This may seem odd but I need excuses. A little background first My bf lives with his grandmother and the place is a mess (literally, she has boxes upon boxes and piles of stuff everywhere) he moved in with her to help her and told me it looks better now then it did when he got there and there is still alot of work that needs to be done, I go there almost every weekend to help him and her clean however I wont eat there because on more then one occasion she mentioned seeing roaches and besides the kitchen is a mess.. I have this weird thing about me that I will not eat at anyone's house if the kitchen is a mess. My BF understands this so we usually go out and get food it gets exepnsive but i refuse to eat anything from the kitchen. Grandma just called me and told me she feels bad that whenever I am there I don't eat and she wanted to know why and wants to make me a special dinner this weekend. I told her I was on a diet that didnt work she knows I am doing weight watchers cause she found my books i accidently left there and told me i can calculate the points. I didnt know what to tell her because I dont want to hurt her feelings and she has a history of not liking any of the girls her grandsons have dated I am the first one she likes So do any of you have any creative excuses that you think can work?? I was thinking of telling my BF i dont feel good and staying home but to me that sounds like an easy way out.

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First off, let me say that I completely agree with your apprehensions! I am the same way. I also commend you for not wanting to hurt her feelings.

As far as excuses...I had one that popped into my mind that just might do the trick.

Since she knows you're doing Weight Watchers, tell her that you are only eating the frozen meals that they make. This way you can be sure that the food is prepared the way the "diet" is intended. If she pushes the issue, just tell her what I'm "assuming" is the truth...that you've struggled for so long to get to your desired goal weight that you've decided to do it this way and stick to it no matter what.

(By the way, I'm not "assuming" in a bad way...I speak from my own experience from dieting and can attest to being the "excuse queen")

HTH!

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I would use the excuse noted above, however if it is mentioned that you can bring those meals with you to eat "as a family" at her house instead of your own...

you can tell her that you always eat at a certain time AFTER A CERTAIN ACTIVITY so your body is used to that and you don't want to steer away from that.

So even if she says well do your xx activity here and bring your meal with you, etc, you have yet another excuse that sounds legitimate to fall back on.

So... if you would normally "eat" after exercising but right before your shower...that's a good excuse to use.

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I feel the same way about my inlaws house.
This is what I do- I just arrive with a bag of groceries and announce " I would love to cook dinner for you/with you" And bringing the groceries myself and scrubbing the pots/plates/utensils etc I'm using all on my own so I can be sure of the cleanliness factor

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I feel the same way about my MIL's house. Unfortunately, I was only able to have excuses and workarounds for so long and then it had to come out in the open. I just can't eat there at all...with the cats that roam over the countertops and the dog messes on the floor. It just makes me sick to my stomach. It helps that she knows that I am not an animal person, so maybe she didn't take it too personally. Sad thing is, that the whole extended family feels this way and she knows it, but won't do anything to clean up and/or control the animals. Nobody goes there anymore...

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Can you tell her you have to work this weekend? You got called away for a family emergency? You suddenly cought a viral bug or have a really upset stomach?

What an awkward position to be in.

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I like what the poster above said about doing Weight Watchers and only being able to eat their frozen meals...I'd stick with that one for now anyway... ~Lisa

We have the same MIL!! All I can say is YUCK!

Most of the time we eat at our inlaws, they cook on the grill outside, how about having a cookout? You could bring ready made salads and some burgers? Along with paper plates and plastic forks.

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Sounds like my EX MIL.....UGHHH I remember visiting her and the whole week we were there I got take out or went out to eat. I stuck it out the week though!! Ex's current wife I guess when they went they left the next day because she couldn't stand it...(ex mil still talks bad about that visit!!)

I say go with the first response above!

And if she keeps trying to find a way around it, keep apologizing, and throw out lots of self-depricating comments, such as "I know it seems crazy - most people have a hard time understanding my little food issues...' and continue saying similar things.

You will have accomplished saving her feelings, which is half the goal, while maintaining your standards, which are keeping you sane!! So what if she things you're somewhat neurotic- it's better than the alternative (that she becomes hurt by the truth).

Good luck!
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Is she set on you eating there? If not maybe you could go with inviting her out to dinner. That way you are all having dinner together. Maybe she won't catch on that the problem is her house.

BTW, I have only eaten at my MIL house once in 17 years. I just can't do it, it just doesn't look clean. So I know how you feel.

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