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08-01-2007, 01:21 PM
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 What Happened to the Thread with the Poster Needing Help..?
This morning I had just started reading the post about the lady who needed help about what to do about a guy situation and it was getting interesting, and I had to leave and thought I'd come back now and finish it, BUT IT'S GONE!!! OK. Is it here but I'm not looking hard enough? What's up with these posts disappearing? Or being locked so much lately?  Gosh, does everything have to be so PC???
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08-01-2007, 01:47 PM
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Around here....apparently it does.
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08-01-2007, 01:49 PM
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| I figure the original poster deleted the thread.
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08-01-2007, 01:49 PM
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Sorry, but there's a difference between being PC and being opinionated. As of earlier today, I did not see anything that wasn't PC. I wonder if the original poster didn't choose to delete this herself. Addison? |
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08-01-2007, 01:58 PM
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BTW, the poster requested that Addison delete it for her. I got PM'd on it. |
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08-01-2007, 02:14 PM
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Ok this might sound a little wrong but it is no way intended to be that way, but when someone asks for advice do they really want advice or sympathy? People have to understand no matter what you post here there is ALWAYS going to be someone that disagrees and ALWAYS someone that is going to give you an opinion and not sugar coat it. If you don't want advice then don't ask for it, if you want someone that has been in the same situation then say so, you can't turn around and get mad for what you asked for. JMHO!! |
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08-01-2007, 02:47 PM
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Remember that each poster has the ability to edit their own posts. I am sure there are some that are getting ripped for what they said so they edit/delete what was said and all that remains is what got quoted further down the line. And OPs have the ability to delete their own posts which deletes the entire thread. And threads lock after 50 posts on their own...a heated debated thread will be locked once it hits 50 and then you have to create a spin-off or continue in another thread. Lighten up girls...I am sure the mods around here have better things to do than sit around with their fingers hovering over the delete key.
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08-01-2007, 03:13 PM
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Let's all play nice or go find somwhere else to play the way you want to play. cj/ |
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08-01-2007, 03:42 PM
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Lighten up? I do know if it is possible to get much "lighter" around here. I've found it to be very bland here lately - the topics seem to be watered down - people seem to be holding back. |
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08-01-2007, 03:52 PM
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Well, because we have free speech, of course!  But seriously, was trying to find out what real people (not models and porn stars) took care of these sorts of things, how much they pay for it, where they get it done, and products/tips. I'm sorry it was so troublesome to you.....did you ask to have it deleted??? cj/ By the way, this post is in response to a post by AllinAugust as to why I posted that topic .... she or a mod apparently deleted it. Don't want to look like I'm talking to myself.... Last edited by cjs216; 08-01-2007 at 04:05 PM. |
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08-01-2007, 03:54 PM
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08-01-2007, 04:14 PM
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Nope, another fine example of FREE Speech here. I didn't delete/edit ANYTHING. Ok, I get it.....
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08-01-2007, 04:21 PM
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BUt, we are all suppose to be adults here. If I read something that offends me, I have a few options-- 1) I don't read that post again. If it's not for me, I can move on (I don't need any one else's subscription, I have plenty of issues on my own!) 2) I can post asking for clarification of what a person meant and explain that their post can be/is being construed as offensive (when so many times that was not the poster intent) 3) I can IM/email the poster and ask them what they mean (see #2). The only time I will notify the mod is if a person is spamming the forums or is trying to get referrals (outside of the referral board), or if a post is in the wrong place (asking for a recipe on the LWIF board instead of the Cooking board kind of thing. We do have free speech. And I will defend everyone's right to voice their opinion--No matter how stupid their opinion may be, or how different it may be from mine, or even if their opinion is offensive to some. Either grow up and learn to behave like an adult on a public message board, or go find somewhere that you feel welcome at that is more of a private message board. There are too many people here to have to worry about EACH and EVERY post pleasing (or NOT OFFENDING) each and every poster!
