I witnessed something this morning and I don't know why but it bothered me all day. When I arrived at work I was noticed a co-worker on the phone in the parking lot as soon as I got out of my car she asked me to please go inside and grab any male worker I could find because there was a guy in the lot of trees between our parking lot and the building next door beating his girlfriend/wife up and she was screaming for him to stop and get off of her. My co-worker was on the phone will 911, when i entered our building there were several men who work in the offices downstairs just standing in the lobby asking what was going on outside when i told them and asked if they would please go help they said they didnt want to get involved unfortunatly I was in before 9 and there were no males in our office at that time. As I was going back outside I heard people yelling that she was on the car, apparently she got on the trunk of his car and he proceeded to drive off with her on the trunk. Again others witnessed it and did nothing. My co-worker was screaming at the 911 operator that we needed a cop and now but the operator kept asking questions like what are they wearing, does he have a weapon, what is he actually doing. etc. we heard her screaming but were afraid to go into the lot because we didnt know if he would go after us, we figured if we got a male or two to go in then maybe he would have stopped we are still talking about it and my co-worker and I are surprised that no one but us two tried to do anything to help the poor woman. The cops finally showed up after they had left the parking lot with her on the trunk. when he was driving off my co-worker yelled the plate number to the 911 operator so the cop said they could run the plate and go to the home and talk to the owner of the car to see what happend
So here is my question if you ever came across a situation like we did, what would you do or if you experienced something like that what did you do???? I am just shocked that no one wanted to help and I cant stop thinjking what if he had a weapon and used it

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I tried to step in in a situation like this but was unsuccessful. Saw a woman being screamed and yelled at by her boyfriend. Had the girl I was riding with pull over. I jumped outta the car and yelled and went running for the girl. The guy picked her up and threw her into the front of his truck and drove off. I called 911 and provided descriptions and tag number. I do not know what happened but I was fearful for a while of seeing her pic pop up on the news that she was missing or killed.

I personally would have gone for help and then gone back to the area it was happening. Adrenaline kicks in and causes you to do stupid stuff and that would have been my reaction.

There was a news show one time about people stepping in in these kinds of situations. It seemed that middle aged women were the ones most likely to approach and break up an argument in a public place. I guess I am one of those middle aged women that would have passed their test.

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I would definitely been one of the stupid ones that would have gone running over there while calling 911 on my cell phone. Probably would get shot or something, but, I am a mama bear at heart....even when they are not my bears. Probably not the smartest thing to do, but I truly believe that is the action I would take....yelling at the man to stop only though, not getting physically involved.

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I would have done what you and your friend did. I would have physically intervened b/c now a days you never know who does and who doesn't have a weapon and I'm not quite ready to die. I think you guys did a good thing though and at least you didn't just stand by and do nothing like the sorry men who work w/ you.

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I would have gotten within safe yelling distance and yelled."The police our on their way! And the only thing else you can do is dial 911.Now if I had a stun gun with me I might be brave enough to get closer ,but only if I knew for a fact that he was actually punching her and not just restraining her.
It sounds like she might have been off her rocker too,if she was on top of the trunk while he took off.Sounds like they were both at each other.

This is one of those situations where you act first then think later. I would have ben right in the middle of it and probably bopping the guy with my purse upside his head. What I would have not suspected or thought of is if he could have had a gun or another weapon. We see these situations and we just act on instinct not thinking that we could be putting outselves in a very dangerous situation.
On another note - several years ago my husband and I were driving and in was definately not in the best part of the city. Anywho, we come across two boys on bikes, maybe 8, 9 yrs old. One of the boys was going too fast I guess and might have hit a rock and he wrecked. He was in the middle of the road crying and holding his arm. This was in July, it was over 100 degrees outside. I didnt think, I just jumped out of the car and went to the boy and could clearly tell his arm was no doubt broke. We gave him a ride home. The area he lived in was hands down deplorable and so sad. I walk him up to the door because I wanted to talk to his mother and let her know what happened, his arm was broken and he was most likely dehydrated. She opens the door, grabs him by the other arm and yells at him then proceeds to go off on me. What do you say to that? I was without words and just got back in the car shaking my head. Now in hindsight I should have called her sorry butt in to child services. Just to show ya, you never know.

After calling 911, I would just watch in case they need a witness, and would take pictures with my cell phone in case they needed evidence or a description, being able to show them would be bettertan a description. If I knew he didn't have a gun I might have said something or may have driven closer with my vehicle. He was screaming and beating someone he supposedly cared for (boyfriend/girlfriend) he might not think twice about attacking someone he has no ties to.

I heard that police officers HATE responding to domestic violence cases. Apparently they can be very volatile.

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I don't know if I would have did anything different than what the 2 of ya ll did. My husband onetime "tried" to break up husband/wife fight, He pulled the man off his wife, when he turned to see if she was OK she pulled a gun from her purse and started shooting at my husband. ( BTW My husband knew them both ) He ran out the door. Thank- God she didnt hit him with a bullet. I once tried to break a fight up between my brother and his wife, I got the worse end of that one as my brother hit be so hard I flew back wards and busted my head open. So given this I don't know if I would try to break a fight up with strangers You never know what might happen to you for getting in the middle of this.

I can't blame the men for not going out there, you never know what that man might do, shoot, stab, run over them. If he thought nothing of beating his girlfriend/ wife in full view of others, He probably wasn't "right in the head to start with "and would have thought nothing of harming anyone that might be able to turn him in to the police.

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I really like the way that you and your coworker handled it. If I am ever in this circumstance, I'll do the same.