I hope this doesn't get me in trouble.

By the way the Question to the poll is supposed to say SUPERVISION, not Supervisor!! Thanks

I have been really bothered by the shutting down of a post. I am sure you know what I am referring to. If not PM me and I will tell you.

To my point, question, quarry(sp??)

Do your children hop all over the internet without supervisor and could they read one of the sites you frequent without your knowledge.

To the MODS: This is not to upset anyone, I have been thinking about it every since the post was shut down. It is in no way about the decision to shut it down. Thank you.

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Interesting question. I will answer yes and no. Now that they are almost 17 they have much more freedom than they used to have 5-7 years ago. However, the computers are all located in public rooms of the house (kitchen & living room) not in a bedroom. They know we are constantly in and out of the room and all monitors face out so we can see where they are.

Would they go to any of the sites I frequent? Not bloody likely. Unless it was MySpace....lol. They think this site is "stupid" and can't understand why I read here so much.

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Mine are allowed on the internet, but, don't get on much at all. When they do, they are limited to 15 minutes, and we are constantly hovering over them (in the same room), and have filters on their log-ins.

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Well...no kids here, so I voted "don't know if they could or not". I don't think "children" would be on a coupon site , I thought we were all adults here

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I guess I should have put a space for those with furbabies!!! The internet can be dangerous for them too, mommie might find a new furbaby to share her love with!! LOL

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My kids are allowed on the computer. They can go to disney.com, barbie.com, nickjr....things like this. Now, honestly, they could pull any of the sites I go to from the pull down on the address bar. If they did, so be it, I don't visit porn sites or anything. If they did get on this site and were to read the so called questionable post, I would not be bothered by it. I did not find it offensive and know my kids wouldn't understand it in the least anyway. If they questioned me on it, I'd answer them honestly but vaguely because at their age I can get away with that.
With that said, even when my kids are on the computer, I constantly check what they're doing, what site they're on etc. And I can't imagine what child would get on a coupon site and actually read the posts. My oldest thinks saving money is the coolest thing ever and puts coupons in her purse, LOL and even still would NEVER bore herself with this site!

Well, my kids are grown. But I did have my niece who is 8 here this week. Our computer is right off our kitchen in the sunroom so I can monitor the computer pretty well. I don't think this is a site where many children would want to come to anyway!! I mean, why would a child/teen want to even come to 'My Coupons'??

I think we should be adult enough here to talk about issues pertaining to women, women issues, etc. I mean, this is the only outlet some women have to talk to people about. As a matter of fact, there's another coupon board that I frequent that has tons of members and wow, you should see some of their topics!! The one that the OP talked about was mild compared to some of another chat/coupon board.

We're adults here and IMO I don't think a topic should be closed simply because it might offend a child. This isn't a child's coupon board!!!

Perhaps the thread in question was closed because an adult MyCoupons reader was uncomfortable with the nature of the discussion and brought his/her concern to a moderator.

But anyways, I think that a child that reads a coupon site's bulletin board and a post on menstrual cups has a lot more to worry about in the grand scheme of things than being exposed to the discussion in that post. LOL

My kids (13 & 17) both use the internet unsupervised. And the older one has been caught visiting some unsavory sites (yeah, I admit it) but never once MyCoupons.

cj/

I voted they are under constant supervision, because they know we are constantly in and out of the room. Plus, they think I have a key logger on this computer. Shhh, I don't. I did on our other computer and just haven't downloaded it to this one yet.

They have no interest in any site I go to with the exception of MySpace. I'm on there mainly to keep an eye on them there. They are allowed to go most anywhere they want now at 16 & 12. For a while we did have a notebook (still havev it) of websites they could go to.

About my post that got closed: I would have never posted it if I had of found it inappropiate. I honestly can't think of any kid that would find this site entertaining at all.

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What in the world would an Adult find uncomfortable about the post? I mean, I put "womanly issues" so that any men on here wouldn't read if they didn't want to. I guess it is just beyond me.

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My child is 11, I am in the same room with her when she is on the internet, so that I can look over and check to see what she is doing, I usually read a book, fold laundry or something like that so that it's not noticeble that I am actually watching her. She only goes to a very few sites. She wouldn't be caught dead on a coupon site, LOL.

I don't know....I followed a blog link in someone's tag line and it seemed that was the case. Well, either the anonymous adult was uncomfortable or was uncomfortable on behalf of other people (including children?)