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08-01-2007, 04:21 PM
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LOL Cjs! I seriously thought you were talking to yourself or something! LOL but after reading it as it stands now, you can tell a moderator deleted AIA's post, so that the rest of it made no sense whatsoever. reminds me of YFB
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08-01-2007, 04:25 PM
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 I'm about as grown up and adult as they come. cj/ |
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08-01-2007, 04:26 PM
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Marilynk, You said it very well and I totally agree with you. And, if I didnt, I probably would have been able to disagree with you... without running to tell someone, or telling you off for having a different opinion. Darlene
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08-01-2007, 04:42 PM
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08-01-2007, 04:59 PM
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 What I'm having trouble with is why the same few who keep trying to pimp another place just don't head on out. If it's so hot n' happenin' there, why not feel free to STAY? Sticking around just to put in a few jabs at MC once in a while can't be all THAT fulfilling. Then again, I've never been that way, I wouldn't know, maybe it is. Folks should just GO if they're going to, adios, good riddance and don't let the door smack ya on the way out! Plenty enough good folks around here as it is. I wonder if common sense is really all that common? |
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08-01-2007, 05:11 PM
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I am a member of several different boards--all of which serve a different purpose (more or less). I don't think I should have to give up one of those boards because of friction between board A and board B. Maybe if MC lightened up a bit, and grasped the concept that without ALL of their members they have no board then things would go a bit smoother. You can't please all the the people all the time. And if you alienate one group to please another--then you are setting yourself for some pretty nasty times. Happened once before with the whole clover thing--how many members did MC lose over that??
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08-01-2007, 05:26 PM
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And....... who lives in a pineapple under the sea?
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08-01-2007, 05:39 PM
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SpongeBob Squarepants!
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08-01-2007, 05:41 PM
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You can't please all the people all the time. Since I joined this board a few years back, this place has never been a free-for-all in regards to conversations. I accepted that. If I wanted something different, I'd go somewhere else. Isn't that the most basic and simple for ALL involved? Man, sometimes it's all I can do not to just say "Here's your sign...." (Bill Engvall fans will know that one.) If you don't like the rules and ways of a board, find one you do like. (general you). I personally think that it's all about stirring up crap and then pumping each other up with big hoorahs on the other board in regards to who did what. Whoever stirs up more is queen for a day or something, I don't know. Point being, if all the noise were JUST about not liking the way things are done here, folks would find another place to be. Unfortunately, it's about bitterness and grudges and tantrums. (And people are teaching their children NOT to do these things? Huh, go figure.) There's just absolutely NO excuse for staying at ANY board if you really don't like it. Period. |
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08-01-2007, 05:42 PM
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And Marilyn, I completely understand what you are saying. I'm worn out by all of this. I wish some users would make a decision one way or the other and not run back and forth. It's getting old. |
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08-01-2007, 05:49 PM
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[quote=Cuthie;2849794]Absorbent and yellow and porous is he! SPONGE BOB SQUARE PANTS!!! |
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08-01-2007, 05:57 PM
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Okay...I have to say something! LOL! I agree with the poster that said all you have to do is ignore the post if you don't like it. Didn't someone say that? OMG--I am talking to myself, TOO. Really, I, like most of us here, try to be a pretty balanced person. I do want to know about the average electricity bill and what people are doing on the weekend...but I am also interested in people's opinions of the presidential hopefuls and "who shaves down there." We are adult women. It's nice to have a place where we can talk to other adult women about their concerns (gas prices, menopause, etc...). I think we can self-edit by just ignoring a post if it is offensive to us. Just my opinion.
