Yesterday started out great....we had a mostly sunny morning and early afternoon which has been rare for us, so we spent some much needed time outside. Went to the pool, blew bubbles, and drew some really crazy drawling outside with chalk....had snow cones for snacks......the kids and I had fun

Then we all come inside, sky started getting that dreaded grey again, and things just went to pot......my boys for a change were like angels (scary though ) and my oldest DD was awesome.......but my 3 and 4 year old seemed be possessed. I go to the bathroom, that's not to much to ask, is it? Come out to my whole bedroom covered in baby powder, not just one bottle, but two!!! I put their noses on the wall, clean up this mess, when I'm done cleaning (not including the laundry from my bed) I let them off the wall. Well I decided to do dishes, turn around and they have gotten into my bobbins for my sewing machine, and have the thread around all the kitchen chairs.....I couldn't believe it. (I was in the same room, but the chairs were behind me) It took me almost an hour to cut off all the thread from the chairs and find all the bobbins, while I did this I sent the girls to their beds. All is fine for an hour or two till it's time to cook dinner, in the middle of dinner and my 4 year old brings my oldest DD and bouquet of flowers......(they were sitting down watching a move nicely whenever I checked on them) Well I discovered it came from a floral arrangement hanging above my bed that was giving to DH and I when we got married. Which since we eloped was the only thing we have from our "wedding" day. I couldn't believe it.....I ended up calling my best friend to come over (DH is away for training) to talk to the girls while I cleaned up and calmed down.....I really was feeling like a lousy mom....I mean I check on my kids constantly when they are not in the same room with me, but obviously this didn't matter......Do you ever have days where you feel like you deserve the worse mother of the year award?

Sorry so long....

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Honey, you definitely aren't a bad mom -- you shouldn't even feel like a bad mom!!! It was your kids who were acting like little brats. Sounds like they got on your 'last nerve'!! And you had every right to be upset at them. Instead of putting their little noses to the wall, their little butts should have been in that bedroom helping to clean up the mess they made!!

Sometimes you just wonder what their minds are thinking. You took them out for a great time of sun and fun and then they go do something like that. You definitely shouldn't feel like a bad mom!! I think it was a good idea to call your friend over to come help you out. Hope today will be better.

(((HUGS)))

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"GO HOKIES!"

Yep, I feel that way a lot. But it's not you it's not your kiddies. It's summertime and the kids get bored. Mother Nature then came into the picture and messed up this wonderful day that you had started. When the clouds roll in here my kids get crazy. They are like caged animals. Sounds like you need a Mommy Day.

Find a friend to babysit for the entire day and then find something to do. Stay away from the house as long as you can and enjoy it. Find someone you really trust because on Mommy Days you are not allowed to call home. You can only do for yourself. If you go shopping you cannot buy anything for the kids or anyone else in your family.

So what day are you planning your Mommy Day?

Trust me I have to do this at least once a month and I think it makes me a better Mommy.

Thanks guys....yesterday was just one of those days.....I guess I get really sensitive when things seem to get out of control because I always hear all bad comments in my head that people have made to me over the years about being irresponsible as parent because we had too many kids.......

I will definitely talk to my best friend about taking the kids for at least a couple hours one day....just for some me time....I haven't had that in so long........

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"You can never really pay back. You can only pay forward."

Wayne Woodrow “Woody” Hayes

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oh I can feel your devastation .. I can so feel your devastation.. especially about your wedding flowers.. I eloped too .. I've have days like that all the time.. especially with boys!

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Uck, sounds like an awful day for you! I can understand your frustration; it seems like I am always cleaning up one mess, just to turn around to find another one. Try not to beat them-lol.....

As far as me, yup, yesterday I felt like the worst mom in the world. We went to Boston for our son's Make-A-Wish. Aside from his whole encounter w/ Tim Wakefield and watching a game, the only other thing that he REALLY wanted to do was take the Fenway Park tour. We had a printout on the tour-seven days a week, every hour on the hour. There were also some dates listed where there were no tours-no mention about this week. We set out Fri. to go do some things, and we just didn't have time to get over to Fenway which was on the other side of town from our other activities. We told Patrick that we would do it on Sat.-that would be our whole focus on Sat. He was pretty annoyed w/ us, but we reassured him that it would happen Sat. (it was our last day in town w/ a 5:45 flight). So.....yesterday a.m., we get up and check out of the hotel and store our bags and head to Fenway. I had DH call to see what the availability was for tours (only same-day sales). I saw DH's face go pale-he redialed the # and had me listen to the msg-NO TOURS TODAY! I was in shock-then I started bawling and felt like such a heel! DH called the representative we met at Fenway on the day of the Make-A-Wish and she made a few calls. Turns out, there was a public event going on at the park, and she called the organizer and he offered us free tix to the event. We met another representative there, and she asked what parts of the park that he had already seen. When he told her, she was in awe, and reassured him that there was no way that the Fenway Park tour could ever measure up to what he had already seen-that she hadn't ever seen half of the things that he had. So, we hit a few places in the park, took some more pics, and told him that we would give him the $$ that we would have spent on the tour to buy more souvenirs ($66). Thankfully, that appeased him. But yeah, that was right up there w/ the worst mom moment!

"Me Time"? I have all but forgotten what this is. You are definitely NOT a bad mother. Some days we are just pushed to our breaking points. I look forward to school starting again(only 31 more days but who's counting? LOL)

Definately not a bad mom! I'm sure we all have those days where we feel like the worst parent in the world - I know I do! It sounds like you handled the situation just fine.

I agree with the other person mentioned having the kids help clean up the mess. I have a 3 year old son (almost 4yo) and I know sometimes it's easier to just clean up yourself, but I think it's a better consequence - you fix the problem you caused...and they learn some cleaning skills.

I really looked forward to school being out and having my 9yo DD home. Well, mother nature decided we'd have lots of rain down here in TX instead of our sweltering hot summer so we've been stuck inside a lot. It looks like that's about to change so hopefully we can get outside more. Texas is making all the schools get on the same calendar so our kids actually have 3 full months of summer this year. They got out on May 25th and go back August 27th. Thank goodness I have a girls night out at least once a month...it is a lifesaver.

peapie

How many kids do you have? In my mind, if you are able to live without gioing on welfair (and if you are on it you stop having kids) then you do not have too many kids. If you can afford it, have 30. Do not let any one make you feel bad for having a large family.

As for having a bad day, its your kids, not you. Here it gets too hot during the summer to let the kids go outside and play. They start climbing the walls and HAVE to go outside in the early evening. Kids just have too much energey to spend all day pent up inside the house. I hope today was better for you.

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You laugh at me because I am different,
I laugh at you because you are all the same.

Your mind is like a parachute, it only works when it is open.

Sometimes I feel like a bad mom when I yell too much. I'm really working on it, and things are going great around here. My mom was a yeller, and I don't want to pass it on.

My son got a hold of baby powder when he was 2 and decorated the whole bedroom with it. What a mess. It took forever to clean up. We quietly video taped it -- we didn't want him to think it was funny and do it again -- but it was funny -- at least after it was cleaned up. I can still see those little brown eyes peeking out of a white powdered face and bedroom -- looking at me. There was powder everywhere --even the blinds were covered.

Hopefully he didn't inhale the powder. I still worry about that!!

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