I think the closing of the thread was probably a judgment error, and I'm not sure it's worth making a big deal about ....the points have been made. Sometimes it's just better to carry on and not obsess over things. I sound like my mother.

cj/

our dd is 16, so free to roam the net (with huge limitations--no quizilla, no myspace, no "chat" rooms).

Even though we don't watch where she goes, we KNOW where she goes because every single keystroke she types on her keyboard gets logged (we installed spyware that sends us logs every hour of her keystroke activity). The spyware runs in the background and only we know what the password is to disable it. (it's named something that she would never guess on the registry if she were to look for it).

I know the post for which this thread was spawned, and it wouldn't have been me to complain... I have TRIED to get my daughter interested in this board for years.... she has yet to even create a username or even type in the address of this site.

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Vicki..Are you being ugly to me because I don't have children? I hope I'm taking your statement the wrong way?

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I was of course teasing I have 3 furbabies!!

I had a funny picture in my head of my puppies on the internet!!

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SO, it's pretty easy for something typed on a message board to come across as mean and ugly isn't it? Hmmmmm...how does it feel for you to be the one accused of being the mean and nasty one?

Just wondering!

I voted yes, because they do have free access to the computer/internet. But we have security measures in place (net nanny, keystroke recorder, and so forth). The computer is also in a public area and we (DH and I ) are in and out of the room.

They have no desire to go to a coupon site. They much prefer nick.com, cartoonnetwork, postopia, etc. They also have some role playing games on CD that they will play. We DO NOT allow them to role playing games on line as I can't control who they could come in contact with. They are still too young for chat rooms and myspace (Thank God!)

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got a coupon for any chill pills?

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I agree about it not being worth making a big deal about. It's happened, some were not happy about the thread, others weren't happy about the closing of the thread but isn't it time to move on regardless of which side of the fence you want to hang out on?

LOL @ you sounding like your mother! I probably sound like mine too.

My kids are 17 and 20 - so no restrictions of course. When they were younger, we had the PC in the living room and we watched them when they were online.

Ouch all around!!! I've noticed things get a bit heated in the last few weeks here and am hoping that we're not going to be in danger of loosing this board. I read more than I post and would greatly miss it.

Off my cheesy soap box and I voted no supervision, but that's really half true. Our computer is in the family room and with three kids, one would tattle if the others were being naughty on the net. Mine are only 6,7 and 9 and they only go to game or educational type sites that are bookmarked. They are not allowed to type in a web address as years ago, I mistyped the teletubbies and got some scary hard core porn and I couldn't get the thing to close!!! Ewwwww, as annoying as the teletubbies can be, crotch close ups are way worse imo!

mine are 14 and 16 and can get online....BUT, they are not allowed computers in their rooms. Our computers (2) are also in the Bonus and Family rooms, which are always busy with other people in and out. Do I lock the computer if I am out of the house for an hour or two and they are home alone? Nope. I believe that kids will be kids, but I also trust them and they know our concerns and why we have those concerns. They are never allowed in chat rooms because those are unmonitored and, so far, we have no concerns or seen any instances that those rules have been broached. I think the fact that we gave them fairly broad boundaries but with specific No-nos, they do not want to jeopardize that trust at all. They are great students and both involved in community issues and volunteering, so believe that their heads are in the right place.

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I voted no supervision. My 12 yr old isn't capable of going on the internet so she's easy. The 10 yr old can go on - but can only access certain sites. It is also in our family room so I'm just about always there when she's on. Plus she knows I check her history and email occasionally to make sure she hasn't gone to any sites without my say so.
Now one of her friends was over last week and I had to spell it out to her which sites she was allowed to go to and that I was watching. They don't have internet at their house so there are no rules in place at their house. I know when they do get internet though, their parents will be setting the same rules we do. She signed up under my daughter's email for some site I had never heard of and I caught her through the email signup.

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My 10 and 11 go on without supervision but the computer is in the living room. They really only do games and would not go anywhere that was just reading since they both think reading is just something you have to do in school, never for fun. LOL

I removed my earlier reply because I think I misunderstood the topic question. To answer, yes they are able to hop all over the internet and visit sites I have visited. I have this site as well other sites I visit bookmarked.
But I seriously doubt they would be interested in reading this board.

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I voted that they always have supervision.

I do not hover over my kids while they are onlin but I do have a keylogger that lets me know where they have been and what they are doing there. My kids are only 8 and 6 so they don't know I have it but my niece, 15, is staying with us and she does know I have it and that I check it every day.

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