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08-01-2007, 06:16 PM
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I like being happy. I just find that life is easier for ME when I am happy.  Am I the only one who likes to be happy? |
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08-01-2007, 06:35 PM
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I like to read the 'hot' topics but might not post often -- I tend to post on more superficial things. It's just the way I've always been. It is a protective instinct that I learned long ago during one of those 'mistakes' that I made in my life (see the other thread regarding 'regrets'!). I don't feel well-versed in politics or those type of discussions and so choose to generally stay out of those conversations. I do enjoy reading them though as sometimes it is the only adult conversation in my life beyond what I share with my DH. I do find the diverse opinions to be interesting to read and think that there are a lot of very intelligent people on these boards!!! It goes downhill for me when people start name-calling and bashing each other... That is what I can not and will not read. It's toxic for me. |
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08-01-2007, 06:36 PM
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Yes, I totally agree with you! I like a good debate. If someone doesn't agree with me, well, then that's the way it is and I love a good debate, argument or whatever it's called. I really don't see the need for censorship. Self-editing is a good idea. If you don't like the post, don't look at it or don't go back to it!! Sometimes things aren't PC because I don't like candy-coating everything when facts are facts. (as in the mall post -- I KNOW what I see when I go to that mall!) OK. This will probably get deleted!! LOL!! |
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08-01-2007, 09:35 PM
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If you don't like the post, and don't feel stirred to reply then don't. However, unless it is outright vile and vulgar, the censorship should be limited. The deletion of posts or editing of posts that have nothing wrong with them just because the moderator doesn't like you is abuse of power. No one said that they hated this board--many of us are longtime members--some of us are LIFETIME members, there was a time in the not too distant past, that the Cafe was known as the YFB--and it WAS a virtual free-for-all. The mods had pets ... those pets could post ANYTHING and get away with it, but if someone else said the exact same thing they were flamed and posts were edited or deleted. So YES, at one time this was a free4all board--rules didn't apply to some people. There was a time before that involved many a moderator and many a member on FC. com--that was a fiasco, and it hurt a LOT of people. Before that was the Clover Wars. So, with each supposed "virtual war" there is new growth, but dang, it sure does revert to old ways quickly. As far as what any other website does, that's another site--not this one. What they do is according to the bylaws that site has established between the site and it's members...don't sit in judgment of it...unless you are bashing another site because you are a member there? If you haven't been there, then how would you really know what happens? so "here's your sign"
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08-01-2007, 09:48 PM
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I love debating about things that interest me and getting different opinions especially if it get going and people get upset. At least its interesting and if you cant take it stay away. I also enjoy the polls and the 3 word stories of Addisons. Just have fun and enjoy it. Dont make it boring I need to stay awake so I can see big brother after dark.
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As far as the YFB, yeah, I know about it. I just don't think it was the free-for-all you think it was. I think it started to turn that way and POOF!! Where is it now, Dreamscapes? Nowhere that I see. Tell you something? Quote:
Clover Wars OY VEY! lol! ANd yet more drama....I don't care what they do there. My POINT is each board has it's rules. If you don't like the rules, see if you can make suggestions or offer comments to work toward a change. If those results STILL don't please you, (general you) MOVE ON! What is so difficult about that concept? As far as I can see it, YOU all have had YOUR say for a mighty long time. (I haven't posted in them very much, so I've already done the "if you don't like it move on" bullcrap.) I've seen many of the hateful posts, the meanness directed at folks who moderate, admin and those that try to defend any of them. I've seen the direct bashing threads at MC and of course, it's always the same ones involved. You all go whoop it up on another board, congratulating each other on your cleverness. As far as I can see, you've HAD a lot of your free speech, even here. Maybe I feel it's time for MINE and I get tired of the same crap, different day. Maybe I'm tired of the 'if you don't like the thread, move on' (I'm sorry, but WHY doesn't that concept apply to the pot-stirrers and MC haters? Oh WAIT, it DOES! ) Just because I look the other way, what does that do? Does the playground bully REALLY go away?I never had a problem following the rules here and I never HAD to get my kicks making threads that were PURPOSEFULLY hateful, rude and nasty to the moderators and owners of this board. Maybe I'm sick of this behavior and I'm sorry, I can't read every single post before I enter a thread. This has been going on for ages and I have MY RIGHTS to speak up. Don't like it? Too bad. I like this board, I don't want to see it go because of INANE threads over oh-so-carefully-worded rum, or "I HATE THE REP SYSTEM!" Good LORD, are those little numbers and green lights THAT much of a panty-yanker? GEEZUS I wish that was the biggest problem of MY day. As far as I'm concerned, I've done the whole "ignoring" routine many times. Nothing changed, so I figure if you can get in YOUR free speech allll this time on how you feel about this place, I can get in some "free speech" too. |
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08-01-2007, 10:31 PM
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AMEN, Mallerie! BTW, does anyone else think the timing of this latest "discontent" came directly AFTER our MC unveiled her identity?? Pretty interesting, no? I didn't read ONE complaint about the moderating here until people had an "identity" to put with the MC.Hang in there, MC! You're doing great. Last edited by devinmom; 08-01-2007 at 11:03 PM. |
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08-01-2007, 11:09 PM
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08-01-2007, 11:20 PM
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The rest...blah diddly blah. This will be 47....Go 50 go 50 go 50 go!!! |
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