did the sleep study about 4 years ago. And now faithfully uses a CPAP machine.

People die from sleep Apnea and lack of breathing. Look up some info online and scare your loved ones (if necessary) to get them to take the test and/or use the methods requested.

DH has a co-worker whose wife died of Apnea because she stopped breathing (she was diagnosed with Apnea but never used her machine) during the night and never started.

Most of the time he doesn't, but once in a great while he does.

I used to be the one that snored, but I haven't had that problem anymore since I had a septoplasty and sinus surgery 2 years ago. It was really painful, but it was so worth it and I sleep much better now!

Yes but lucky for him once I fall asleep nothing wakes me up. When I sleep over his place his grandma complains that he keeps her up

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I recently had the sleep study done and have been using the CPAP machine for about two weeks now. I absolutely hate the machine, but will stick with it because it is such a serious medical condition. I am praying that eventually I will see a reduction in my constant headaches, but so far haven't seen any improvement

I finally convinced DH to have the study done at the VA, but when he went, he couldn't fall asleep so they let him go home. I was soooo upset because I am positive that he needs a machine, too.

We have an appointment next Tuesday at the VA to talk to the doctor -- hopefully, there is something they can do for him without doing the sleep study or find some other way to do the study.

Snoring is no joke.

Nope, not since he lost about 20 lbs.
I'm the one with severe allergies and snore when I get congested. It's not an every night thing though.

Thanks for the input. I am amazed how many people struggle with this.
I am going to talk to d/h again, but don't expect to get very far. I'll just keep at it. He knows how serious it is. He has had two episodes where he stopped breathing long enough that he woke up gasping and desperate for air. I often wake up if he stops breathing for longer than usual periods. I guess the absence of noise wakes me, and I shake him.
He was hospitalized 2 years ago w/appendicitis and the pulmonary specialist put him on the CPAP in the hospital, and explained all the dangers. He wouldn't even consider it for home.
The other point I have tried to make to him is that it is horrible for anyone to have to live with the guilt of sleeping through a spouse's death in the middle of the night from apnea! I give lots of credit to all of you (or your spouses) who have done the sleep studies, or taken steps to correct the snoring/apnea!

Somebody is sleeping on the couch tonight!

Yes, and this winter, he added a little throat clearing noise after each snore. Don't know how he can clear his throat in his sleep but he does.

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I've been married for almost 18 years to someone who snores...I've learned to live with it, but at times I really resent it. That's not good for a marriage. Why should I wake up exhausted every day because of this? He insists that he doesn't have sleep apnea, but acknowledges the fact that he snores. He has offered to move to the couch if it gets too bad at times. He is overweight and has had four sinus surgeries in the past. It seems that after he had the sinus surgery his snoring improved. If I go to sleep before him, I sleep fine and usually don't notice it...however, that is rare since I'm a night owl and he's not. He recently bought this spray for his throat. If he's snoring, I wake him up and he sprays. It seems to really work well...no snoring after he sprays! I recently saw a commercial on TV for this liquid snore relief "stuff"...I may buy some of that and have him try it. Fortunately, he's out of town on business this week so I'll get a few good nights sleep! Now I know why my grandparents had twin beds and separate bedrooms. Not a bad idea at all! I've never liked sleeping with anyone...I need my own space! ~Lisa

My husband (35) has been using a CPAP for about 2 1/2 years now. We both sleep so much better. However, it's not a matter of my sleeping better so much as I have a vested interest in him living past 50 to help me raise our 3 kids. When he was getting ready to participate in the sleep study, I was helping him fill out the questionaire and one of the questions asked, "Do you ever fall asleep while driving in the afternoon?" I asked him if that had ever happened to him (figuring he would have mentioned it if it were the case) and he told me, "Yeah, almost every day." I totally freaked out.

I know he doesn't like his mask all that much, but he uses it so he can prolong his life. Snoring is not funny and you cannot "know" you don't have sleep apnea. You have to be tested and have it ruled out.

I am the snorer in the house! I have had a sleep study done but no apnea here. I do have large tonsils and adnoids (sp) So I guess that is a factor with me.


I use the nose strips and throat spray and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't... usually hubby will tap me on the shoulder and I will roll over...

If I am sick with sinus stuff I will sleep on the sleeper sofa, otherwise neither one of us get any sleep.

I also have TMJ. I don't know if that plays a factor in it also or not.

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We both snore. I am a light sleeper and sometime I wake myself up. We're married 15 years and have slept in separate rooms for about 7. As soon as we get health insurance I'm going for a sleep study, I snore much more and louder than DH.

Dh snores and always got VERY anoyed when I nudged him. I snore, too, when it is allergy season. We have seperate rooms and I love it!

WOW That showed me not so much about people who snore but the fact so many couples sleep in seperate rooms. My husband and I dont have that problem because we both out snore each other. Keep the t.v. on it helps.

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Well my DH doesnt snore often, but when he does I hold his nose closed until he wakes up and then I fall asleep before he can start snoring again (it takes him a while to realize why he woke up)

YES! Sometimes it's not so bad, but other times no matter what I do to him he still snores. It's worse if he's on his back. Usually a nudge will do the trick. He falls asleep at the drop of the hat and it take me some time before I finally nod off (unless I'm really tired). He says I snore too. It's also worse when the cat decides to join us and she starts in too! Her's I can tolerate more then his! LOL

Wow, that was dangerous.

Wasn't he worried about falling asleep at the wheel and causing an accident

My husband used to snore terribly...he did the sleep study and did have really bad apnea. He has slept with a CPAP for...I don't know. A long time. Now I feel like I sleep next to Darth Vadar! But, at least I don't have to worry about him all night. He used to stop breathing for the longest time...kind of snore/gag/choke and wake himself up and start all over.

He is a NEW man with that machine. He as always, always tired...now he has more energy than I do. He used to nap, sleep really late on weekends. Not anymore! No more headaches! Feels great.