Nasty, snarky, bitter people...you know the kind....never happy, always wanting to find fault or an ulterior motive in everything, needing to be the center of everything.

What makes people this way? How do you deal with them?

Any quick comebacks to cut the nastiness off at the pass?


cj/

how do I deal with them? I get them the heck out of my life! Honestly, getting toxic people like that our of your life is one of the best things you can do.

I don't know what makes people that way. Most have a TON of excuses (ie: reasons) for their behavior but I personally feel that you can choose to change and be different

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Proud to say I haven't shopped at a Wal-Mart since Sept 2003

Mostly, I try to ignore them and move on, esp. if they live in my computer.

I think that for some people, making someone else feel like they are less, have less, or know less, makes them feel better about themselves.


Darlene

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Sell crazy some place else, we are all stocked up here.

I try to avoid them and get them out of my life. Some people thrive on making others feel like they know everything and want to cut them down. Guess that some people's goal in life. Usually when people are like that, they have no self esteem themselves and that makes them feel better. When it's someone on the computer, being snarky and know-it-all usually tells me they're the same way in life and they probably don't have many friends.

op those people are energy vampires suck suck suck your energy.. just say no! kick 'em to the curb i say

energy vampires - i like it!

it just seems like there's so many of these people any more.... i have a couple that work for me .... ugh...for those energy vampires is a perfect term!! i run into these kind of people when out shopping....and some of them are very nasty to my DS1 when he's at work (retail) - quit being mean to my baby boy!! and well, they are just everywhere.....

i just want to say to them: the glass is either half full or half empty - the choice is up to you!!

Nasty people I have to deal with I am sugary sweet to them! It just kills them!

SOme people are just miserable and want the rest of us to be brought down too, like my inlaws. My SIL is something else and I just stay away from her, the MIL is the same way, she always has a puss on her face.

I try to be around pleasant people, who I can have fun with, joke with (big joker here) and who lift me up, not knock me down and who I can do that for too. If I don't have a smile or good feeling after talking on the phone with someone or visiting then I shouldn't have wasted my time with them.

I do feel sorry for them, because they go through life missing all of the good stuff right in front of them by dwelling on the negative.

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"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer

That's what I do too!!! I always tell my sister, when she asks "well what would you do" I would kill them with kindness.

I do that as well but, I certainly do not make it a habit to hang around with toxic people -- it takes a LOT of effort to be sugary sweet to people like this.

I have some very close relatives on my mom's side (my mom being one of them!) that are like this. I have to keep everything to a bare minimum with them. It is more of a protective instinct for me.

I get especially protective if someone disrespects my KIDS... OH MY!!!

It's just not in my character to be sugary sweet to people who are like this. (OK, OK, it's just not in my character to be sugary sweet to anyone...LOL) I WANT to fight back....I WANT to show them what a-holes they are being....LOL Most of the time, especially at work, I try to use humor to diffuse tense situations and nastiness....usually if I can get a laugh, it breaks it down a little...

I do think that some people are not happy unless they are causing problems or making waves or hurting someone else. It's very sad and I feel sorry for people like this.

cj/

My MIL was saying mean things about me at her job a few years ago and a friend told me about it, well, I had enough! I wrote her an email, I could NOT get the nerve to call her, DH read it and ever since things have been different. I think the relationship between us might be a little better, she sees how unfair she was to me and her son. BUT she also forwarded my letter to my SIL and she still won't talk to me to this day, and it's been about 3 years.

So confronting nasty people has it's consequesces too, sometimes it opens their eyes, but only if they allow it. We were invited to a party this weekend at my SIL's for her kids and I honestly don't want to go, she doesn't even look at me.

I would NOT do anything at work, my friend that my MIL works with is still paying the price.

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"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer

My DSister is the MASTER of this. She is a wonderful, positive person, but goes into ULTRA wonderful and positive around people like this. Makes thes look stupid and tends to make them less "snarky" (LOVE that word!!!)

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Nutella,....
proving some of the best things in life come in a jar.

MHO : Television.

Have you ever noticed most shows are portraying people always out to be the best no matter who they step on. And every family show is about some "funny" family putting each other down...you always have to have the last laugh. And for some reason a lot of people think that "They" deserve the very best of everything and should be treated like a moviestar or something.

Remember that saying "you are what you eat"


YOU are what you WATCH, READ, etc.